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Date: November 21, 2022
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I would just leave, if it’s an owned home…get a lawyer. Your safety comes first and foremost, and I got goosebumps just reading your post. Get out of there now.!!
Change your passcode and stop giving her access to your devices. She has to learn to trust you and she needs to stop the snooping once and for all.
Dude if you pay for her school she’s going to dip as soon as she graduates
Don’t fall for it
Maybe ask your gf if she is into role play, might be fun for you guys
you don't seem very smart… ☹️
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Exactly. So you came to my point that it’s preference and comfort. To drag a girl because she has a preference is weird to me. And honestly, I would say here we just know one side of the story. Usually I support OPs. Here something about his language to the way he says certain things gives a wrong feeling. Some people have way of kissing like bad forced kiss at wrong time and wrong places. Call me conservative but for a 19yr old boy to have 7 relationships does raise an eyebrow. But that’s me.
I wanted to ask her cause I was really confused but I didnt because if I did she would've gotten mad at me for being confused. I just didnt wanna make things worse at that point, we had been going at it since 10pm and we're both really tired. I know her love language is quality time and I go out to visit her mostly everyday if there are no classes
“I believe that a woman with principles would have been more aware of her actions”
She WAS aware of her actions. She just doesn't have the same principles as a principled woman.
I'm going to pre-apologize for the wall of text. This is a complicated topic and I'm in the middle of an ADHD obsessive focus moment. Sorry.
As other commentors have said this isn't a personal judgement on you so much as a numbers games. You're not getting any attention because there're just so many guys out there wanting casual hookups. I think one dating app has a ratio of four men for every woman on it.
How has your relationship changed with your girlfriend since you agreed to open up the relationshop? How do you feel having agreed to it? And how has your girlfriend reacted to your lack of success?
If you do a search for text posts about open relationships on Reddit then you start seeing a pattern. A hetero sexual couple are in a monogamous relationship. The Asker, your girlfriend in this case, asks their partner, you in this case, if they can open up the relationship. The partner, a.k.a. the Asked, initially says no. But the Asker persists and finally wears down the Asked who reluctantly agrees.
In alot of cases I've read the Asker either already has someone lined up to sleep with or is interested in sleeping with a specific person. If the Asker does end up sleeping with that person then the Asker's relationship with the Asked tends to either get sidelined, or just ditched entirely.
If the Asker either doesn't have a specific person lined up or they're turned down then there tends to be a gendered split of possibilities. If the Asker is a hetero woman then she'll get plenty of interest from guys who are looking for a casual, no strings attached, one night stand. If this continues she may end up meeting someone she decides to ditch her partner, the Asked, for. If a hetero man? Well he tends to end up in the exact spot you're in.
What happens concurrently with this is that the Asked, their relationship with the Asker taking a backseat while the Asker experiences the thrills of either casual sex or a new partner, feels neglected. If the Asked is a man then he gets depressed, as you are, because no one wants to have a casual hookup with him. In at least a few of the Reddit posts I've read the male Asked ends up meeting someone and starts a relationship with her. He does this because the new woman, unlike the Asker, actually wants him and only him and puts time and effort into their new found relationship. Something the female Asker no longer does.
If the Asked is a woman then after moping for awhile she decides that she too is going to try having casual hookups. As your girlfriend has found out she gets lots of attention. A real ego boost after the body blow to morale that is your Significant Other asking for an open relationship.
In any case, whether Asked is a man or woman and vice versa with the Asker, the less successful partner eventually turns to the more successful partner and says “This isn't working. I/you thought/said this'd be fun. But it isn't.” and asks to close the relationship. In most cases the more successful partner says no. Either because they're still having fun sowing wild oats or are now fully committed to their new partner.
The relationship between Asked and Asker breaks down and there is either a break-up or an as-good-as a break-up.
The more successful partner moves on with their life, whether that's to the hedony of new conquests every night, or to a new committed relationship. The less succesful partner sits in sorrow and wonders how everything went so wrong.
With some open relationships, in this series of events, the Asker will notice the Asked pulling away from them and will drop everything to emotionally beg for the Asked's love once again. The Asked, having already been spurned once before by the Asker asking for an open relationship, declines and gets on with their life. The Asker, fearing the loss of their emotional safety cushion, will have an Extinction Burst (Read up on it, it's very interesting) causing them to bombard the Asked with attention and affection in an attempt to win them back.
If this works then there will be peace, for a time, but eventually the Asker's thoughts will start wandering again and the Asked and Asker's relationship may turn into a cycle of Asker straying, Asked leaving, and Asker begging the Asked to take them back.
I'd like to point out here, in this very long text, that this isn't all open relationships or non-monogamous relationships. It's just what I've observed from reading a ton of posts begging for help from a ton of monogamous hetero couples who've opened their relationship without doing the groundwork. So basically a compilation of what's gone wrong, not what's gone right. Unfortunately because what's gone right doesn't result in unhappy people complaining on Reddit there's nothing for me to do pattern recognition on.
Now that that disclaimer is out of the way I'd like to talk about psychology. As in why, psychologically, this happens.
First lets examine the Asker. The number one thing I've noticed from the Reddit posts is that they're immature. They don't consider their partner's, the Asked's, needs, wants, or desires. Instead it's about what they want and what they desire. Sometimes what they want is the excitement and thrill of sleeping with someone new while keeping ahold of their emotional safety cushion, the Asked. Other times they ask for an open relationship to hobble the Asked's emotional and mental state and stop them moving on. Sometimes it's because the Asked doesn't want the Asker calling them a cheater because cheating is bad and the Asker isn't a bad person (In their mind) so what they do musn't be called cheating and so they coerce an agreement so it can't be called cheating. Hence why open relationships are known as permission to cheats.
Sometimes they project their wants and desires onto the Asked. “Oh this'll be so good for our relationship. We can sleep with who we want and then come back to each other like nothing at all has changed!” even though that's not how emotions work. If they're men they often overestimate the likelihood of them getting any interest.
For established relationships it's often that the Asker's gotten bored, and is looking around for something intersting while not losing what they've got until they, and not the Asked, is ready to leave.
Now onto the Asked. The number one thing I've noticed with the Asked is that they're reluctant. They don't want an open relationship but they've been elbowed reluctantly into one. They don't like seeing the Asker leaving for dates and they don't like knowing where they've been when they come back.
There's a ton more I could write (As I said ADHD obsessive focus moment. Sorry) but it's getting late here so I'll leave some advice. For a non-monogamous relationship to work it needs a ton of communication. Not just once, but continuously. This communication needs to cover everything from the practical “What time will you be back?” to the theoretical “How will you feel if I do…?” and everything in between. There're several subs on Reddit r/Nonmonogamy, r/Polyamory, online support groups, and a ton of books you can buy. I'd suggest reading them all.
Unfortunately I predict your relationship with your girlfriend won't last, but I hope it does. If you want it to then both of you need to work at it together. Best of luck and I hope my advice helps (Also sorry for the huge wall of text).
This man is going to start having erectile dysfunction and heart problems by the time you’re 25 – at the beginning of your life and you being your hottest. Do you need that?
Yep even though I really like her but I think I need to cut this loose before I get hurt
I mean, I try to get information that is as specific as possible so that a. i know I fully understand it and b. in my experience, the devil is in the details.
I do know he is frustrated that we don't have time to do some of the stuff we did when we started dating and were younger, but also, we're older and have a kid now and I feel like we should be past the wild party stage we were at when we met and more in the adult stage.
As far as talking to him about her, though, it feels like the problem is that nothing really has happened and he's just going to tell me that nothing wrong is happening and why isn't he allowed to have friends at work. He's just going to say him going out for lunch isn't going to lead to him falling for anyone if I don't have something concrete to point out as a concern.
Wait did you only physically see him once? All this and only had sex once?
Another chance so she can become somebody she isn’t? Dude. Get out now. You deserve better. It’s not a joke, it’s her kink.
This is a red flag and in no way should you put up with this. Can you ask the landlord/whoever for a new parking pass? (Personally I would lie and say it was lost but that's me.) If you go this route though he may be very angry and retaliation such as destroying the new one is not out of the question if he is in fact abusive and starting to show his colors. I would highly recommend leaving him at that point.
Whoever it was… send them on a wild goose chase.
Text the friend to say that you’ll be later than bf Let BF go alone Rock up 2 hrs later and see what he’s up to.
Prepare for being single again.
Not the same thing.
“You are a bitch” = I do think your character is flawed and bitchy.
“You are acting bitchy” = I do not like the way you behave! It feels bitchy to me.
Two clearly distinct things!
Why do you even need the internet to spell that out?
So, I am someone’s mom : 1) meet the guy there, never leave your drink unattended, make sure someone knows where you are and if possible text that person at a designated time ( even if just the letter x) to make sure you are safe 2) this is the first of many matches, if you don’t feel a connection, kindly say goodbye, don’t lead him on, and if it is him not making the connection it is not you, it just isn’t the right guy and 3) have fun, you sound amazing.
Definitely already is.
She says it directly:
Recently we've had a lot of discussions about the fact that he wants children and I do not. He's known this about me for a long time, though I think he believed he knew me better than I knew myself and that I would change my mind.
This states pretty clearly that she did not change her mine or even consider it.
Your “suggestions” are bad and don't make any sense.
Her dad is moving, which is what started this problem. How would she be able to just “stay with her dad awhile longer?”
Why on earth would she want to move in with a guy she's been with less than a year, AND HIS PARENTS? Come on.
It's very unlikely that she even has other friends that just so happen to be looking for roommates at the exact same time that she is, in the same area she is, with the same budget she has. And even if she did, just because you know someone does NOT mean you're compatible to online together.
Does anyone here who is a female with a bf be ok with their bf moving into an apartment with their friend who lives the party life and constantly brings girls over not bother you. You’re a liar if you said it won’t.