you're not into it. she's flip flopping on breaking up and it looks like she's trying to push you to leave so she doesn't have to be the one to end it.
honestly ask yourself what you want, and determine if it includes her, including how she's been behaving.
How long has your SO been sexting? Have they put a lot of time/effort into hiding their activity from you? That would suggest they knew you would not be okay with it. Now that you’ve found out, have they invited you to sit in so that you can see how totally-not-cheating it is for them? I’m guessing that’s a “no.”
Some people feel that sexting doesn’t count as “real” sex, and that as long as they’re discreet and they never plan to meet the other person then there’s no harm done. Others strongly disagree. If you two haven’t previously discussed your opinions about things like sexting with an actual human on the other end, sexting with an AI, consuming pre-recorded porn etc, and you’re just now finding out that you’re not on the same page, you’re overdue to clear the air.
Ok, if you both split up after you have the baby how are you going to support the baby and ensure it doesn't grow up in poverty? You mentioned school/college whatever.
He might be ready to have a baby, but he's a lot older than you and in a different headspace. You haven't gotten there yet, you know you can't just half arse having a kid.
If your kid is born disabled, can you afford childcare, medical expenses and are you mentally resiliant enough to carry on with your education? Because you can't expect him to give up his career in that situation.
You need to plan for the worst when you have a baby. Because people have babies then realise that actually they ignored all the issues they had when it was just them.
Yes. When you’re in love, you don’t even think about cheating. Honestly and actually
you're not into it. she's flip flopping on breaking up and it looks like she's trying to push you to leave so she doesn't have to be the one to end it.
honestly ask yourself what you want, and determine if it includes her, including how she's been behaving.
Textbook gaslighting. You’re not crazy; he’s just manipulative and a liar.
She's actually the main reason he's being considered for termination since she started the fire with the original post.
But people like that will blame others for their own personal faults.
How long has your SO been sexting? Have they put a lot of time/effort into hiding their activity from you? That would suggest they knew you would not be okay with it. Now that you’ve found out, have they invited you to sit in so that you can see how totally-not-cheating it is for them? I’m guessing that’s a “no.”
Some people feel that sexting doesn’t count as “real” sex, and that as long as they’re discreet and they never plan to meet the other person then there’s no harm done. Others strongly disagree. If you two haven’t previously discussed your opinions about things like sexting with an actual human on the other end, sexting with an AI, consuming pre-recorded porn etc, and you’re just now finding out that you’re not on the same page, you’re overdue to clear the air.
Ok, if you both split up after you have the baby how are you going to support the baby and ensure it doesn't grow up in poverty? You mentioned school/college whatever.
He might be ready to have a baby, but he's a lot older than you and in a different headspace. You haven't gotten there yet, you know you can't just half arse having a kid.
If your kid is born disabled, can you afford childcare, medical expenses and are you mentally resiliant enough to carry on with your education? Because you can't expect him to give up his career in that situation.
You need to plan for the worst when you have a baby. Because people have babies then realise that actually they ignored all the issues they had when it was just them.
The universe is showing you your future with her.