I’d tell her you have a personal reason and you’re not comfortable discussing it, apologize for leaving her wondering what’s going on, and ask her please not to ask again, as you don’t plan to go into the details.
I really wonder why anyone would think they are entitled to these rigourous invasions of privacy. If you don't trust him, you don't trust him and your relationship isn't built to last. If you feel you have to check his phone, conclude you don't trust him and move on. Your toxic behaviour will only make it much much worse.
People should stay off each others phones unless they have permission. Spying like you did is utterly toxic.
Thankyou I appreciate that so much.
To answer your title question 0.00001%. I mean you do you no-one can online your life but it wouldn't be acceptable for me.
This does sound controlling.
You used a tagged story to find out where she was and then dragged her away from her friends.
There are means and ways to talk about alcohol addiction with someone – this isn’t it.
OP is the other woman and she's pissed they are trying to work on the marriage and wants the wife to go back into her corner.
You're welcome. I know it sucks but better is out there- I promise. But always advocate for yourself.
I’d tell her you have a personal reason and you’re not comfortable discussing it, apologize for leaving her wondering what’s going on, and ask her please not to ask again, as you don’t plan to go into the details.
I really wonder why anyone would think they are entitled to these rigourous invasions of privacy. If you don't trust him, you don't trust him and your relationship isn't built to last. If you feel you have to check his phone, conclude you don't trust him and move on. Your toxic behaviour will only make it much much worse.
People should stay off each others phones unless they have permission. Spying like you did is utterly toxic.