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Your parent’s marital problem isn’t yours to carry. Your dad destroyed what he vowed to your mom years ago and it’s his fault if anything happens. Tell your mom what you know.
She’s also a freeloader but it’s more embarrassing for a grown man to be living under his father in laws roof because he can’t adequately provide for his family
8 years is a long time to throw away and is a serious decision. It's very easy to say f that broad but not as easy to do.I would not tell her that you're beside yourself though tell that to a friend or a therapist. I would not go buying a ring today either. Take some time to breathe and really consider both options. I would communicate about the damage to the trust in the relationship. personally I don't make decisions angry. Angry decisions breed angry results.
If you cant comprehend the fact that people have different value systems let it go rather than mocking people for mot sharing your world view about their personal loves
If it's over in your heart, you should just say so. It won't be the noblest thing you ever do, but there's nothing noble about faking something you no longer feel either.
My wife and I have all sorts of ways to track each other but it's tied into the smart home. It turns shit on / off when we come and go. It's really less about knowing where each other are and more about triggering lights and security cameras.
We actually don't care if we know where each other is, because we have a healthy relationship where there's no need to hide what we're doing. If I really wanted to (And if she really wanted to) it would be an easy thing to disable for either of us.
And I'm pushing 50. If I can understand that, so can you.
So, this is the thing. He likes her. They have a nice thing going. She doesn't appear to be an asshole or a cheater. There are a lot of grey areas in life. I don't really know what to tell you, life is long and the lines aren't always straight.
No, you shouldn't have to put up with it anymore, and you shouldn't have to put up with him anymore because he's made it very clear who he will choose 1st every single time.
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I understand. Well, in my opinion, you should be as honest as you can with her but also just be a steady, supportive presence for her. She’s not going to irreversibly ruin her life in six months.
Should she be obligated to go to events that are important to me?
No.
It's fine to want her there, it's fine to say “this is very important to me, I'd really value your support” and then drop it if she says no, it's fine to hope she would put up with a little boredom, but OBLIGATED? Nah.
You don't get to stamp your feet and say “As my girlfriend, you HAVE to do this for me.”
Out of interest, what did she do for the previous four years of this vital, can't-miss chip ceremony? And did you attend every year of your childhood, since it's been going on longer than you've been alive?
Before she went on her trip, where did you see your family in five years?
Think about that. Like, close your eyes and really visualize where you thought you'd be as a family in five years. Your home, the kids, your job, your wife's job, everything.
Now what you have to decide is this: is this one instance of what you see as infidelity worth throwing all of that away forever? Only you can answer that, and I'm not judging, bc only your opinion matters.
Ignore the utterly foolish advice that encourages revenge, or outright ending things immediately. Ignore everything else, really. This is based on your choices and hers.
Jesus christ I wouldn't blame him if he didn't do anything special for your birthday again!
I'm sorry I do realise that you've had a baby and it's a vulnerable time. But you seem to be all sick with guilt simply because he saw the email from the company responding to you. Do you realise he would have found out even without seeing the email? You know, when he asked you why you literally never wore the thoughtful pendant he bought that cost $1000+? Or when you guys were going on a date and he requested you wear it and you couldn't explain where it was? In what situation would you have been able to keep returning it a secret? You didn't think this through.
It's about the thought and care put into something. I've worn multiple things bought by ex partners that weren't my style (that probably cost less than £30). The only time I would return a gift would be if it was some kind of pointed joke or dig that deliberately hurt my feelings.
I guess all you can do is apologise, but please lose the attitude that caused you to do this in the first place. Congratulations on your baby and I hope you sort it.
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You sound insufferable to be in a relationship with. You let your mom walk all over you and treat your wife like crap as well as side w ur mom by sending them off after throwing a tantrum and ruining ur wedding and reception. Then keep asking her whether you can see other people after talking about potentially separating for good then getting mad about it. She is so well within her right to walking away to someone who values their narcissistic mother and can’t see themselves as a problem. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree I suppose.
You know that saying “don't negotiate with terrorists?”
Your parents are emotional (and sometimes physically) terrorists. Don't negotiate with them. You aren't going to see the change in them you want. They will never be the people you wish they would. You deserve better, but they aren't going to ever be the parents you deserve.
Block them. Stop letting them into your headspace. If they make a real change in their lives, don't worry, you'll find out one way or another.
And if you don't have a therapist, get one ASAP. You still have a lot of healing to do. I'm sorry you are going through this.
I innately gain satisfaction by knowing other people are experiencing physical pleasure, and innately am displeasured if other people feel physical pain. I expect the same from my lovers. Do you? Should you?
Confront her, maybe it is related to the trauma of his dad. I had to lie to my parent too bc they were too strict and necame fearful of telling the truth sometimes even if I realistically wouldn't get in trouble and it was hot to change that.
If she doesn't admit it and dhows how she wants to change, leave bc this is a red flag
What if I know that if he stops drinking he is an amazing person. And we have the same values. I call his parents mum and dad and his nieces and nephews call me auntie. It’s so hard to just walk away from this one because it wasn’t always like this.
This is the stuff people say to feel better imo I lost my dad, inherited lots of money… Obviously it’s sad but at the end of the day I got so much out of it that I wouldn’t “rather have my dad”.
Honestly, get rid of Jill. She sounds like she does not have your best interest at heart. And I sure as heck would not want the other woman anywhere close to you or your significant other. Look what happened last time.
But why do you need to limit your friends at all, then? If in this circumstance it would be accepted (and I'd really recommend checking what your boyfriends position on what would happen if that were the case is) why can't it be accepted now?
Forget the mom what did your gf do when this took place? The words that should have come out of her mouth should have been something like “excuse my mom but I have a boyfriend” if nothing remotely close to this came out of your gf’s mouth then I would question my relationship with her.
She’s twenty my dude. That’s a stage in on-line where a lot of likes and dislikes shift. Especially when finding friends and partners in game you gotta realise that’s a possibility. You basically only spend so much time cause you were addicted to the same stuff.
If you're just missing physical affection, go hug her & let your touch linger. Find ways to hold her hand. Touch her in ways that aren't directly resulting in sex or interest in sex. Hopefully she uncoils & reciprocates!!
He’s just mad you called him on his BS. You looked at publicly displayed info, not his private/personal account info. No foul there. Maybe he’s not as ready to settle down as he claims if he’s still making silly comments to IG girls.
This does not apply if you’re referencing comments that are from before you were together. Only after. It’s still lame imo but ya can’t blame anyone for something done before you were part of their life.
I just went though a divorce after I found out my wife cheated on me…my advice, block and delete her. Also, don't dive into the bottle. Try and work through is sober, you'll get back on your feet faster and it might avoid doing some stupid shit.
Okay but who’s more important? This guy who would literally try to be with two sisters at the same time, or your sister? Both of you drop this dude and mend your relationship.
She’s your sister. They went on dates. He is off limits to you eternally
Go ahead and separate them, and get a few u-haul boxes (or packing boxes from Home Depot) to put them in. The sooner you take action to move her out, the better. At this point, she hasn’t followed through on the promise she made to work, you’re doing the cooking and housekeeping and supporting her. She’s contributing nothing. She’s had weeks now to make other living arrangements. It’s past time, my friend, to end this situation and proceed with restoring your space, sanity and we’ll-being to a healthier level. My best wishes to you.
I always feel like I'm the culprit because I bring up things that have been making me unhappy in our relationship, when he feels that everything is okay.
This is extremely common. One person in the relationship (usually a woman) ends up doing the majority of the physical and mental labor in a household and the other partner (usually a man) gets by with less than the bare minimum until the first partner gets fed up. The first person will bring this up with the second over and over until they finally leave and then second partner will be shocked shocked that the other person was unhappy.
He is showing you who he is. He is showing you how the labor in this relationship will always be. If you break up and then get back together, he will be in line for a few more months before falling back on old patterns. You are very young and as someone who has been there, done that, he is not going to change his behavior for you. It's up to you whether you can live with that, or not.
This isn’t my account, it’s a throwaway of a friend but I noticed the irony in that ? sadly that’s been the main issue I’ve dealt with considering most people my age are sexually active
Your parent’s marital problem isn’t yours to carry. Your dad destroyed what he vowed to your mom years ago and it’s his fault if anything happens. Tell your mom what you know.
She’s also a freeloader but it’s more embarrassing for a grown man to be living under his father in laws roof because he can’t adequately provide for his family
8 years is a long time to throw away and is a serious decision. It's very easy to say f that broad but not as easy to do.I would not tell her that you're beside yourself though tell that to a friend or a therapist. I would not go buying a ring today either. Take some time to breathe and really consider both options. I would communicate about the damage to the trust in the relationship. personally I don't make decisions angry. Angry decisions breed angry results.
If you cant comprehend the fact that people have different value systems let it go rather than mocking people for mot sharing your world view about their personal loves
Depends where she lives, where I online the city bus runs to my place untill 1am while the last buses to other cities run quite a bit earlier.
If it's over in your heart, you should just say so. It won't be the noblest thing you ever do, but there's nothing noble about faking something you no longer feel either.
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My wife and I have all sorts of ways to track each other but it's tied into the smart home. It turns shit on / off when we come and go. It's really less about knowing where each other are and more about triggering lights and security cameras.
We actually don't care if we know where each other is, because we have a healthy relationship where there's no need to hide what we're doing. If I really wanted to (And if she really wanted to) it would be an easy thing to disable for either of us.
And I'm pushing 50. If I can understand that, so can you.
So, this is the thing. He likes her. They have a nice thing going. She doesn't appear to be an asshole or a cheater. There are a lot of grey areas in life. I don't really know what to tell you, life is long and the lines aren't always straight.
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No, you shouldn't have to put up with it anymore, and you shouldn't have to put up with him anymore because he's made it very clear who he will choose 1st every single time.
He’s a fucking psycho, wtf? It’s 100% normal to cry at any funeral. Nothing embarrassing at all about displaying grief in that context
I feel like he wasn't honest with me about his reasons for marrying me and that is a deal breaker.
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I understand. Well, in my opinion, you should be as honest as you can with her but also just be a steady, supportive presence for her. She’s not going to irreversibly ruin her life in six months.
Should she be obligated to go to events that are important to me?
No.
It's fine to want her there, it's fine to say “this is very important to me, I'd really value your support” and then drop it if she says no, it's fine to hope she would put up with a little boredom, but OBLIGATED? Nah.
You don't get to stamp your feet and say “As my girlfriend, you HAVE to do this for me.”
Out of interest, what did she do for the previous four years of this vital, can't-miss chip ceremony? And did you attend every year of your childhood, since it's been going on longer than you've been alive?
Take a moment. Step back. Breathe.
Before she went on her trip, where did you see your family in five years?
Think about that. Like, close your eyes and really visualize where you thought you'd be as a family in five years. Your home, the kids, your job, your wife's job, everything.
Now what you have to decide is this: is this one instance of what you see as infidelity worth throwing all of that away forever? Only you can answer that, and I'm not judging, bc only your opinion matters.
Ignore the utterly foolish advice that encourages revenge, or outright ending things immediately. Ignore everything else, really. This is based on your choices and hers.
Jesus christ I wouldn't blame him if he didn't do anything special for your birthday again!
I'm sorry I do realise that you've had a baby and it's a vulnerable time. But you seem to be all sick with guilt simply because he saw the email from the company responding to you. Do you realise he would have found out even without seeing the email? You know, when he asked you why you literally never wore the thoughtful pendant he bought that cost $1000+? Or when you guys were going on a date and he requested you wear it and you couldn't explain where it was? In what situation would you have been able to keep returning it a secret? You didn't think this through.
It's about the thought and care put into something. I've worn multiple things bought by ex partners that weren't my style (that probably cost less than £30). The only time I would return a gift would be if it was some kind of pointed joke or dig that deliberately hurt my feelings.
I guess all you can do is apologise, but please lose the attitude that caused you to do this in the first place. Congratulations on your baby and I hope you sort it.
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Yeah definitely prioritize that. Their request is not reasonable as a now adult person
You sound insufferable to be in a relationship with. You let your mom walk all over you and treat your wife like crap as well as side w ur mom by sending them off after throwing a tantrum and ruining ur wedding and reception. Then keep asking her whether you can see other people after talking about potentially separating for good then getting mad about it. She is so well within her right to walking away to someone who values their narcissistic mother and can’t see themselves as a problem. Apple doesn’t fall far from the tree I suppose.
You know that saying “don't negotiate with terrorists?”
Your parents are emotional (and sometimes physically) terrorists. Don't negotiate with them. You aren't going to see the change in them you want. They will never be the people you wish they would. You deserve better, but they aren't going to ever be the parents you deserve.
Block them. Stop letting them into your headspace. If they make a real change in their lives, don't worry, you'll find out one way or another.
And if you don't have a therapist, get one ASAP. You still have a lot of healing to do. I'm sorry you are going through this.
I innately gain satisfaction by knowing other people are experiencing physical pleasure, and innately am displeasured if other people feel physical pain. I expect the same from my lovers. Do you? Should you?
Confront her, maybe it is related to the trauma of his dad. I had to lie to my parent too bc they were too strict and necame fearful of telling the truth sometimes even if I realistically wouldn't get in trouble and it was hot to change that.
If she doesn't admit it and dhows how she wants to change, leave bc this is a red flag
What if I know that if he stops drinking he is an amazing person. And we have the same values. I call his parents mum and dad and his nieces and nephews call me auntie. It’s so hard to just walk away from this one because it wasn’t always like this.
Rip the band aid off.
Also, stop working 72 hours a week and try and enjoy life while you're young!
I'm talking specifically about bars and the post states that he didn't go to bars he was at his friends house
I'm all for her going out with her friends but you have to admit it's hypocritical to say he can't go to bars and then go to bars
This is the stuff people say to feel better imo I lost my dad, inherited lots of money… Obviously it’s sad but at the end of the day I got so much out of it that I wouldn’t “rather have my dad”.
For you maybe not for me.
Are you trying to push him away?
Honestly, get rid of Jill. She sounds like she does not have your best interest at heart. And I sure as heck would not want the other woman anywhere close to you or your significant other. Look what happened last time.
This is shit advice OP you should divorce and coparent. You deserve to be happy, and you kid deserves at least one happy and levelheaded parent.
One of the leading causing of men cheating is a sexless relationship. You should be worried.
How would you feel if he just started denying you any lovebor affection in the ways that are important to you.
But why do you need to limit your friends at all, then? If in this circumstance it would be accepted (and I'd really recommend checking what your boyfriends position on what would happen if that were the case is) why can't it be accepted now?
Maybe he just didn’t want the PDA on his timeline? Maybe he has conservative family members or something.
In what world is that an acceptable answer to your boyfriends parents question?
Forget the mom what did your gf do when this took place? The words that should have come out of her mouth should have been something like “excuse my mom but I have a boyfriend” if nothing remotely close to this came out of your gf’s mouth then I would question my relationship with her.
She’s twenty my dude. That’s a stage in on-line where a lot of likes and dislikes shift. Especially when finding friends and partners in game you gotta realise that’s a possibility. You basically only spend so much time cause you were addicted to the same stuff.
Thank fuck he didn't want the whole alphabet
If you're just missing physical affection, go hug her & let your touch linger. Find ways to hold her hand. Touch her in ways that aren't directly resulting in sex or interest in sex. Hopefully she uncoils & reciprocates!!
Reach
He’s just mad you called him on his BS. You looked at publicly displayed info, not his private/personal account info. No foul there. Maybe he’s not as ready to settle down as he claims if he’s still making silly comments to IG girls.
This does not apply if you’re referencing comments that are from before you were together. Only after. It’s still lame imo but ya can’t blame anyone for something done before you were part of their life.
I just went though a divorce after I found out my wife cheated on me…my advice, block and delete her. Also, don't dive into the bottle. Try and work through is sober, you'll get back on your feet faster and it might avoid doing some stupid shit.
That’s your boundary, you knew he watched porn so why wait till now for it to be an issue
It’s a natural thing for men and woman to watch..
Your being unreasonable and unrealistic if you think you can stop him.
It’s not cheating at all and that a slap int he face to people being cheated on.
Oh okay im sorry if in my m post im suggesting that we will date but no thats not the case
Gag and Tim can't spell apparently either
Okay but who’s more important? This guy who would literally try to be with two sisters at the same time, or your sister? Both of you drop this dude and mend your relationship.
She’s your sister. They went on dates. He is off limits to you eternally
yeah it rules its own 3 inch kingdom
Go ahead and separate them, and get a few u-haul boxes (or packing boxes from Home Depot) to put them in. The sooner you take action to move her out, the better. At this point, she hasn’t followed through on the promise she made to work, you’re doing the cooking and housekeeping and supporting her. She’s contributing nothing. She’s had weeks now to make other living arrangements. It’s past time, my friend, to end this situation and proceed with restoring your space, sanity and we’ll-being to a healthier level. My best wishes to you.
I always feel like I'm the culprit because I bring up things that have been making me unhappy in our relationship, when he feels that everything is okay.
This is extremely common. One person in the relationship (usually a woman) ends up doing the majority of the physical and mental labor in a household and the other partner (usually a man) gets by with less than the bare minimum until the first partner gets fed up. The first person will bring this up with the second over and over until they finally leave and then second partner will be shocked shocked that the other person was unhappy.
He is showing you who he is. He is showing you how the labor in this relationship will always be. If you break up and then get back together, he will be in line for a few more months before falling back on old patterns. You are very young and as someone who has been there, done that, he is not going to change his behavior for you. It's up to you whether you can live with that, or not.
This isn’t my account, it’s a throwaway of a friend but I noticed the irony in that ? sadly that’s been the main issue I’ve dealt with considering most people my age are sexually active
My advice to you is to break up today and get it over with. Breakups are always naked but you will certainly not regret it
Yes, he's preying on you and it's gross.