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Have you considered/tried couple’s therapy? This is one of those situations where it doesn’t sound like anything has happened that you can’t recover from.
A big part of making relationships work is understanding there are some things people can improve and there’s some they can’t; likewise there are some imperfections in your partner that you can live with, and there are others that you can’t. Only you can decide where that line is, and a therapist would likely be better suited to help you navigate this than a bunch of internet strangers. 8 years is a long time to be with someone, and it sounds like despite some very valid concerns of yours, he’s also managed to be a good partner in many ways.
All that said – sometimes you fall out of love, and you no longer have the heart to put in the effort necessary. If you’ve already reached that point, it’s better to move on than to continue to drag this out. In the end you’ll likely only bring each other.
Based on what you said about the drugs, it sounds like he goes through drug binges doing weed and mushrooms regularly over the course of a few weeks. Completely understand why that would be problematic for you.
I’d add that it’s hard to give much of a recommendation without more details. You say you believe he’s getting lazier, but then immediately backtrack and say that’s not necessarily true – what habits has he started to display that would make you think that?
You say that he’s not great at making people feel better, and you’re tired of crying by yourself and walking on eggshells. Are you continuing to bring him into those situations to be a support for you, or are you closing him off from those conversations entirely and essentially swallowing it?
I’m 44F so I don’t get all these games around “left on read” or “double text” or whatever. If I want to reach out to someone, I just do it. So I would message her now. Nothing crazy just a check in.
Well it depends, I truly do dislike when she gets drunk, cause she always gets hammered. With the smoking, I dislike it and don’t want it ever to effect me and would hope that my partner feels the same way.
In what way do you mean I seem confident in my way?
If she can’t ever control her drinking I’m really sure this won’t be able to keep going. The weed smoking is only more okay because she almost never does it
She is not his friend , she is his ex who wants to get back with him.
Unless he cuts off the friendship 100% and blocks her you should break up. She has zero respect for your relationship and by continuing to see her he is engaging a one sided emotional affair & leading her on.
Your still being too vague, your not gonna get any good responses. Stop being over dramatic and describe actually what happened and what advice your literally looking for
The man is trash but just a heads up that depending on when this happened you may not test as pregnant even if you are. The chances of getting pregnant at any given time are slim but I’d wait until your period is supposed to come to be sure.
Well, it just sounds like he literally doesn't have the time for a relationship and is prioritizing the things that are most important for his future. I know it sucks that you're not one of the priorities but he's making an adult decision to better himself. That doesn't mean that you'll never exist in that world. Just not right now. It seems like even if you were closer, he still wouldn't have the time or effort available to make you a priority.
Admittedly you have a good point, but in my experience most people just hate the idea of sharing someone they are with
does anyone know where i can read the original post it’s been deleted
> he views food as an expression of love and that he would like me to make our dinners on the days that we’re working.
> He also reminded me that making dinner is how I can show him that I love him.
I mean I'd be more concerned about the blatant manipulation than the actual chore list. Gross
Have you considered/tried couple’s therapy? This is one of those situations where it doesn’t sound like anything has happened that you can’t recover from.
A big part of making relationships work is understanding there are some things people can improve and there’s some they can’t; likewise there are some imperfections in your partner that you can live with, and there are others that you can’t. Only you can decide where that line is, and a therapist would likely be better suited to help you navigate this than a bunch of internet strangers. 8 years is a long time to be with someone, and it sounds like despite some very valid concerns of yours, he’s also managed to be a good partner in many ways.
All that said – sometimes you fall out of love, and you no longer have the heart to put in the effort necessary. If you’ve already reached that point, it’s better to move on than to continue to drag this out. In the end you’ll likely only bring each other.
Based on what you said about the drugs, it sounds like he goes through drug binges doing weed and mushrooms regularly over the course of a few weeks. Completely understand why that would be problematic for you.
I’d add that it’s hard to give much of a recommendation without more details. You say you believe he’s getting lazier, but then immediately backtrack and say that’s not necessarily true – what habits has he started to display that would make you think that?
You say that he’s not great at making people feel better, and you’re tired of crying by yourself and walking on eggshells. Are you continuing to bring him into those situations to be a support for you, or are you closing him off from those conversations entirely and essentially swallowing it?
I’m 44F so I don’t get all these games around “left on read” or “double text” or whatever. If I want to reach out to someone, I just do it. So I would message her now. Nothing crazy just a check in.
Well it depends, I truly do dislike when she gets drunk, cause she always gets hammered. With the smoking, I dislike it and don’t want it ever to effect me and would hope that my partner feels the same way.
In what way do you mean I seem confident in my way?
If she can’t ever control her drinking I’m really sure this won’t be able to keep going. The weed smoking is only more okay because she almost never does it
She is not his friend , she is his ex who wants to get back with him.
Unless he cuts off the friendship 100% and blocks her you should break up. She has zero respect for your relationship and by continuing to see her he is engaging a one sided emotional affair & leading her on.
Lady, that’s a lot of words for your man wanted to stay hot despite whatever issues he’s going through
And if you think going after him is going to help him open up, think again
Your still being too vague, your not gonna get any good responses. Stop being over dramatic and describe actually what happened and what advice your literally looking for
Really interesting that OP says “western WOMEN” but “Thai GIRLS”
Life is not worth living without fried food. Cut down, not out.
The man is trash but just a heads up that depending on when this happened you may not test as pregnant even if you are. The chances of getting pregnant at any given time are slim but I’d wait until your period is supposed to come to be sure.
Have you considered family counseling? Teenage years are tough for all sorts of families, mixed and biological.
I would suggest atleast going to the police, alot of places are adopting the idea of this being assault by failure to disclose
where did you get that I’m jealous?
Well, it just sounds like he literally doesn't have the time for a relationship and is prioritizing the things that are most important for his future. I know it sucks that you're not one of the priorities but he's making an adult decision to better himself. That doesn't mean that you'll never exist in that world. Just not right now. It seems like even if you were closer, he still wouldn't have the time or effort available to make you a priority.