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Date: October 22, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
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His “punishment” is controlling and extremely degrading towards you
Then his actions are 100% reasonable and you shouldn't be hurt or offended. Why are you posting again?
Oh, you definitely want the prenup and postnup. Yes, you marry mostly for the feelings, but it's much easier if you're prepared for the fallout even if it never happens. This goes for you as well, not only him.
However, you need a good lawyer to advocate for you as well. The agreements should protect both parties equally and it's very unlikely at this point. The lawyers need to fight it out.
Where in here did it say she wouldnt get therapy? Chances are she probably hasnt even thought of it at that point because nothing triggered her trauma before. I absolutely do agree she should get therapy and I hope she can get over herself because OP did absolutely nothing wrong. NO ONE IS THE ASSHOLE HERE.
This doesn't sound innocent at all. I’d get rid of both him and your sister. Sorry OP ?
Based on the information you provided, I don't think this has anything to do with the genders of the people involved.
You seem to recognize that you are sacrificing quality time with your family to work the hours that you do and that it is having noticeable consequences (your son calling 27M “Dada”). You're taking your guilt out on these people in various ways, such as assuming your wife is talking bad about you because the friend recognized the awkwardness of the situation.
My suggestion is to go through all of your bank statements and credit cards and figure out to the penny what you need to make ends meet in a given month, including with the projected second child. Next, determine whether you can cut any hours and still meet your financial obligations.
If you cannot cut hours and make ends meet, then the discussion you have to have with your wife is whether she would be willing to work after a given amount of time following the second birth so that you can be home more often.
It's admirable you want to bond with your son and to be home for him more often (as well as your second child on the way), but you also need to be mindful of the necessity of your household earnings. In the interim, what about planning weekend activities with your family and/or short vacations?
As for the comment about her not wanting you involved, she probably has a routine that has developed since your son was born and she was not expecting it to change. You need to express yourself in a way that doesn't make her defensive of her own actions or those of her best friend, but rather highlights that you want a closer bond with your son. You might even ask her opinion on how you might achieve that to start the discussion.
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I pity the brother’s family. Unless a different man in his brother’s house I’ll bet those kids and their mother aren’t enjoying his sojourn there very much.
Thank you for commenting, you made this easier for me to understand and you’re right he did think he was going to fix me, he said so himself that he thought i wouldn’t still be needing reassurance by now. I know i’m not the healthiest person right now, and i do have trust issues from the past and so i feel i’m very quick to notice energy’s shifting and inconsistencies and lies. It makes it very hot for me to tell what’s real vs in my head. I was really trusting him up until some minor things came up that reminded me of the same behaviour of my past relationship which began my overthinking with him. Now i feel like i’m a mess and always in my head and stuck on what to do. I love him and want to be with him and i don’t want to hurt him, i also don’t want to be hurt either. Should i give him some space so he won’t feel tired with me and how do i give him that without completely being distant from him. I want our relationship to work, he’s the only guy i want to be with.