You definitely called it with the hot thing this is from one of OPs other post yesterday:
She leans heavily towards the financial domination type relationship and goddess worship. I pay the rent, I do whatever she wants, whenever she wants and she’s used the term “hot wife” to describe herself.
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The unique part about us is that I'm committed to her, I don't have another partner and she would freak out if I slept with another woman. If I'm okay with this for now, is this sustainable?
Idk, I fail to see how doing a boudoir photoshoot for her hubby makes her an idiot, and I fail to see how that ‘idiocy’ can be compared to the idiocy of sucking a random stripper dick at her bachelorette party shortly before getting hitched. you are quite literally comparing the two, but I digress.
I can speak to this as someone whose mother had an affair. She was always my moral compass growing up and when I found out, it was extremely destabilizing. All of the choices I'd made modeling myself after her, all the advice I'd asked her for, it all felt tainted. I took some time off our relationship and didn't really speak to her for six months or so.
That was years ago and we now have a very strong and loving relationship, but it is different. I don't trust her perspective on relationships as much, I don't come to her for advice in the same way. We almost have more of a friendship than the mother-daughter relationship we once had. I love her and while I find her choices in that regard abhorrent, I have come to understand why she made the choices she did and people are complex.
It's possible your son will come around. You just need to be respectful of whatever space he takes and not push. I also think it's vital that you take responsibility for the fact that these were your choices and not blame your sister for the entire situation.
That he did.
I can’t keep going back and forth with you on this. Fact of the matter is if your “best friend” fucks your ex, he can’t be trusted. Simple as that.
You definitely called it with the hot thing this is from one of OPs other post yesterday:
She leans heavily towards the financial domination type relationship and goddess worship. I pay the rent, I do whatever she wants, whenever she wants and she’s used the term “hot wife” to describe herself.
And
The unique part about us is that I'm committed to her, I don't have another partner and she would freak out if I slept with another woman. If I'm okay with this for now, is this sustainable?
My eggs dry up by 35 so that’s pretty much the same thing
Idk, I fail to see how doing a boudoir photoshoot for her hubby makes her an idiot, and I fail to see how that ‘idiocy’ can be compared to the idiocy of sucking a random stripper dick at her bachelorette party shortly before getting hitched. you are quite literally comparing the two, but I digress.
I can speak to this as someone whose mother had an affair. She was always my moral compass growing up and when I found out, it was extremely destabilizing. All of the choices I'd made modeling myself after her, all the advice I'd asked her for, it all felt tainted. I took some time off our relationship and didn't really speak to her for six months or so.
That was years ago and we now have a very strong and loving relationship, but it is different. I don't trust her perspective on relationships as much, I don't come to her for advice in the same way. We almost have more of a friendship than the mother-daughter relationship we once had. I love her and while I find her choices in that regard abhorrent, I have come to understand why she made the choices she did and people are complex.
It's possible your son will come around. You just need to be respectful of whatever space he takes and not push. I also think it's vital that you take responsibility for the fact that these were your choices and not blame your sister for the entire situation.