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Room for on-line sex video chat Michellecinnamon
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Date: November 5, 2022
Well for one thing you're way too controlling. You have his location? You're not his mother. Seems like they were best friends and you made him feel like that was some horrible betrayal and now he has to hide his friendship. Which could very well have pushed him away from you and towards her even more. In the beginning it was fine and it probably would have stayed that way if you hadn't been so insecure. You made the situation worse by making it something he feels he has to hide because it is in no way acceptable for you to make him choose between you two. Now he's trying to maintain both and keep his friend but fear of your lashing out he deletes things so you don't go off on him. If he could just have his friend without worry then maybe when you're so paranoid he'd still have convos to show you that would reassure you to chill out.
Now that's all before you made this mess even bigger. There's a good chance you do have something to worry about now and it sounds like that's your own fault. If he does see her differently now it probably has a lot to do with being comfortable around her when he can't be around you.
You would both be better off ending it. He deserves someone who doesn't control him and dictate who he is allowed to be friends with and log his every move by GPS. You deserve to take some time to build more confidence in yourself and get passed this insecurity. People in relationships are allowed to have friends of the opposite gender. Not everything is a threat to you. When you're more confident in your relationship and trust the other person you'll be able to actually see when someone might be a threat instead of just picking off every female your partner speaks to.
I will say it was rude of him to say he wishes you were like her and smoked weed. That's not something you say to your partner. But the rest of this seems like self created problems.
He’s insecure tell him that and then block him lol it’s that easy
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This is a pretty long post but I really can't condense it much, and already left a ton out, because I think adding a little context and a few examples is important before the situation itself.
So to summarize, my sisters and I have never had a particularly good or close relationship. I was always the “annoying little brother” and despite regular and significant attempts to have a close relationship with them when I was a kid and in my teens it was never meaningfully returned by them. When they went off to college, one after the other, they disappeared from my life almost completely despite attending a college literally only 20 minutes away. When I graduated and went to college I went to an university three hours away and during that 5 year period I literally only saw and spoke to them on holidays; I would regularly return home on weekends, about once every 4-6 weeks on average, but they would virtually never make the effort to come see me and when they did I believe it was forced by my parents.
So cue me returning to our home city about 11 years ago now and suddenly my sisters, who are both married and simultaneously pregnant with their first at this point, act like everything is fine and I am just supposed to assimilate now into their lives as they see fit. And that is how it has been ever since, multiple kids later for them (they have 2 and 4 kids now, respectively) – and I have attended virtually every single birthday party, holiday, and family get together. I gift their kids really nice things usually and sometimes just at random because I want to and because since I don't have children of my own it's fun to gift them stuff (Nintendo Switches, Xboxes, VR, laptops, toys, games, movies, etc). I do so because I want to, not because I have to. I like being the cool uncle and have no major bones to pick with their kids, although I feel sometimes they are somewhat rude or kind of indifferent when I'm not giving them presents because my sisters generally don't speak to them about me very positively. I accidentally caught the oldest child of my 42yo sister telling the oldest child of my 39yo sister that “we hate him” (referring to their family in general I am assuming) when he asked him about his opinion of me.
I should say that, and I have really thought about this pretty extensively and am rabidly open to self criticism, that I have never done anything to hurt my sisters or make them angry with me and have simply tried my best to do right by them, at least to the extent that they have even allowed me. On the flip side, they constantly act like I am a fool, that the things I say are petty and meaningless, and that my life is less valuable because I am single and focus on different things than they do. They never call me, text me, or talk to me outside of family events; and attempts by me to reach out to them are generally returned with short and sometimes cold answers. They have been to my residence a collective total of three times since I moved back 11 years ago; they act odd or offput when I mention maybe having a get together at my place and usually use some excuse based around their children as to why they can't. I make good money and spend it on myself, which especially my oldest sister seems resentful of; she went on a huge tyraid about our uncle and his sports car and how pathetic it is he cares for a car so much and that it makes him an asshole. I have a sports car, I care about it – these statements were clearly meant to be proxied at me just sitting on the couch minding my own. My sisters are firmly middle class and in no way hurting for money, so it's not like anything I do is an afront to them. We have just lived different lives. A few years ago I was having an medical situation that had been going on for a couple of months at this point, and I told my mom I think I needed to go to the ER and probably shouldn't drive myself; my mom called my sisters and told them they needed to come get me and take me. When I got in the car they didn't immedietely pull away and take me, they instead acted kind of annoyed and kept asking me if I actually needed to go or if I was just having a panic attack or some sort of mental health crisis (I have a history of neither). They eventually took me to the ER and acted continually kind of annoyed while there. The ER and a CT scan didn't find the issue that night, unfortunately, and my oldest sister (whom is a nurse) continued to act like my issue was all in my head while I continued to pursue answers. An MRI some time later however revealed the issue and I ended up needing surgery, my oldest sister never so much as apologized or even acknowleged it. In her mind I am and was a weak fool and when it turned out something was actually going on I think it bothered her because it went against her internal narrative. She didn't so much as text me after my surgery, instead simply called my mom and asked how it went.
I have brought this up to my parents, especially my mother who is kind of the mediator of the family, over the past several years that I feel like my relationship with them is an twisted sort of one way street and it doesn't feel right and causes me anxiety. She always just passes it off – she ends up just blueprinting my sisters lives to me and makes excuses for them. One thing that has bothered me the most over the years, and I brought it up in a big way with the family a couple of years ago, is that I am never part of the family event planning and if I ask anything be adjusted to fit my schedule it boils down to “sorry you can't be there, maybe next time”. A couple of years ago I was working on doing maintenance on my work car for my business, changing brakes and fluids, and they texted me at like 2pm and told me they had decided to have a family dinner and that it was at 5. As usual no one asked me or talked to me. I asked them if we could do tomorrow night instead – nope, sorry. Tonight. I told them I was upset, that they do this to me all the time, and that I was tired of it. My sisters ignored me, my mom called me and acted like it wasn't a big deal and basically implied since they have kids it was always on me to drop everything I'm doing and work around their schedule. I am fully aware they have kids, and both am willing and actively do work around that for their sake all the time, for years. They couldn't wait one day for me, after leaving me out of the planning as usual entirely and just springing it on me. I told my mom then and there, if this continues, I'm done. My sisters are out of my life and I don't care about the rammifications of that. She told me she had talked to them and it would not happen again.
Nothing changed, I put up with it for two more years.
So cue the straw that broke the camels back a few weeks ago. It's Friday, I am tired, I didn't sleep well the night before, I don't feel great, I'm just lounging in bed playing games, and I was planning on getting some work done that evening for my business. My family group thread gets a text with my mom asking if we could get together for dinner, I respond as soon as I see it, about 12 minutes later, saying I couldn't tonight but I'm all open Saturday and Sunday. My sister responds and says they had already decided to have dinner at 5 that night, apparently they had called each other and decided that (without me, of course). I can't be there I said, can we do Saturday or Sunday? She said Saturday or Sunday wouldn't work; Satuday night their kids have a soccer game, fair enough, but Sunday night doesn't work for them because “they don't want the kids going to bed late”. I know for a fact their kids don't go to bed every night at some hardcore set time, and our family dinner wouldn't have gone much past like 8 anyway if we met at 5. My mom says if I can't make it maybe we can have lunch Monday also. I can't, I have to probably meet with a client on Monday. Why can't we just meet Sunday night, the kids stay up late sometimes I know they do, it's not a big deal? Nope. Not happening apparently, a bridge to far. It was an excuse, they just don't value me enough to make the tiniest adjustments on my behalf, despite me regularly working my life around them.
I texted that I was upset, no response from my sisters. My Mom called me and asked if I could “just make it work”. I reminded her of two years ago and the conversation we had. Not. One. Single. Time. In 11 years. Have I been included in the scheduling of these things or had any sort of leeway given when things are just thrust upon me, and I literally hardly ever ask, I usually just adjust my life quietly in the background to accomodate their life. Not one, single, time. I don't have kids but I am a 34yo man. I run a business. I have a personal life. I'm not a 24/7 gas station. I have a life too. I told her how bad I felt my relationship with my sisters was, and that I was done. This was it. There was no foundation holding this together. They don't even
NTA, this is completely unreasonable.
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We bought the house here but have no support system at all. We had to literally throw a random neighbor down as an emergency contact. Its a small command with like 3 people in his office, and we on-line an hour from if work so it's not like they don't want to help, it's just not realistic. So I'd definitely have to move back home to my family if I were going to be single parenting.. which I can do I'd just need to find another job and everything.. I also already gave notice to this job and we had already started to buy the house in the new place so that is another huge stressor :/