Yes, he would be a complete idiot if you gave her a second chance because it would be like a 15th chance since you’ve known all along, she’s been doing this stuff you just haven’t known to what extent and how much pleasure she was taking from playing you.
Her addiction and mental health issues are hers to fix. She has committed prosecutable crimes against you. What more does it take?
Did she have a healthy father figure in her life? The stereotype is true as women who don't get proper attention early in their lives will look for it elsewhere. Since sex always gets a man's attention, that's where she's focused on.
There's nothing you can do to help her. She has to want to help herself. But she has to realize she has a problem first. Maybe that's where you can start.
First of all, talk with him. You can set boundaries that you want. But he can choose to not accept those boundaries even if it means breaking up with you.
Second, I find it odd-and maybe I shouldn't-that you have an OF showing yourself to strangers, but dislike it when your bf looks at the photos of other woman who are doing the same. Again, maybe I shouldn't think this is odd. Is it that you dislike the thought of strangers looking at you that way, and do not want to see your bf in the same light? If so, please tell him clearly.
Yes, he would be a complete idiot if you gave her a second chance because it would be like a 15th chance since you’ve known all along, she’s been doing this stuff you just haven’t known to what extent and how much pleasure she was taking from playing you.
Her addiction and mental health issues are hers to fix. She has committed prosecutable crimes against you. What more does it take?
I got sucked in and now I’m wondering how and why I fell for any of this or put up with even half of it.
Closest equivalent I can think of is TERF bangs, which are similarly off putting
Did she have a healthy father figure in her life? The stereotype is true as women who don't get proper attention early in their lives will look for it elsewhere. Since sex always gets a man's attention, that's where she's focused on.
There's nothing you can do to help her. She has to want to help herself. But she has to realize she has a problem first. Maybe that's where you can start.
First of all, talk with him. You can set boundaries that you want. But he can choose to not accept those boundaries even if it means breaking up with you.
Second, I find it odd-and maybe I shouldn't-that you have an OF showing yourself to strangers, but dislike it when your bf looks at the photos of other woman who are doing the same. Again, maybe I shouldn't think this is odd. Is it that you dislike the thought of strangers looking at you that way, and do not want to see your bf in the same light? If so, please tell him clearly.
Hope you can work things out.
I would love to see this post