You are describing probably 95% of relationships I've encountered, and those other 5% I just didn't know well enough to witness their mental instability.
If you're going to climb Everest, you need time, energy, Sherpas and it's going to be a slog.
First, get your BF to commit to spending the shared day off with you and only you. Tell him that just because there aren't plans set in stone doesn't mean he can abandon you. Get his family to help. On your shared day with him, they should work to do things with twin sister.
Then, see if you can get the pattern to hold. If he starts canceling to spend time with his twin, text him a 4 line block message:
Today, on our shared day off, when you should have been with your girlfriend, you instead blew me off to spend time with your twin. I do not know if or how you can make this up to me.?
Use something to make it easy to spot in your text chain. Mark it in your calendar. Keep track. Have a threshold. 1 skip drops every 2 months, 3 skips piled up with nothing to show as an apology and you dump him. Let him know he'll always have his twin.
You openly admit to using your husband for money and producing two kids from a long term affair with your boyfriend and you are surprised that your children are disgusted that their parents are shameless scam artists?
There's no going back, maybe try family therapy. And teach your kids not to use people.
Is not the same, and you have to know that.
If my GF calls another guy (and not me – important) when she has an issue, then we're not a unit. Might as well be FWB.
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You are describing probably 95% of relationships I've encountered, and those other 5% I just didn't know well enough to witness their mental instability.
If you're going to climb Everest, you need time, energy, Sherpas and it's going to be a slog.
First, get your BF to commit to spending the shared day off with you and only you. Tell him that just because there aren't plans set in stone doesn't mean he can abandon you. Get his family to help. On your shared day with him, they should work to do things with twin sister.
Then, see if you can get the pattern to hold. If he starts canceling to spend time with his twin, text him a 4 line block message:
Today, on our shared day off, when you should have been with your girlfriend, you instead blew me off to spend time with your twin. I do not know if or how you can make this up to me.?
Use something to make it easy to spot in your text chain. Mark it in your calendar. Keep track. Have a threshold. 1 skip drops every 2 months, 3 skips piled up with nothing to show as an apology and you dump him. Let him know he'll always have his twin.
You openly admit to using your husband for money and producing two kids from a long term affair with your boyfriend and you are surprised that your children are disgusted that their parents are shameless scam artists?
There's no going back, maybe try family therapy. And teach your kids not to use people.
Do both? My bio dad was never in my life but I had many father figures. I danced with my stepdad, my grandpa and my two uncles