My husband and son both lied to me. (34f 36m)

I’m 34f husband is 36m we’ve been married for 12 years.

A few weeks ago my husband said that he has seen another woman handle situations that he didn’t think I would be able to. I tried to talk to him about why it bothered me and he just told me it was a passing comment and I shouldn’t take it so seriously. That he had meant to simply compliment her by saying she was handling so much on her own, and he was impressed by it. I told him it was completely unnecessary and hurtful to compare her to me to compliment her. He told me I was being unreasonable and jealous and that he didn’t mean anything by it. After that he didn’t say anything else about it so I dropped it.

Then yesterday when I came home from work and saw a pair of women’s fendi sunglasses on our kitchen island, kind of hidden by our fruit bowl. I picked them up and asked my husband who’s they were. He looked confused and was like aren’t they yours? And I said no…Our older son (11) is sitting at the kitchen table and goes Oh, those are my friend Alison’s. I took them home on accident. I was immediately suspicious. These are very expensive sunglasses and I know Alison’s mother and she doesn’t seem like the type to let her child bring something worth that much money into school. My son kept insisting they were hers and he had just taken them home accidentally on the bus and he’d return them to her tomorrow. But I said no and that I’d return them to her mother in person so I could make sure they got to them safely.

When I spoke to Alison’s mother she confirmed that they weren’t Alison’s, and that neither she nor her daughter owned sunglasses like that. When I told my son and my husband this they both feigned ignorance, my son went from saying that he could’ve sworn they were Alison’s to well maybe not maybe I don’t know who’s they are. And then my husband said that he does remember taking the sunglasses out of our son’s backpack when he was getting out his lunch stuff.

Then my younger son, 9 just came home and recognized the sunglasses. They are Noelles. The woman he helps out sometimes. The one who he told me to “not be upset” that he compared me to her.

I’m going to confront him when he gets home. I don’t know what to say to him. I feel as though I’m going to immediately burst into tears. Can someone please give me advice on what to say? And also just general advice please? I never thought I would be in this situation