Do you consider it cheating if he takes a shower in a public shower where other people could unintentionally or intentionally see his genitals as he showers?
That's why I asked. It's naked especially when you haven't been in another relationship. This isn't love, its obsession and control. Your gut feeling is correct that he is controlling and unfair. He crossed some major boundaries by taking your phone and texting your friends from it and deleting numbers. I don't even think it's worth trying to talk to him about it, I would just get out. Take his phone and delete your number from it.
I think she’s someone who is going to exploit any space you give her. I would recommend looking into adult services in your area and respond to ANY requests from her with their details and “I’m sorry mom, I can’t help but these people can.” If she’s that active in her church they may have resources that aren’t part of the government
I would just tell her that what she did really hurt and that you no longer see things between you going anywhere. I would give her a chance to explain herself so she can't spin this as you being a jerk and not hearing her out. But just realize this is a huge red flag and an indicator of future behavior it's better if you drop her.
I'm sorry but i have to disagree here. I could literally be OPs wife. My husband does photography with close friends. If any of them came to me with a suggestion like tht id tell them to fuck off. And id tell my husband.
How is this appropriate for a married woman? If she wanted pictures taken she cldve asked a female friend or a female photographer.
Those memes/tiktoks of husbands following their wives or complaining about not getting an invite to the shower is how it should be
Do you consider it cheating if he takes a shower in a public shower where other people could unintentionally or intentionally see his genitals as he showers?
That's why I asked. It's naked especially when you haven't been in another relationship. This isn't love, its obsession and control. Your gut feeling is correct that he is controlling and unfair. He crossed some major boundaries by taking your phone and texting your friends from it and deleting numbers. I don't even think it's worth trying to talk to him about it, I would just get out. Take his phone and delete your number from it.
That would make such a great episode
I mean cheating aside, she had a party with 10 to 15 people and someone was drawing on your furniture. This isn't a 19 year old woman, she's 42.
It sounds like your issues with her extend beyond cheating.
Sure. Whatever. Her abuse is a reaction to his abuse. Shame on him for abusing her before she abused him.
Who cares? None of it matters. The relationship is toxic and they should just cut it out.
I think she’s someone who is going to exploit any space you give her. I would recommend looking into adult services in your area and respond to ANY requests from her with their details and “I’m sorry mom, I can’t help but these people can.” If she’s that active in her church they may have resources that aren’t part of the government
I would just tell her that what she did really hurt and that you no longer see things between you going anywhere. I would give her a chance to explain herself so she can't spin this as you being a jerk and not hearing her out. But just realize this is a huge red flag and an indicator of future behavior it's better if you drop her.
Do they interview, good luck. If you’re already questioning the relationship why would you skip the interview?
get away from this man. He's a mean drunk and to be honest sounds slightly sociopathic. Nothing good will come of this.
I'm sorry but i have to disagree here. I could literally be OPs wife. My husband does photography with close friends. If any of them came to me with a suggestion like tht id tell them to fuck off. And id tell my husband.
How is this appropriate for a married woman? If she wanted pictures taken she cldve asked a female friend or a female photographer.
There isn't any excuse. That's hella weird.