Whenever I am applying to jobs, I keep a spreadsheet with the job title, description, username/password if there’s a site, date I applied, and any notes about what follow up I/they did. So at any point I can answer the “hey how’s the job search” question with “I’ve applied to x number of jobs since y date. I have heard back from z of them.”
Also- more important than “proving” something to him or anybody. You want a job! Where are you applying? Who do you know? Can you reach out to other people you’ve worked with in the past and see if they have anything? Build value and figure out how to bring value to the job you are applying to! I have a friend with a literature degree who has worked at a bookstore, as a teacher in a private school, and tons of others. Don’t give up because of your degree. Figure out why you are a catch and market yourself to these potential jobs accordingly!
I mean, all that stuff happened 6 years ago. He actually hasn’t said anything about their relationship now for us to know whether or not they’re ready for kids. People grow a lot from 20 to 26
I can understand how to her it can feel a bit controlling. But this isn’t as much about how much you trust her vs the situation.
Your gf could be very loyal, but the guys offering to take her out on a one day party trip aren’t doing it to discuss politics or economic theory with her. They want to fuck her, and giving a young woman (who is thrilled to be out in the big city and celebrating on a yacht partying with her young hot friends) a lot of alcohol and who knows what else is how they intend to do it.
This isn’t really a situation of trusting her as a person. It’s recognizing the situation for what it is and knowing that getting wasted on a boat is a great recipe for getting taken advantage of.
Your conversations have gotten heated and I understand why tensions are high. Maybe try to talk calmly about it and explain your concerns in a different light. “I trust you, but I don’t trust a bunch of young single guys who bring young women out to their yacht to party ( all expenses paid by them). I worry you will be in a situation where your consent or desires will no longer be a factor and I don’t want that to happen to you. It’s not that I think you’ll cheat, it’s that they will get you drunk enough, or even worse spike your drink, and you won’t have a say in the matter.”
you shouldn’t have to explain this.
Whenever I am applying to jobs, I keep a spreadsheet with the job title, description, username/password if there’s a site, date I applied, and any notes about what follow up I/they did. So at any point I can answer the “hey how’s the job search” question with “I’ve applied to x number of jobs since y date. I have heard back from z of them.”
Also- more important than “proving” something to him or anybody. You want a job! Where are you applying? Who do you know? Can you reach out to other people you’ve worked with in the past and see if they have anything? Build value and figure out how to bring value to the job you are applying to! I have a friend with a literature degree who has worked at a bookstore, as a teacher in a private school, and tons of others. Don’t give up because of your degree. Figure out why you are a catch and market yourself to these potential jobs accordingly!
I mean, all that stuff happened 6 years ago. He actually hasn’t said anything about their relationship now for us to know whether or not they’re ready for kids. People grow a lot from 20 to 26
No kids, but I see your point.
There is only one acceptable response when someone tries to get you to do something by threatening to kill themselves: “Do it, pussy.”
I can understand how to her it can feel a bit controlling. But this isn’t as much about how much you trust her vs the situation.
Your gf could be very loyal, but the guys offering to take her out on a one day party trip aren’t doing it to discuss politics or economic theory with her. They want to fuck her, and giving a young woman (who is thrilled to be out in the big city and celebrating on a yacht partying with her young hot friends) a lot of alcohol and who knows what else is how they intend to do it.
This isn’t really a situation of trusting her as a person. It’s recognizing the situation for what it is and knowing that getting wasted on a boat is a great recipe for getting taken advantage of.
Your conversations have gotten heated and I understand why tensions are high. Maybe try to talk calmly about it and explain your concerns in a different light. “I trust you, but I don’t trust a bunch of young single guys who bring young women out to their yacht to party ( all expenses paid by them). I worry you will be in a situation where your consent or desires will no longer be a factor and I don’t want that to happen to you. It’s not that I think you’ll cheat, it’s that they will get you drunk enough, or even worse spike your drink, and you won’t have a say in the matter.”
Never date a coworker esp when they’re almost ten years older than you lol
People have group porn chats?? Why would someone join that?
And that they asked for your nudes? Thats disgusting.
This would probably be a deal breaker for me.