What was the context for your son straight up telling your parents he prefers his grandma to them? Because while it’s zero shock it feels like an unnecessarily harsh thing for a child to say.
I was incredibly close to my maternal grandparents (similar living situation as yours) but it never occurred to me to tell my other grandparents that! That’s not helpful of kind, and honestly my grandparents would have been horrified if I behaved that way.
However, your family needs to chill. You’re not actively avoiding them, right? If they want a closer relationship then they will need to work at it. That means time and effort and cooling it with score keeping. And there’s nothing wrong with having a different but still meaningful relationship! But everyone needs to let go of expectations and let things develop organically.
Internet mom here too and I whole heartedly agree with other commenter. You honestly don’t have to tell ahead of time it is happening. Especially since you’ve already broached the subject and he guilted and manipulated you to stay. He would just do it again. Also, it’s possible to escalate. I’d plan to move things while he’s at work or out. Leave a note explaining you have left. Don’t leave your new address. Block him on everything. Make it clean and don’t drag it out.
You do not have to leave your space but I support like spending an hour in the weight room/ gaming room while she has someone over, you can check in once in a while.
it does sound odd unless you have told her she's not aloud to go out with friends alone because that would be a reason why she phrased it this way? Trusting you are not the bad guy OP ?
You’re married, but you’re the third wheel. They’re together apart from you and they’re having a baby. I’m sorry to say it, but this relationship – yours – is over. They need you if he’s not working, but they aren’t valuing you and you aren’t their partner.
Try? Try for what? He cheated on you, lied about it, and used that lie to manipulate you into marriage.
You can try (as you have been) all you want, but he clearly has zero respect for you or your relationship. Sticking around, or giving it time, or forgiving him, or letting him get away with what he did is not going to make him magically step up and become a good, honest, faithful husband.
In fact, nothing will — he has demonstrated that he does not care about your feelings or relationship.
It’s hot to leave a relationship that is familiar and (arguably) comfortable, but if you stay, he will cheat on you again if he hasn’t already.
What was the context for your son straight up telling your parents he prefers his grandma to them? Because while it’s zero shock it feels like an unnecessarily harsh thing for a child to say.
I was incredibly close to my maternal grandparents (similar living situation as yours) but it never occurred to me to tell my other grandparents that! That’s not helpful of kind, and honestly my grandparents would have been horrified if I behaved that way.
However, your family needs to chill. You’re not actively avoiding them, right? If they want a closer relationship then they will need to work at it. That means time and effort and cooling it with score keeping. And there’s nothing wrong with having a different but still meaningful relationship! But everyone needs to let go of expectations and let things develop organically.
Internet mom here too and I whole heartedly agree with other commenter. You honestly don’t have to tell ahead of time it is happening. Especially since you’ve already broached the subject and he guilted and manipulated you to stay. He would just do it again. Also, it’s possible to escalate. I’d plan to move things while he’s at work or out. Leave a note explaining you have left. Don’t leave your new address. Block him on everything. Make it clean and don’t drag it out.
Stay safe.
yet this phenomenon is less common among gay men.
you lack self-respect.
You do not have to leave your space but I support like spending an hour in the weight room/ gaming room while she has someone over, you can check in once in a while.
it does sound odd unless you have told her she's not aloud to go out with friends alone because that would be a reason why she phrased it this way? Trusting you are not the bad guy OP ?
You’re married, but you’re the third wheel. They’re together apart from you and they’re having a baby. I’m sorry to say it, but this relationship – yours – is over. They need you if he’s not working, but they aren’t valuing you and you aren’t their partner.
Try? Try for what? He cheated on you, lied about it, and used that lie to manipulate you into marriage.
You can try (as you have been) all you want, but he clearly has zero respect for you or your relationship. Sticking around, or giving it time, or forgiving him, or letting him get away with what he did is not going to make him magically step up and become a good, honest, faithful husband.
In fact, nothing will — he has demonstrated that he does not care about your feelings or relationship.
It’s hot to leave a relationship that is familiar and (arguably) comfortable, but if you stay, he will cheat on you again if he hasn’t already.