I'm a crier. There's a difference between being in touch with your emotions and being so steeped in trauma that you cannot see past them. This man needs a therapist, not a girlfriend.
I wonder if he could have a bit of caregiver burnout? If he was good a few years ago, maybe he's running on empty.
It could be worth a conversation about how he is supported to support you – does he have a good network? Could you get a cleaner so he isn't picking up so much housework if you're not able to do things? Do you have friends or family who might be able to do some of the things he currently does to help you/your household?
We started dating during covid so I was seeing him a maximum of 2 days a week so it wasn’t like I was seeing that he didn’t shower. And things are different when you first get together people are cleaner and do more until the relationship settles down:)
Should you give her a chance?
You did. She failed.
By-By.
I'm a crier. There's a difference between being in touch with your emotions and being so steeped in trauma that you cannot see past them. This man needs a therapist, not a girlfriend.
I wonder if he could have a bit of caregiver burnout? If he was good a few years ago, maybe he's running on empty.
It could be worth a conversation about how he is supported to support you – does he have a good network? Could you get a cleaner so he isn't picking up so much housework if you're not able to do things? Do you have friends or family who might be able to do some of the things he currently does to help you/your household?
Also a reminder that it's not a baby until it is born.
Overly high maintenance from someone who likely doesn't merit the effort she requires
Then your husband is part of your problem and hampering your recovery.
I’m sorry.
Would he respond to lists of ‘this is fine, this is not fine’?
You need a new therapist.
We started dating during covid so I was seeing him a maximum of 2 days a week so it wasn’t like I was seeing that he didn’t shower. And things are different when you first get together people are cleaner and do more until the relationship settles down:)