You've already admitted you knew he wasn't on board, but here you are, years later, upset and surprised his mind hasn't changed and you're calling it a wound.
Saying he'd be okay with it isn't a very strong confirmation, and really, it sounds like he just said it to get you off his back.
You're not wrong for wanting it. He's not wrong for not wanting it. But those are incompatible points of view. It's not sustainable as-is.
So you're choices are: keep hounding him until he capitulates but never “really”wants it, resign yourself to the fact that if you stay with him you'll never be a wife, or leave him and find someone who'll put a ring on it.
He will be over his sadness in a few short weeks while you'll be dealing with pregnancy, delivery, childcare and motherhood for the rest of your life. These two things are not equal. You aren't ready. Keep your plan and try when timing is better for you.
Forcing your partner to do anything often ends badly.
You've already admitted you knew he wasn't on board, but here you are, years later, upset and surprised his mind hasn't changed and you're calling it a wound.
Saying he'd be okay with it isn't a very strong confirmation, and really, it sounds like he just said it to get you off his back.
You're not wrong for wanting it. He's not wrong for not wanting it. But those are incompatible points of view. It's not sustainable as-is.
So you're choices are: keep hounding him until he capitulates but never “really”wants it, resign yourself to the fact that if you stay with him you'll never be a wife, or leave him and find someone who'll put a ring on it.
Simple answer…
He will be over his sadness in a few short weeks while you'll be dealing with pregnancy, delivery, childcare and motherhood for the rest of your life. These two things are not equal. You aren't ready. Keep your plan and try when timing is better for you.