No is a complete sentence. She doesn't need a reason YOU consider “valid.” If she's not comfortable with a sex act, then she doesn't owe it to anyone, just like you would not have to defend yourself is she wanted to something you didn't like. You can bring it up and ask her “Hey, I like this thing. How do you feel about doing this thing?” so that you know whether she's working up to it, hadn't thought to do it, or is against doing it. If she doesn't want to do it, you either decide that's ok and stay in the relationship, or that it's important to you and you break up so you can find someone sexually compatible. You don't try to push or “convince” her to perform sex acts she's not comfortable with.
She told you the truth and that's the most important thing.
In general, she sounds like an honest person to me. She didn't cheat on you and blamed it on a bad relationship, she did something about the unwanted situation and so on… The only part that's kinda cringy is that she publicity shared a photo of the pill.
She probably decided to go wild in order to prove to herself that she can have anyone and in this way convince herself that her ex is nobody and nothing because “she had better”. At least that's how some people explain it.
You can also look at it this way: If an unwanted situation happens to you, you can count on her taking the pill or any necessary prevention. In case it happens when both of you aren't willing to be parents.
If her past bothers you generally… Well… Don't be with her. But remember, someone else can also reject you in the future because of your past and I have heard more women saying they don't want to be someone's first, serious relationship than I heard men saying they don't want to date someone because she had a wild phase.
She's obviously hurt and you should ask yourself if you are willing to be there for her and accept her past, present and future and vice versa.
Yeah well apparently she accepted but I kinda understand that because she is a good person. And she told me straight up what he asked. Yet still im pretty shocked about the balls he has to ask her to lunch without asking that am I okay with it
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No is a complete sentence. She doesn't need a reason YOU consider “valid.” If she's not comfortable with a sex act, then she doesn't owe it to anyone, just like you would not have to defend yourself is she wanted to something you didn't like. You can bring it up and ask her “Hey, I like this thing. How do you feel about doing this thing?” so that you know whether she's working up to it, hadn't thought to do it, or is against doing it. If she doesn't want to do it, you either decide that's ok and stay in the relationship, or that it's important to you and you break up so you can find someone sexually compatible. You don't try to push or “convince” her to perform sex acts she's not comfortable with.
She told you the truth and that's the most important thing.
In general, she sounds like an honest person to me. She didn't cheat on you and blamed it on a bad relationship, she did something about the unwanted situation and so on… The only part that's kinda cringy is that she publicity shared a photo of the pill.
She probably decided to go wild in order to prove to herself that she can have anyone and in this way convince herself that her ex is nobody and nothing because “she had better”. At least that's how some people explain it.
You can also look at it this way: If an unwanted situation happens to you, you can count on her taking the pill or any necessary prevention. In case it happens when both of you aren't willing to be parents.
If her past bothers you generally… Well… Don't be with her. But remember, someone else can also reject you in the future because of your past and I have heard more women saying they don't want to be someone's first, serious relationship than I heard men saying they don't want to date someone because she had a wild phase.
She's obviously hurt and you should ask yourself if you are willing to be there for her and accept her past, present and future and vice versa.
Oh thanks! Is it expensive to do a small claims case?
Troll most likely. Or a very determined future side piece.
Yeah well apparently she accepted but I kinda understand that because she is a good person. And she told me straight up what he asked. Yet still im pretty shocked about the balls he has to ask her to lunch without asking that am I okay with it
She decided to break up with you weeks ago. She just waited till now to pull the trigger
Yeah ok man. My conversation with my sister says otherwise. Lots of projection in this thread.
This may be some cultural thing because Women's Day in the US is absolutely not a gift giving occasion.