I don’t think she’s harming the baby. He would be comforted by suckling, just like a pacifier, with the added benefit of an oxytocin boost to both baby and mom. Babies aren’t empty vessels, he would learn pretty quickly which boobs give milk and which ones only give love and attention.
The real issue is the lying/hiding/name calling. And OP really needs to figure out what she actually finds bothersome about it, assuming it’s not just the deceit.
Stop talking to Polly. Don’t call her, visit her, make plans with her. Nothing. It NEVER ends well. Stop it. This isn’t a great mystery – stop putting yourself at her mercy. Stop.
Legally if you're not married she's not entitled to anything
You just had to stop writing after this. This is all that matters.
That or his angry outbursts just make him seem that way the rest of the time by comparison.
I don’t think she’s harming the baby. He would be comforted by suckling, just like a pacifier, with the added benefit of an oxytocin boost to both baby and mom. Babies aren’t empty vessels, he would learn pretty quickly which boobs give milk and which ones only give love and attention.
The real issue is the lying/hiding/name calling. And OP really needs to figure out what she actually finds bothersome about it, assuming it’s not just the deceit.
Time limit is important to prevent you from being stuck in a limbo.
The feeling is quite natural. Ask yourself, if he was single, would you want something short term or long term with him?
Stop talking to Polly. Don’t call her, visit her, make plans with her. Nothing. It NEVER ends well. Stop it. This isn’t a great mystery – stop putting yourself at her mercy. Stop.