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It sounds like a difference in love languages. Some people tell others they love them, some buy gifts to display affection, others show you tough actions how much they care about you. It sounds like he’s doing a good job of showing you he cares about you but you want more words. Maybe try to find a quiz you can take together to do spark a conversation about how you both show and prefer to receive love.
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Thanks this was extremely helpful! Real nervous and probably overthinking it.
i think therapy is a start. But really, you might need to be single for a while to work on you first. Not saying it's because you're crazy or anything, but it is supremely harder to work on yourself while also working on a relationship.
And what do we do with shitty partners that don't care about our safety, boundaries and mental health?
(we dump them and find someone better)
I get it. I’m deep in autistic burnout and had to move in with my folks. Maybe as part of the divorce process your attorney can help get with the disability process and finding a caseworker? This offloads those tasks to someone who does them professionally and you don’t have to feel responsible for them but you know they’ll get done.
I also suggest a blog called “black girl, lost keys” who has booklets that break all this kind of household stuff down into adhd friendly steps.
Also those fair play cards are good for really seeing what goes into household management. Not that it’s your job to teach her but that it might help to know you’ve left her some tools.
Fwiw, you gave every right to take care of yourself. It’s not about her not caring tho. If that helps. We feel pretty broken when we fall apart like this. I promise she’s feeling awful inside. She’s trying she’s just not meeting you where you need her too. That’s not your job. I’m only suggesting you think kindly of her while you disengage.
I've been struggling with depression since high school and I didn't know it. My wife and I got married in our early 20s. Our first decade of marriage was not so good. I was an asshole and said hurtful things, was emotionally abusive and she should have kicked me to the curb. I would have deserved it.
Her best friend noted that I was lashing out and being hurtful and asked her if I had ever been diagnosed with depression. I hadn't, I didn't know I was depressed. I thought I was just “short-tempered”. Got on meds and it was a 100% turn around. My wife says/said I was literally a different person.
One thing I can say unequivocally is that drinking can drill past the medication and tap my trauma. If I over-drink, I can lose the ability to tame my tongue. I don't want to ever hurt her like that again.
I have no opinion on whether your relationship is over; I am most definitely of the opinion that you should refrain from alcohol.
My wife and I celebrated 27 years this year. I am fortunate she could see past my bullshit. There is hope for you, but you have to own it and make radical changes.
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We have been married 9 years and have 3 kids together. Husband had a vasectomy and we used condoms religiously because although we love our children we didn't want more. Husband is 100% the father. How do I tell him I'm pregnant? What do I do if he accuses me of cheating? How do I explain to him how this happened when I don't understand it myself?
Update: I have told my husband about the pregnancy. Apparently, he never got the all clear from his doc. The sperm sample he sent in came back as inconclusive and he never gave another one. I also, asked him about his condom use in the last month and other then switching brands he couldn't recall anything out of the ordinary.
He fully trusts that this baby is his. He knows he screwed up by not doing the follow up. We are both pretty shocked and trying to come to terms.. our youngest will be 6 when baby arrives. Didn't imagine having to go through all that again.
We are making an appointment to get him checked out so his vasectomy can be fixed. And I will be looking into my options of permanent birth control.
I agree with you, its been tough she's explained to me that she essentially doesn't feel a single emotion for anyone besides her grandmother. I even tell her “hey are you not feeling ok?” or “do you feel this way because of how your grandmothers situation if so I understand.” but she just gets annoyed by the concerning questions because I ask her frequently whenever I get worried or overthink.