As a man and speaking as man, I don't think I could recover from seeing my significant other in that state with another man. If you really want him back, it's not impossible. But, it's going to take time apart for him to heal. Some men never heal from this.
By the way, your “Best friend” is a piece of shit. If he was your Best friend, he should be trying to find your man to explain the misunderstanding. I honestly think you were raped that night.
When I was 16 and my 23 year old brother-in-law was interested in me, I definitely didn't see myself being forced into anything. But the older I got, the more I realized he didn't have to force me when he could use his experience with sex, money and general life in order to manipulate me into thinking what he wanted me to think in order to sleep with him and do a bunch of other things I was in no way necessarily willing or prepared to do.
No matter whether you want to admit it or not, no 23 year old man has anything in common with a 17 year old girl. They just don't. You are in two totally different stages in life and with that comes a power dynamic that you won't see until it is too late.
Thank you for your perspective. Honestly I told him details before and during my evening for 2 reasons. 1. As a courtesy and to let him know that I was safe. 2. Just in case actually came to visit me, he'd know where to find me. The point you made about why couldn't he just say I'm not sleepy, is the same one I made. I told him that it could've been a 3-5 minute conversation, instead of a 2 day argument. Must of the argument consisted of things that I didn't say, statements I didn't make and conversations that we didn't have. When he gets upset, he makes up an entire scenario in his mind and then gets upset because he starts to believe it. He can be his own worst enemy and I've expressed this. I've also expressed that his reaction and ridiculously false statements causes a divide. I even told him that I think he's upset because he assumed the worst from my text, saw how ridiculous it was not to visit his girlfriend because she didn't “ask” if he was tired and that I still enjoyed myself without him.
She wants to erase the original meaning because the line he got tattooed on his body is describing how he would like to kiss his very good friend who is still a very involved person in his life. Her concerns are valid. OP is in love with his friend.
can I have your parents relationship? Will have nothing to do with you. Don’t make big proclamations about marriage when you’re so young. Things change you’re going to be a completely different person five years from now than you are now.
as far as dating, a lot of people really regret, not shooting their shot in high school.
ask them to casual dates like Boba or coffee. movies and dinner are cliché and not very good for getting to know someone.
don’t make a big deal out of it. Just mention that there’s a place that you like and ask if they would like to go with you.
Only on Reddit is a man confused when a girl shows him nudes
Dude I've been living with my partner for several YEARS and we still learn new stuff about each other
Yep- I've been with my husband for 16 years, married for 10- and even just this weekend I learned he doesn't like chocolate syrup on his ice cream.
As a man and speaking as man, I don't think I could recover from seeing my significant other in that state with another man. If you really want him back, it's not impossible. But, it's going to take time apart for him to heal. Some men never heal from this.
By the way, your “Best friend” is a piece of shit. If he was your Best friend, he should be trying to find your man to explain the misunderstanding. I honestly think you were raped that night.
When I was 16 and my 23 year old brother-in-law was interested in me, I definitely didn't see myself being forced into anything. But the older I got, the more I realized he didn't have to force me when he could use his experience with sex, money and general life in order to manipulate me into thinking what he wanted me to think in order to sleep with him and do a bunch of other things I was in no way necessarily willing or prepared to do.
No matter whether you want to admit it or not, no 23 year old man has anything in common with a 17 year old girl. They just don't. You are in two totally different stages in life and with that comes a power dynamic that you won't see until it is too late.
Thank you for your perspective. Honestly I told him details before and during my evening for 2 reasons. 1. As a courtesy and to let him know that I was safe. 2. Just in case actually came to visit me, he'd know where to find me. The point you made about why couldn't he just say I'm not sleepy, is the same one I made. I told him that it could've been a 3-5 minute conversation, instead of a 2 day argument. Must of the argument consisted of things that I didn't say, statements I didn't make and conversations that we didn't have. When he gets upset, he makes up an entire scenario in his mind and then gets upset because he starts to believe it. He can be his own worst enemy and I've expressed this. I've also expressed that his reaction and ridiculously false statements causes a divide. I even told him that I think he's upset because he assumed the worst from my text, saw how ridiculous it was not to visit his girlfriend because she didn't “ask” if he was tired and that I still enjoyed myself without him.
He does not need a bachelor party! The man is already married with a child. On the way! He should be ashamed and embarrassed of himself.
Ages????????
She wants to erase the original meaning because the line he got tattooed on his body is describing how he would like to kiss his very good friend who is still a very involved person in his life. Her concerns are valid. OP is in love with his friend.
can I have your parents relationship? Will have nothing to do with you. Don’t make big proclamations about marriage when you’re so young. Things change you’re going to be a completely different person five years from now than you are now.
as far as dating, a lot of people really regret, not shooting their shot in high school.
ask them to casual dates like Boba or coffee. movies and dinner are cliché and not very good for getting to know someone.
don’t make a big deal out of it. Just mention that there’s a place that you like and ask if they would like to go with you.