OP talks about doing just that in her comments and not getting the same energy back.
And it’s not about seduction in the sense that you have to retry to win your partner over every single time. It’s about continuing effort. Relationships are continuous work and she wants the same amount she is putting in.
That’s not high maintenance. That’s just the basics of an adult relationship. You ideally should get what you put into it.
Like, if you fill your car up with gas and it only goes six miles before hitting empty, you’d be pretty upset right? It’s not the best metaphor but it gets the general point across.
He doesn't get to decide how you feel. Besides, talking about the future together, sweet nothingness and love yous is cheating in plenty of people's books.
The thing is, seens like he doesnt feel safe to be himself around you anymore, like if anytime he relax a bit and go back to be his old self (spending some money with himself, do a less amount of chores, eat the junk food he likes, being more emotionally open to you, being a goofy guy around the closest ones), you and everybody will leave him, and the reason he is like that with everybody is because when you gave him the ultimatum, EVERYONE, his family, friends, everyone sided with you, so he basically dont feel safe to be himself with anyone, because he think once he do that he will be left you like you said you would do.
I know that you want him to be happy and to do think he likes, but will not be easy to make him feel confortable enough be be himself around you once again, talk with his counselor about this and his help.
She mentioned about his wealth. That makes sense.
I’m so tired. What the fuck does this mean ?
He thinks he'll be more respected… working retail?
Sorry, that sucks man. But you handled it well and did the right thing for yourself. Keep doing that. She messed up.
OP talks about doing just that in her comments and not getting the same energy back.
And it’s not about seduction in the sense that you have to retry to win your partner over every single time. It’s about continuing effort. Relationships are continuous work and she wants the same amount she is putting in.
That’s not high maintenance. That’s just the basics of an adult relationship. You ideally should get what you put into it.
Like, if you fill your car up with gas and it only goes six miles before hitting empty, you’d be pretty upset right? It’s not the best metaphor but it gets the general point across.
Change your passwords on everything right. now.
He doesn't get to decide how you feel. Besides, talking about the future together, sweet nothingness and love yous is cheating in plenty of people's books.
Don't settle for this
He still said it, thought it.
The thing is, seens like he doesnt feel safe to be himself around you anymore, like if anytime he relax a bit and go back to be his old self (spending some money with himself, do a less amount of chores, eat the junk food he likes, being more emotionally open to you, being a goofy guy around the closest ones), you and everybody will leave him, and the reason he is like that with everybody is because when you gave him the ultimatum, EVERYONE, his family, friends, everyone sided with you, so he basically dont feel safe to be himself with anyone, because he think once he do that he will be left you like you said you would do.
I know that you want him to be happy and to do think he likes, but will not be easy to make him feel confortable enough be be himself around you once again, talk with his counselor about this and his help.