Different angle: do you actually know that he didn’t have a problem having sex with all those other women? Dude could flat out be asexual but have been pressured by dude bros to have sex because that’s what dudes do.
Either way, if he literally told you he doesn’t want sex ever and you’re only 22, I’d just move on and look for a better partner for you. Of course there’s some tricky logistics with your financial dependence, but that’s a whole other thing and I’d leave that for you
Wow, she's on a whole other level, dude. “Work trip?” Yikes!!! I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Any chance you can rain on her carnaval(sorry, I couldn't help it, lol ? ?)by canceling her Romania trip?
You need to lay it out baldly. “If you have sex with someone else, ANYONE else, I will consider that cheating. I will consider myself having been cheated on. If you want to do it anyway, I can't stop you. But I will view you as a cheater, and I WILL leave.” Don't leave any wiggle room in that. Let her know what the full truth is.
Don’t blame yourself. Maybe you can sit him down and try to figure something out re: Jack. Just some compromise you can BOTH live with. I’m so sorry, I can’t imagine being in this situation.
Its there to give out to other women ( or men he rolls that way) to give credence to his “single identity”.
Get your ducks in a row before you leave, consult a divorce lawyer BEFORE you decide anything. Take screen shots and read the messages if you can. You could also fake an account of your own with a fake photo/name and see if he's up for cheating with your alter ego.
You're either creepy or overthinking it. I can't tell which.
Honestly the only non-creepy way to go about this is to message her and say 'hey, saw you're back in town, let's catch up' and then ask them out officially after your catch up if you're still feeling it. Any more complicated than that steers straight into creepy territory.
so you think it’s morally okay to engage in a relationship with someone committed, even if you know about their partner?
Different angle: do you actually know that he didn’t have a problem having sex with all those other women? Dude could flat out be asexual but have been pressured by dude bros to have sex because that’s what dudes do.
Either way, if he literally told you he doesn’t want sex ever and you’re only 22, I’d just move on and look for a better partner for you. Of course there’s some tricky logistics with your financial dependence, but that’s a whole other thing and I’d leave that for you
Make a fake profile and send them to her ,everything you have
So you want people to help you in a situation but also refuse to go into anything about what you did to cause this situation. Right.
Wow, she's on a whole other level, dude. “Work trip?” Yikes!!! I'm sorry you had to deal with that. Any chance you can rain on her carnaval(sorry, I couldn't help it, lol ? ?)by canceling her Romania trip?
You need to lay it out baldly. “If you have sex with someone else, ANYONE else, I will consider that cheating. I will consider myself having been cheated on. If you want to do it anyway, I can't stop you. But I will view you as a cheater, and I WILL leave.” Don't leave any wiggle room in that. Let her know what the full truth is.
If you go back or let him gaslight you, you will be right back here later with an update and much regret.
Keep with your decision to leave
Don’t blame yourself. Maybe you can sit him down and try to figure something out re: Jack. Just some compromise you can BOTH live with. I’m so sorry, I can’t imagine being in this situation.
Its there to give out to other women ( or men he rolls that way) to give credence to his “single identity”.
Get your ducks in a row before you leave, consult a divorce lawyer BEFORE you decide anything. Take screen shots and read the messages if you can. You could also fake an account of your own with a fake photo/name and see if he's up for cheating with your alter ego.
Ugh, why put up with any of this? He's stringing you along, and you are letting him.
He's not the only guy on the planet. There's about eleventy-billion others. Go date some of them.
Yep this is what OP needs to see.
You're either creepy or overthinking it. I can't tell which.
Honestly the only non-creepy way to go about this is to message her and say 'hey, saw you're back in town, let's catch up' and then ask them out officially after your catch up if you're still feeling it. Any more complicated than that steers straight into creepy territory.