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Nilou-Foster Public Chat Channel
Date: October 22, 2022
AmateurPub
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Nilou-Foster Public Chat Channel
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Nothing. It's the wrong girl. She's unkind.
This woman is 35????
Buddy of mine broke up with his girl after she said she became asexual.
Take that how you will
Wait your babies still in the hospital and he's doing this? Tf.
I thought the baby was out of the hospital. This makes it so much worse.
I wouldn't be here if that advice worked
Well, respectful adults typically handle such things by working on whatever feelings they develop individually without destroying relationships.
Years ago I developed a crush on a friend. I was also good friends with their partner.
All I did was step back from them briefly to sort out my feelings. Nothing dramatic, still chatted at work and we all still would hang, just not as frequently. I had to identify where that crush came from: their humor? Where is that humor lacking in my life? Their encouragement? Purely physical? Etc etc.
Never once did I admit my feelings to my friends, never acted on my feelings, and never flirted with my friend. I probably did “light up” around them for a minute, but I really hate cheaters and making other people uncomfortable, so I hope I caught it. If it was ever obvious neither of my friends were immature about it towards me. As my feelings were sorted, I was able to let go of any guilt or shame I felt and focus the areas in my life that I learned weren’t satisfying. Now we are all back to normal, no crush or feelings, and I’m actually closer friends to the partner than before.
Way way long ago a good friend had feelings for another’s BF. I was her confidante & I think she talked it out with me because we had the same values: ie respected other people and their relationships. She didn’t want to act on anything but was really into the bf for awhile. Her way of handling it was just to talk things out with me, sometimes we would gossip over how cute he was but always stayed focused on our friend in the end. We were way younger, so nights out were more frequent and that seems to help more outgoing people.
I think those two examples are fairly common for how an actual adult who is not self-serving would handle that very normal, human situation. We are in a world where feelings/attractions/sexual desires develop but that doesn’t mean we have to act on it all the time.
I know I’m probably not in the right mental state. I want to have hope, I feel so broken 🙁
No he didn’t. Lol.
You won’t marry the mother of your child, she has no reason to beleive you’ll stick around, she doesn’t want her kid saddled with the last name of some dude she used to hook up with and hasn’t seen in years.
Honestly her age is the only factor that is keeping me from thinking she was being manipulative, it might’ve been just an immature and horrendous sense of humor