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Mivaki Public Chat Channel
Date: November 18, 2022
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People agree to things for a variety of reasons other than actual agreement. Seems like that here.
Is the future possible if only you do the saving?
Nothing wrong with doing things on your own but if the opportunity to do something together comes up why wouldn't you want to do it together?
I guess the question you have to ask yourself is are you ok with someone treating you this way? Because if he has done it once he will continue to do so.
Ty I’m so nervous but that’s a good idea!
Dude, leave.
You need the therapy
This is some tortured thinking. I fight against the idea that anyone is “used for sex.” Gender is irrelevant. They both decided to flirt with each other. They both decided to attend a wedding together. They both decided to kiss each other. They both decided to go on a date. They both decided to have the sex. None of these decisions and associated acts diminished either person in any way. Nothing was lost. Nothing was promised. She didn't misrepresent herself to get something from OP. She went on an awkward date and had awkward unsatisfactory sex. She decided not to repeat either of those things again. She didn't use OP for a date or for kisses or for the D.
I still don’t have understand why you’re still with him, let alone planning on marrying him, if you feel so badly about all of this.
How is the law where you online? In some countries, parents have to pay a certain amount of money to their adult children, until they reach a certain age or finish their college. With that money and maybe some form of sidejob, you could manage to move out.
Are there any public places you can go to to spend time together? Youth centers, gaming Cafés, whatever… Maybe that would be something to visit each day with her. That way your Mom might understand she's losing you if she continues her path, and reevaluates her decision, to have you around more.
And try to not have any more babies if you're not intending or able to be around them.
She could be from any pre cum. However it’ll be a very small chance.
If his account is true, it honestly sounds like he was raped.
You grow some balls and stop letting a dickbag trample all over you.
He's abusive but in a different way than your parents. You need to get out. He THREW FOOD AT YOU. That's not okay. And “you can celebrate me with anal”…who thinks that's okay?
He clearly has given up. This isn't healthy. I'm not even gonna suggest couples therapy here. You deserve so much better.
You can't change him. He's showing you who he really is.
You need new friends as well as kicking this arsehole out of your life.
Honey, he raped you. Please reach out to some organisations who can help you deal with this.
I didn't get an answer to the question I asked
I’m generally in favor of coming out andI understand your gf’s frustration because it’s really naked to date someone who is still in the closet , I know. But you’re only 19 and probably still financially dependent on your parents. I recommend waiting till you’re on your own and financially independent.
Gotta call a spade a spade
You might like r/hotwifelifestyle
That’s the thing is she always wanted to be a music teacher. She has never vocalized that she wanted to be a performer is just the issue. Now she has been talking like she can’t even teach it anymore. I just want to encourage her and build her confidence more but idk what to say or how to get her to listen
Right. I got hurt the first time and finally feel over it, scared to get hurt again
You okay?
Fuck him. You deserve better. Put your energy into that beautiful little girl and get him out of your life. What he did was unforgivable. If you want to hang around and find out after another year that's your call, but he is a disgusting excuse for a man and as soon as he knows he has you again, that behavior will start all over again. A tiger doesn't change its stripes.
He's never been all in and you deserve someone who is all in. What he is right now is scared of being alone and having to pay the bills. It's fear, not love.
Please tell me you don't live with him.
I'm really sorry you're dealing with this. I've been in similar situations and no matter their intent, it's so unhelpful/harmful to recovery. Hell, even years into recovery, I can't stand people commenting on my food, especially people I online with.
It can feel awkward, but I found it best to address it directly. Try to be as calm as possible (I know it's tough when this has been building up for a while) and say some variation of “Hey (housemate), you know that this is something I struggle with. The comments are really not helping. Please stop.” Or — to make it more of an “I” statement — “I find these comments hurtful and it's hindering my recovery. Please stop.”
When I had a housemate who continued to do this, the first couple of times I brought up that we'd talked about it before and repeated the request. When it still continued, I asked point-blank what they were trying to accomplish with their comments. If they come back with some kind of “you should learn to take a joke!” etc., point out that it's not a joke when only one person is laughing. I'd even go so far as to ask if they think you relapsing with a potentially fatal disease is funny to them, but tbf I'm just getting a little worked up on your behalf. This is not an unreasonable request for you to make, FFS.
Assuming the best — that the housemate is clueless — that should shut them up. If they're malicious, then it's time to look into a new housing situation. Recovery is naked enough without someone actively working against you.
Also, the coke zero comment… wtf? It has no calories. It's not “going” anywhere. Even calories aren't “going to your stomach,” they're getting turned into energy that you need to survive.
I wish you luck with your recovery. It can be awful, but worth it
He sabotages any chance he can for you to have a personal relationship with anyone on his side. He is building a wall between you and his people. This is a surefire way to lose a girlfriend IMO.
A partner is someone who at a minimum has your back. Your boyfriend is not meeting the bare minimum requirements of even a basic friend.
A life of your (future) husband shit talking literally you to everyone who will listen does not sound like a future. It sounds honestly really lonely.
Sucky situation all around.
Don't fall into the line of thinking that now that it's a reality, he's bound to change his mind, though. That's a thought process that has left many a woman in single motherhood.
I don't think anyone can really tell you what to do here, you'll have to weigh all the scenarios and decide which one will lay less heavily on you… Abort without telling him, risk him wanting you to abort if you tell him, single motherhood and I guess to a lot less likely possibility – telling him and him having a sudden change of heart (going to stress again that that isn't likely).
Sorry, OP. That's why my automatic answer though with people in your situation is to cut your losses.
From reading your story i don’t necessarily think he doesn’t consider you – he just isn’t used to having help or being able to count on people to help with his siblings. As you said his parents are awful and they are the ones who should’ve stepped up and loved and cared for their own children but haven’t. You husband probably feels that he is the only person those “kids” have and they need him or they will be institutionalized- which your husband has probably seen first hand the way patients are treated there. I know you feel like he pushed you away but he is truly between a rock and a naked place and if he can set the staff and house up where it is not horrible for you and he sees that you are an advocate for his siblings plus a partner to him then I think he will come around to tell you how much you need. to him s d you are not i. second place yo the siblings. Right now he feels his hands are tied and so understand it. so have a special needs child who is basically nonverbal and can not do many tasks- think goodness my husband is an absolute gem and we split it all 50/50. but when we were working on our wills and trying to decide who or what to do if something happened to us it was very eye opening. I am sending you all good thoughts and prayers that everything calms down and you all come thru this happy and healthy and stronger!! ❤️❤️????
Did she say that she paid for the ring because if she did go buy another one if that's what you choose to do
I had a job when we had our first child and left the job when we had our second because it was what worked for us at the time
Better crank that Ne-Yo and grab 6 or so tubs of ice cream. You’re allowed to grieve about this.
Your boyfriend has no respect for you, and is using you like you're a sex toy and not a partner he loves. He's basically coercing you into sex you don't want.
Time to get some self-respect and leave him. This is not normal and not okay.
Do you feel ready to start dating again?
Invite him out for dessert, it’s the best first date.
Let them know ?
This is exactly it. It’s r/emotionalabuse.
Even if it weren’t, she’s been acting like she doesn’t want to be in this relationship for a year. OP finally reached the same conclusion, and now it’s on him to apologize and make everything okay? What is she doing to make everything okay?
This is bullshit. Get the fuck out and don’t look back.
This is true
… obviously, you shot yourself in the foot on that one.
The walk to school was a test, and you failed because you “didn't see the point”. Check how you wrecked yourself, then ask her how you can make it up to her.
also lol
How do you know that?
I online 1500 miles away. There is no him ripping me off. Luckily. Thanks for the reply though. I am battling my values at the moment. I am also drunk off my ass. I am sure I will see more clearly, on the subject in the morning.
He didn’t say he wasn’t attracted to her. Finding someone hot and being attracted to them are two different things.
My reaction was that he just crashed his car and his mom blamed you. did he leave some type of suicide note..?
Divorce Alimony Profit
Good luck