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molomomin Public Chat Channel
Date: October 12, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
molomomin Public Chat Channel
Why are you treating someone's private trauma history they share confidentially with you as “tea spilling” ?
You are a very bad friend.
Pls don’t kiss over video lol
Does your mom's house not have an attic? This is where many people keep pictures of their old girlfriends/boyfriends. You leave them up there gathering dust, then in twenty years you and your wife find them and look at them together. You say “I can't remember what I ever saw in her” and your wife says “I'm sure she was a nice person” and you say “Not as nice as you”, then you turn to the next box of photos, and it's you at six years old being cute, or your mom looking stern at a family wedding, and it's on to the next reminiscence.
It's understandable that you have concerns about dating someone who has cheated in the past, especially given your own experiences with infidelity. However, in this situation, it sounds like your love interest's behavior may have been influenced by external factors, such as peer pressure and excessive drinking.
Based on the details you provided, it seems like your love interest did not actively seek out the kiss and was not aware of what was happening due to her level of intoxication. While it's important to take responsibility for one's actions, it's also important to consider the context in which those actions occurred.
It's also worth noting that labeling someone as a “cheater” can be a complex issue, and it's possible that your love interest may have a different perspective on what happened. If you are interested in pursuing a relationship with her, it may be helpful to have an open and honest conversation about your feelings and concerns, as well as your expectations for honesty and trust in a relationship.
Ultimately, the decision to date someone who has cheated in the past is a personal one, and it's important to do what feels right for you. However, it may be worth considering whether this particular situation fits your definition of cheating, and whether your love interest has taken steps to learn from her past behavior and make amends.
Can't build a skyscraper on a foundation of sand. And the sand is cheating.
His answer is childish and his behaviour is over the top, but Im gonna go against the grain here and tell you that you are also ignoring his feeling on the matter.
You are independent, you have two kids and i presume you had to take care of them before your now husband by yourself. You probably went through a shitty divorce/separation and realized you can only ever rely on yourself.
Which obviously that kind of belief keeps you strong and assured in yourself and your abilities. However, when you got into a serious relationship with another man, you still acted as if you were alone.
I understand that this is not a one case scenario, but it has been an ongoing problem in your relationship. You cant just ask him to become okay with it. Even if you think its silly and stupid, his feelings are real.
Men want to feel needed, and he has repeatedly told you that. You however refuse to budge on this matter, in any way shape or form. So much so, you did all the labour behind his back while he was away, when you knew he would mind it and that he wanted to do it.
If you want this relationship to work, you cant keep doing whatever you want (even if you think youre right and its stupid) because ultimately, youre ignoring his feelings. And yes generally its nice to have the tables fixed or whatever, but you gotta let your man do something for you.
He is younger than you, more inexperienced than you, he is not a father, and he probably doesnt have that great of a job either. Now he cant even fix a drain in the house? You can do it, and that is great. But it obviously means so much to him, and its affecting your relationship, why not let him do the work and make him feel needed?
If you are unable to budge on this issue AT ALL then id say you are very incompatible.
I'm always amazed how autistic most redditors are when it comes to human interactions…
Ma'am, your husband is 16+ years your senior, this is a whole can of worms to begin with, now add to this his seemingly low self esteem and you'll understand the predicament he is facing.
Not many people can give you proper perspective of how or why he feels the way he does. Have a talk with him, try to understand his love language and at the end of the day, just do whatever he tells you when it comes to him and his feelings.
The “problem” is complex and a lot of those complexities can't be changed or fixed. Explain to him what you did to us, that you find him attractive and that it will be naked and maybe awkward if you try to censor yourself all the time. Maybe he will understand and you'll only need to stop your public outbursts, not the whole complimenting thing. In general if he feels unattractive, maybe do something about it, ask for professional help, because why I know that not everyone is 10/10 everyone should be comfortable in their own skin and feel good about their bodies regardless of how old they are or who compliments them.