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miapatrick chat
Date: November 2, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
miapatrick chat
Look, you probably shouldn’t have told her to be quiet(that’s dismissive and no one likes that), but am I understanding that she then shoved a sleeping woman? And then was screaming and crying? That’s an overreaction, assault on someone who was asleep and defenseless, and over the top. She should have kept her anger directed at you, and used her words. I don’t like this, and why, or cut it off or whatever, not physical and then screaming. That kind of a reaction is not okay and regardless of whether you upset her or not with your actions (you did), her response is not a healthy one.
I don’t have a problem with you telling her what you like but then let her decide.
I think you could frame this as “hey babe, I want you to know that I am much more excited to have sex if I'm the one who engages things.”
If you want to be clearer, I'd say something like, “the sex is fine but lately I've found that being directly touched down there is a bit odd for me, can we focus more on this other type of sexual contact? Cause that feels much better.”
It is a tough situation though. Hope it all works out!
UpdateMe!
We read enough stories here in RA that start with “My GF went to a party and …” where that sentence ends in all manner of sexual behaviour (also works the other way around, BFs can be just as bad).
He doesn't like the idea of you getting drunk and having sex in a bathroom with some frat boy you've just met. Also he was a frat boy so he knows they they can't be trusted.
Is he otherwise controlling? Does he make your relationship all about his decisions (where you eat, what you wear, how you spend weekends)?
You have a right to live your life for you and not for anyone else but you need to do what's right for you and he needs to do what's right for him. If you want to party and he says that you're finished then so be it. If you choose him over parties then so be it but don't be resentful later because you have a free choice.