She has a couple other friends she goes to shows and concerts with. She’s expressed before that she really likes sharing that experience with me specifically because, well, I’m her favorite person. And she’s mine.
But she knows that when we do that it’s me making a specific intentional act for her benefit,
This is exactly the type of man who will cheat, then tell his partner it was only because he can't do dirty things with someone he loves because they need to be “pure”.
Wait, he was maybe roofied, almost certainly raped, and the advice is “Don't be careless next time”?
Sorry, I can't agree with this or the top comment's advice. He couldn't consent and didn't set out to cheat and may have been roofie'd. Then there was the “pregnancy” scare and the “ring” giveaway.
There's no reason he shouldn't figure out what REALLY happened, document things, and then try to reach out to his ex. It may not go anywhere, but it sounds like OP, like most commenters, assumed because he's a man he couldn't get raped. Yeah, it's rare, yeah it's not exactly the same, but in this situation, there's no reason for his entire life and relationship to implode.
/u/throwra947576 — This reeks of rape. Was it? Maybe, maybe not. Collect the facts (talk to friends and people who were at the party!), lay the facts out in a concise and clean fashion for your ex, in written form, then get it to her and let her decide. Cut Abc out of your life.
She reported feeling achey.
Ask your family or friends for help. Or a women's right group.
You need help asap.
She has a couple other friends she goes to shows and concerts with. She’s expressed before that she really likes sharing that experience with me specifically because, well, I’m her favorite person. And she’s mine.
But she knows that when we do that it’s me making a specific intentional act for her benefit,
This is exactly the type of man who will cheat, then tell his partner it was only because he can't do dirty things with someone he loves because they need to be “pure”.
Wait, he was maybe roofied, almost certainly raped, and the advice is “Don't be careless next time”?
Sorry, I can't agree with this or the top comment's advice. He couldn't consent and didn't set out to cheat and may have been roofie'd. Then there was the “pregnancy” scare and the “ring” giveaway.
There's no reason he shouldn't figure out what REALLY happened, document things, and then try to reach out to his ex. It may not go anywhere, but it sounds like OP, like most commenters, assumed because he's a man he couldn't get raped. Yeah, it's rare, yeah it's not exactly the same, but in this situation, there's no reason for his entire life and relationship to implode.
/u/throwra947576 — This reeks of rape. Was it? Maybe, maybe not. Collect the facts (talk to friends and people who were at the party!), lay the facts out in a concise and clean fashion for your ex, in written form, then get it to her and let her decide. Cut Abc out of your life.