Public place to avoid him possibly lashing out and threatening your life. His charge is huge and he may become unpredictable now you know. Share your location with a trusted person just in case. It’s very telling how he hasn’t changed as he’s dating someone 13 years younger than him, no coincidence there. After all of this please seek therapy as this is a traumatic finding for you and assuming you’re young he preyed on your lack of life experience.
Sounds like you didn't fit the criteria for what she wanted from her bridesmaid. Now she will made you her lap dog to help her plan everything but not actually make you apart of the wedding. She may have been more of your friend then you were her friend
Tell her how you honestly feel and that you'd rather just keep your distance moving forward
He just told you after everything you suffered through with his addiction, he doesn't appreciate any of it. He isn't really sorry for it. He views you as a thing to serve his wants.
You deserve someone who treats you with love and kindness. You deserve someone who tells you you're beautiful.
This should be the last straw for you. The sooner you leave him, the sooner you can begin the next steps of your life.
That's a tough one. I have an older brother like that. He constantly abuses mom, and she is nice no matter what. He's in his 40s, parents in 70s. We've had good decades and bad decades. The last 5 years have been really rough. Really it just takes us other kids pushing mom to create boundaries against him, but it's tough because he is very dominating and manipulative. We think mom's doing fine but then suddenly she let's him move in (he's on and off homeless).
Can you convince your sister to move out? Point out that if she doesn't respect/like them, she would be happier away from them. It will be a big step to restrict her dependence on them financially and emotionally. Likely she thinks they owe her and she wants them to suffer, be careful how you handle that. Make sure the financial dependence stops. Work on equipping her to be independent. She has a massive ego, play that to your advantage here.
Public place to avoid him possibly lashing out and threatening your life. His charge is huge and he may become unpredictable now you know. Share your location with a trusted person just in case. It’s very telling how he hasn’t changed as he’s dating someone 13 years younger than him, no coincidence there. After all of this please seek therapy as this is a traumatic finding for you and assuming you’re young he preyed on your lack of life experience.
break up with him asap and redo your life
Wow as a 45 year old I did not need to hear that I’m halfway to 90 ??
But I do like this comment!
Sounds like you didn't fit the criteria for what she wanted from her bridesmaid. Now she will made you her lap dog to help her plan everything but not actually make you apart of the wedding. She may have been more of your friend then you were her friend
Tell her how you honestly feel and that you'd rather just keep your distance moving forward
He just told you after everything you suffered through with his addiction, he doesn't appreciate any of it. He isn't really sorry for it. He views you as a thing to serve his wants.
You deserve someone who treats you with love and kindness. You deserve someone who tells you you're beautiful.
This should be the last straw for you. The sooner you leave him, the sooner you can begin the next steps of your life.
I feel bad for her that she is so naive she assumed a man your age would be a virgin.
That's a tough one. I have an older brother like that. He constantly abuses mom, and she is nice no matter what. He's in his 40s, parents in 70s. We've had good decades and bad decades. The last 5 years have been really rough. Really it just takes us other kids pushing mom to create boundaries against him, but it's tough because he is very dominating and manipulative. We think mom's doing fine but then suddenly she let's him move in (he's on and off homeless).
Can you convince your sister to move out? Point out that if she doesn't respect/like them, she would be happier away from them. It will be a big step to restrict her dependence on them financially and emotionally. Likely she thinks they owe her and she wants them to suffer, be careful how you handle that. Make sure the financial dependence stops. Work on equipping her to be independent. She has a massive ego, play that to your advantage here.