Hah. My ex-boyfriend grew up in Switzerland and he was always telling me how much Swiss people hate everyone and there are just some things people do in America that you just cannot do in Switzerland and how much American and English people bother them especially. There is a good chance this is cultural and snobbery, iciness. Guys tend not to think about these things the way girls do. My guess is she’ll come around. He has been friends with her for 12 years? He can’t just stop being friends with her, right? She is part of the group? Do you get along with everyone else?
Unless you have experienced this sort of behaviour first hand, you'll know it's not as easy as it seems. There are literally subreddits dedicated to parents like this.
I guess my question is – how likely is it that he will actually cheat? I just dont understand him. Why throw away 10+ years for some potential pussy? Why is that more important to him than me, who has supported him through a multitude of issues throughout the years?
The only person who can actually answer the questions you have is him. And in a way, he already answered one of them. He said that if given the chance, he would cheat. That leaves the likelihood pretty high in my opinion. He didn't beat around the bush and say maybe, he said that he would in fact cheat if given the chance. Which is gross.
You know the last person who I heard say that was? The 52 year old who groomed me when I was 14. He told me after 2 years of lying about how I was the only one for him, that he would indeed cheat on me if he had the chance and that it was silly of 16 year old me to expect him to wait until I got to FL after turning 18. That was what made me decide to leave him, because at that point I knew the 'relationship' was over.
It's hot leaving, especially since you guys had a long time together and you're living together. But when he said that to you- did that not feel like the end of the relationship? Is cheating not a deal breaker? And even if he comes back from this trip and acts like everything's normal, are you going to believe he didn't cheat? What if he even tells you he didnt- would you still believe him? Can you actually stay in that relationship comfortably if there's paranoia about whether he did or didn't?
For me, hearing that meant I no longer could trust the man and wouldn't be able to believe a word he said. I'd always be paranoid about if he was lying or ommiting the truth about cheating. Relationships need trust to work, and just like my groomer broke my trust with that statement, it sounds like your boyfriend did the same – even if you say you don't NOT trust him.
Oh I’m well aware. It’s just the way OP is so passive and oblivious. That’s why I made my comment. Where were her parents for this? I hope it’s a fake post. If not, it’s sick and a borderline hostage situation.
Just tell him and say what you just said.. it’s 100% yours. Say if he wants you’ll do a paternity test no questions asked. Boom case closed. What other answer is there? It CAN and DOES happen obviously.
Hah. My ex-boyfriend grew up in Switzerland and he was always telling me how much Swiss people hate everyone and there are just some things people do in America that you just cannot do in Switzerland and how much American and English people bother them especially. There is a good chance this is cultural and snobbery, iciness. Guys tend not to think about these things the way girls do. My guess is she’ll come around. He has been friends with her for 12 years? He can’t just stop being friends with her, right? She is part of the group? Do you get along with everyone else?
Unless you have experienced this sort of behaviour first hand, you'll know it's not as easy as it seems. There are literally subreddits dedicated to parents like this.
Wife may want your child to love the game and realizes that you are going to bash her for it.
I guess my question is – how likely is it that he will actually cheat? I just dont understand him. Why throw away 10+ years for some potential pussy? Why is that more important to him than me, who has supported him through a multitude of issues throughout the years?
The only person who can actually answer the questions you have is him. And in a way, he already answered one of them. He said that if given the chance, he would cheat. That leaves the likelihood pretty high in my opinion. He didn't beat around the bush and say maybe, he said that he would in fact cheat if given the chance. Which is gross.
You know the last person who I heard say that was? The 52 year old who groomed me when I was 14. He told me after 2 years of lying about how I was the only one for him, that he would indeed cheat on me if he had the chance and that it was silly of 16 year old me to expect him to wait until I got to FL after turning 18. That was what made me decide to leave him, because at that point I knew the 'relationship' was over.
It's hot leaving, especially since you guys had a long time together and you're living together. But when he said that to you- did that not feel like the end of the relationship? Is cheating not a deal breaker? And even if he comes back from this trip and acts like everything's normal, are you going to believe he didn't cheat? What if he even tells you he didnt- would you still believe him? Can you actually stay in that relationship comfortably if there's paranoia about whether he did or didn't?
For me, hearing that meant I no longer could trust the man and wouldn't be able to believe a word he said. I'd always be paranoid about if he was lying or ommiting the truth about cheating. Relationships need trust to work, and just like my groomer broke my trust with that statement, it sounds like your boyfriend did the same – even if you say you don't NOT trust him.
Oh I’m well aware. It’s just the way OP is so passive and oblivious. That’s why I made my comment. Where were her parents for this? I hope it’s a fake post. If not, it’s sick and a borderline hostage situation.
He's an ungrateful POS, end of story.
Her skin gets really dry after and doesn't really like using a lot of lotions.
Just tell him and say what you just said.. it’s 100% yours. Say if he wants you’ll do a paternity test no questions asked. Boom case closed. What other answer is there? It CAN and DOES happen obviously.
Maybe the weight of being a groomer has finally set it and wants to distance himself from the teenager he's dating….