Hello I’m sorry if this don’t sound right I’m still so disappointed I feel like I can not breathe but also so furious I want to scream this happened Saturday and I still haven’t slept, I’m not prepared to tell my friends or loved ones but I need to talk or even vent or whatever.
I’m 36 and my husband is 37. We’ve been married for 14 years. 14 years is just a couple of years shy of being over fifty percent my life. It’s definitely most of my adult life. And now he’s just gone.
I had a brother within law, he was thirty-three when he died two years ago, leaving behind a pregnant wife who was 27 during the time, 29 now. It was heartbreaking and she was devastated. I had been so wrapped up within emotions then but when I actually look back more I see it happening so certainly I hate myself for not seeing it. Every time Sammy would cry he’d visit comfort her. When the nephew was born he was the first one to hold him, the first one to say his name in order to him out loud. All things that will say the time seemed fairly sweet like he was getting such good care of his brothers widow but now I am aware that it was more than that and every time she’d call him and he’d go over they were creating a relationship and it was correct in front of my face.
I want to throw up. And he’s talking to me about getting “respectful”. How they won’t move public until after the divorce is finalized. Excellent, so I can pretend he’s not playing happy family with his dead brothers wife while my marriage gets ripped apart by lawyers. He says he’ll let me have the house. Yeah, of course he can. Now that him and Sammy have the complete family acreage why wouldn’t he develop a huge new house on it!! (he’s seriously doing this… I thought our marriage is fine, he was planning out when the ground was going to unfreeze so he could break floor on his new house). Personally i think like throwing up… Almost everything we did for Sammy, all the kindness we demonstrated her, and this is what the lady does.
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Unforgivable. When someone shows you who they are, believe them. Run.
When you're dating, sex is always scheduled. You have to plan for it. It might sound weird, but try scheduling sex. Put it on the calendar and block off time for the act.
Ultrasounds are to check if the baby is healthy and alive not to get pics for the gram. How is he so dumb?
In reading all this, I don't think you are ready to be in a relationship.
this is lacking info, what did you do?
Doesn’t matter if it’s hard. Either you handle your business or you don’t.
You’re lucky, it sounds like she’s left the door open a crack for you. Do everything you can to change if it’s actually important to you. Good luck.
If you are old enough to have a live-in boyfriend, get drunk, and try to put your hand down his pants, then you need to be mature enough to open your mouth and use your words.
This is an outrageous situation that you have both created. There's really no excuse for letting things get this far without having a conversation like two adults.
Did she get herself checked at a hospital? Being choked/strangled can lead to stroke or death via dissected carotid artery days or weeks post incident. She needs to be medically checked out
Just because he's treating you like a princess now, doesn't mean there isn't any wrong… So many people come on here “everything is so wonderful, age doesn't matter, he treats me like a princess BUTTTTT he does not respect me, doesn't listen to me, ignores me, and treats me like a child”
Jordan Peterson: Clean your room.
My father always said a living space is a reflection of somone's mind, so it's definetly a red flag when it comes to dating, you never a crackhead with a clean room.
You seem more focused if he targeted young barely adult women, and less that he cheated on his wife. You're an adulteress and seemingly content at being one.
Stop trying to accommodate her. She has a problem and it’s her being unappreciative and immature.
Can confirm on the disappoint word. Husband gets himself into knots if he thinks he’s disappointed me in any way.
especially because they don't know who the father is.
I appreciate the feedback!
Both really. We fight a lot, but when we don’t fight we laugh and talk and spend time together. I don’t know it’s complicated I know
If she’s 21, she was hardly an adult, senior in high school or college freshman, when the two of you started dating. Good riddance to him.
So is it this easy for everyone to get a great bf?? ??
Feel free to reach out
LOL you don't fucking deserve to get a pat on the back for “atoning for your mistake”.
You broke the trust your girlfriend had in you, didn't even have the balls to confess it, dumped her instead, all of this cause you fucked someone else who then likely lied to you to baby trap you, and then lied again to avoid having to explain why there was no child coming out of her in 6 months.
Frankly, you deserve everything coming your way, and she doesn't deserve having to deal with your bullshit now that she's moved on.
Actually be selfless and have a spine, for once, and leave her the fuck alone.
Get off the cross, we need the wood.