If you really don't want to tell her until she is back say “don't worry about it, we'll talk about it when you're home” and then bust your ass moving the needle forward on dealing with finding a new job and any sort of unemployment or severance.
But you absolutely know what your wife would prefer.
Don't worry about it, I've got it handled and we'll talk more when you're home can also be the message with you losing your job.
Oh, gotcha.
I might reach out 1 more time and see. If he doesn't reply favorably, you'll have your answer. Don't feel rejected unless he actually rejects you
Absolutely don't lie.
If you really don't want to tell her until she is back say “don't worry about it, we'll talk about it when you're home” and then bust your ass moving the needle forward on dealing with finding a new job and any sort of unemployment or severance.
But you absolutely know what your wife would prefer.
Don't worry about it, I've got it handled and we'll talk more when you're home can also be the message with you losing your job.
This is abuse. This is way beyond “trust issues”, you need to break up with him and get out safely.