If it didn't work out the last time and you both agreed that your needs were not being met, why do you think it will be different this time if you take it slower?
Your husband has set boundaries around his own home to make sure his mental peace is cared for, I’m confused as to why there needs to be anything more added to this. You keep trying to break his boundary, that’s a red flag and he’s told you he’ll take direct action, again, for his own mental health.
It’s understandable you wanting to help your sister, but your shared home is not a place to do that.
Your choice is either your marriage or your sister (who needs professional help). It’s honestly that simple.
But it's not that's the thing. It's out there for the whole world to see. If you want something with a more privacy, I would strongly recommend an exclusive forum that is blocked from everyone but members only.
I don’t think they meant this situation, I think they were commenting on how the OP said it would be tough seeing them several times a week once they go back to work. That’s the risk-that you have an awkward breakup and then still have to see them.
Hahahhahahha ???? I am SO SORRY that he is so poorly educated in how to pleasure women and so insecure!!! There are smarter men out there, I promise!!!
Doesn’t sound like he loves you. If he did, he would consider learning how to pleasure you. He’s being selfish over his hurt ego.
(It never helps to lie about it though. Reinforces their delusions.)
Hahahhahahha ???? I am SO SORRY that he is so poorly educated in how to pleasure women and so insecure!!! There are smarter men out there, I promise!!!
Doesn’t sound like he loves you. If he did, he would consider learning how to pleasure you. He’s being selfish over his hurt ego.
(It never helps to lie about it though. Reinforces their delusions.)
Whether your right or wrong(the fact sex has stopped still would have me sus)
It doesn't matter…she's wearing the exact things he wants in a public space but not with him
Obviosuly it's her choice at the end of the day but he is reasonable to be bothered by that…100% reasonable to break up with her(but I'd hope he'd sit her down first and say this is what he's considering)
You say it's just about dancing but let's not pretend a large amount of people arnt going there to also hookup, that on top of a shattered sex life woukd have me wondering what's really going on at those raves
Lol, no they don’t. I can assure you that giving a fake number is the only way (sometimes even that doesn’t help as they tend to call immediately after). I’ve tried everything: boyfriend, a fake wedding ring, saying “thank you, but I’m not interested.” Some men simply don’t care.
It's not football. It's his unresolved anger issues and how he manages his hobby. Best thing I ever did was stop watching it live! (except for parties or super bowl) and just watch the highlights on YouTube. A 4+hr game is condensed to 15 min. It opened up my Sundays for everything parent related. I don't know how someone would be able to park there butt for a day to watch football and essentially have their emotional well being invested in a game, something out of their control. I don't know if he is addicted but it's def going way too far.
If I had the same beliefs as her and already been in a relationship for four years already, I definitely wouldn’t change my position on this now. I’d expect you to either propose already or leave already so I could find someone who shares my values.
No one indicated their health didn't matter. Two things can be possible at the same time. From OPs post, there were no truly intimate shares. We need to be realistic and understand that relationships are not always easy. Being human is complex but it doesn't have to be cruel. If the first thing we do when we feel uncomfortable is shut someone down, that isnt helping either of us. Processing things together will always make couples stronger or make them see they aren't suited for long term. Which, is not a bad thing. Society just sold that lie to everyone.
Oof I have so much sympathy for you. I dated a touring musician too and it was hell. I always tell my female friends not to date guys who are in bands unless they have a heart of steel. It's not worth the stress.
This. When I was 27 I got with a guy who was 22/23 and though I knew it was too young I tried to convince myself otherwise and boy was it apparent after talking for a minute lol.
I think for your 40th birthday you should gift yourself with a divorce cause damn your husband don't even think you are valuable enough put effort into a basic ass dinner date.
Yeah. All relationships have flaws. But isolation and verbal abuse should not take place at all in a relationship and if they do, they should be relationship ending.
You suck at casual dates but you had sex with this guy almost immediately. What did you expect? Of course you’re getting to know each other, you e seen each other three times!
Sad pathetic men that no women see as worthwhile maybe.
If it didn't work out the last time and you both agreed that your needs were not being met, why do you think it will be different this time if you take it slower?
So first she tried to destroy your plant, and then it looks like she tried to destroy you by cutting your brakes.
????
She's going to keep escalating. You should probably RUN.
This is exactly why breaks are a terrible idea
To be very blunt;
Your husband has set boundaries around his own home to make sure his mental peace is cared for, I’m confused as to why there needs to be anything more added to this. You keep trying to break his boundary, that’s a red flag and he’s told you he’ll take direct action, again, for his own mental health.
It’s understandable you wanting to help your sister, but your shared home is not a place to do that.
Your choice is either your marriage or your sister (who needs professional help). It’s honestly that simple.
Shut the fuck up
Agree. Men can't become women and women can't become men. You may be a masculine woman or feminine man and that's ok.
The bible actually supports abortion. Numbers 5:11–31
Also Exodus 22:21-24 clearly differentiates the biblical value of a fetus vs a woman.
Do what you want obviously, but don't do it because someone told you it's “unchristian” rather than what's actually in the Bible.
See.. I didn’t know I could do that thanks
But it's not that's the thing. It's out there for the whole world to see. If you want something with a more privacy, I would strongly recommend an exclusive forum that is blocked from everyone but members only.
Would feel good about it cause I speak well of her
I don’t think they meant this situation, I think they were commenting on how the OP said it would be tough seeing them several times a week once they go back to work. That’s the risk-that you have an awkward breakup and then still have to see them.
Did he have sex with a man or woman?
Hahahhahahha ???? I am SO SORRY that he is so poorly educated in how to pleasure women and so insecure!!! There are smarter men out there, I promise!!!
Doesn’t sound like he loves you. If he did, he would consider learning how to pleasure you. He’s being selfish over his hurt ego.
(It never helps to lie about it though. Reinforces their delusions.)
Hahahhahahha ???? I am SO SORRY that he is so poorly educated in how to pleasure women and so insecure!!! There are smarter men out there, I promise!!!
Doesn’t sound like he loves you. If he did, he would consider learning how to pleasure you. He’s being selfish over his hurt ego.
(It never helps to lie about it though. Reinforces their delusions.)
Whether your right or wrong(the fact sex has stopped still would have me sus)
It doesn't matter…she's wearing the exact things he wants in a public space but not with him
Obviosuly it's her choice at the end of the day but he is reasonable to be bothered by that…100% reasonable to break up with her(but I'd hope he'd sit her down first and say this is what he's considering)
You say it's just about dancing but let's not pretend a large amount of people arnt going there to also hookup, that on top of a shattered sex life woukd have me wondering what's really going on at those raves
i mean. I'd dump her
Dude, no. I'm sorry but you just need to go completely NC. It sounds cold but you are not responsible for her mental health.
Frankly what you should be concerned about is ensuring that she doesn't try to harm your GF and maintaining any contact at all makes that more likely.
If you meet up tell your wife prior. This kind of stuff always comes out. When it does and she has no notice she will believe you fucked the ex.
Your GF is right. I use to wear a fake engagement ring at work so men would leave me alone.
Lol, no they don’t. I can assure you that giving a fake number is the only way (sometimes even that doesn’t help as they tend to call immediately after). I’ve tried everything: boyfriend, a fake wedding ring, saying “thank you, but I’m not interested.” Some men simply don’t care.
It's not football. It's his unresolved anger issues and how he manages his hobby. Best thing I ever did was stop watching it live! (except for parties or super bowl) and just watch the highlights on YouTube. A 4+hr game is condensed to 15 min. It opened up my Sundays for everything parent related. I don't know how someone would be able to park there butt for a day to watch football and essentially have their emotional well being invested in a game, something out of their control. I don't know if he is addicted but it's def going way too far.
You aren't crazy. Best of luck.
If I had the same beliefs as her and already been in a relationship for four years already, I definitely wouldn’t change my position on this now. I’d expect you to either propose already or leave already so I could find someone who shares my values.
No one indicated their health didn't matter. Two things can be possible at the same time. From OPs post, there were no truly intimate shares. We need to be realistic and understand that relationships are not always easy. Being human is complex but it doesn't have to be cruel. If the first thing we do when we feel uncomfortable is shut someone down, that isnt helping either of us. Processing things together will always make couples stronger or make them see they aren't suited for long term. Which, is not a bad thing. Society just sold that lie to everyone.
Oof I have so much sympathy for you. I dated a touring musician too and it was hell. I always tell my female friends not to date guys who are in bands unless they have a heart of steel. It's not worth the stress.
This. When I was 27 I got with a guy who was 22/23 and though I knew it was too young I tried to convince myself otherwise and boy was it apparent after talking for a minute lol.
I think for your 40th birthday you should gift yourself with a divorce cause damn your husband don't even think you are valuable enough put effort into a basic ass dinner date.
Yeah. All relationships have flaws. But isolation and verbal abuse should not take place at all in a relationship and if they do, they should be relationship ending.
Sounds like a weird kink or control thing
You suck at casual dates but you had sex with this guy almost immediately. What did you expect? Of course you’re getting to know each other, you e seen each other three times!
Have any examples?
No matter the reason, you both should probably get tested before either of you sleep with anyone again
I was texting a friend on IG so I saw him
She’s says I am a fundamentally dishonest ass.
What does that mean ?
Judging by her insecurities shown in the post. Yes