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Date: October 4, 2022
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I'm considering it, just don't want to mess things up.
You will never get over this. Only sane thing to do is leave while its never too late!
We cannot control what we dream, but his insistence on telling you is so very concerning. This isn’t just about dinner in the next few days, this is about the rest of your relationship. Are you going to be supervised by your bf until your father dies?
I’m not saying telling your mum is the solution, but this needs to be brought into the open in some way. Perhaps address this with
I know. I was being naive about the situation but again I have known her for 7 years we have dated for 2.5 and our families are super tight.
But the biggest reason I didn't believe it was because for 3 years now she has always said she is not attracted to certain types of guys because they “aren't her type” and this guy… was in that group of “guys I am not physically attracted to.” IF that makes sense without getting me canceled.
So I was like — she has never given me reason to not trust her and it obviously wouldn't be a guy that looks like THAT if she was gonna do that anyways.
I was just being dumb.
There's nothing wrong with either of you. Break ups aren't always because somebody did something wrong or for red flags. Breakups are sometimes exactly the way you feel. There's no blame on anybody. You have the feeling that you might cheat, and you are starting to value your time away from her. Those are the red flags. On paper it can look like great, to your families it can look great, none of that matters if you just don't feel happy to be with her anymore. Each relationship has NRE and butterflies that go away, but you should still feel happy and supported together after the seriousness settles in. You are starting to hate yourself because the rational side of your brain says that she's great, but the emotional side of your brain just isn't interested anymore. This will lead to resentment and maybe cheating, all while you put on a happy face around friends and family. She's already guilt tripping you into staying so neither of you are really in this to make each other happy.
I know the value of family and intimacy. I was raised strict Christian and was obligated to marry young because we had sex and introduced to family and living together. If you stay it will be a long difficult road since you already have lost the attraction to be with her.
If it was about a choice you made about the hair on your head
This would be a very different convo in the comments
She's lying to you bro, you called it as is, half truths and lies. More is going g to come out and you wo t like what you hear, I'd say it's rational to take a step back and re-assess your relationship. But one I beg of you is don't fall for sweet nothings in your ear.
I don’t think anyone ever said hate. Indifference is quite different than hatred. It’s simply neutrality. I don’t think anyone suggested you can’t break up without it being a nuclear war.
I would never disrespect my husband by telling an ex I love them. Because I don’t, and I respect my marriage and my spouse.
I kiss my closest female friends, if that's a way they are comfortable showing affection. Some of us kiss, some of us air kiss, and some of us stand arm in arm. Stuff like that. This can be a cultural difference, and sometimes how physically affectionate your family of origin can determine your comfort with non romantic physical affection. It's different, of course, if there's romance involved.
I have seen a lot of my female friends hot. No big deal, especially if we go shopping or get ready for a night out together. Dressing up for costume parties, stuff like that. Can be innocent. I can think of lots of reasons to have seen friends hard (very hot tubbing/hot springs,/beach). But you'll have to ask your wife what's up.
That you're upset is good info for you to consider your boundaries you may want. Either way, you need to talk to your wife and work together to make agreements about what is and is not crossing the line for you both. What makes you comfortable, what doesn't, what would cause you further concern? All of those need to be something you talk about. And communicate about clearly.
Good luck!
Something very similar happened to me at exactly the same age.
It started off with clothes on, and slowly the high pressure tactics and manipulation started. I’m an extremely forward person, but I guess my nervous system got overwhelmed and I found myself feeling like the best/safest/fastest way out of the situation was to go along with it to a point. I knew I didn’t want to keep going, but I “forgot” how to advocate for myself in the overwhelm and confusion.
Basically, I trusted the person. When they turned the tables and started pressuring me, I was overwhelmed and my nervous system put me in “freeze” mode. Also maybe there was a hint of violence underneath if I didn’t comply? No! Not violence, more like blackmail.
Like the wife, I had also signed a consent before the shoot started. I trusted my friend. They betrayed me.
It can happen to anybody.
WTF? No. First of all, she doesn't need a 5 carat ring. Second of all, why would you EVER think that crossing this boundary is in any way a good idea.
Thank you so much for that, I’m so appreciative that I can get this advice from somebody who has experience.