I get it, but he made a decision to be with her. It's not fair to you or her if he sees you on the side, even if it's just emotionally. Cheating is cheating. Don't do that to yourself.
You’re young, so I want to be more gentle than I’m about to be, but this is a tough love moment instead.
What you did was incredibly, horrifyingly wrong to your boyfriend. I come from an abusive family, and any partner who forced me to meet with them because they thought they knew what was best for me is someone I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with.
Your post and comments come off incredibly egotistical, condescending, and concerned only for yourself. You ripped open your boyfriends old wounds, got him assaulted by his father, and all you’re concerned with is that your no longer being called by your pet name because it comforts YOU?
What about your boyfriend’s comfort? His safety and security? You violated all that because you thought you knew best.
You aren’t concerned one bit about him. It’s all about you. I really wouldn’t be surprised if he ends things with you, and honestly, based on how you’re acting, I 100% think he’s right to do so.
You really need to grow up and learn emotional empathy for others if you want to be in a healthy relationship. You seem to have it for yourself in spades – learn how to have it for others.
My advice seek therapy you have some serious narcissistic tendacies and will destroy your marriage. Take this with a grain of salt it's just some things you said strike me in certain ways.
Oh boy if the tinder was her suggestion then she manipulated you into this and you guys “choosing” him, hmmm could be he was just there waiting in the wings.
Dump him and move on. You don’t need someone who tries to get a rise out of you by bringing up traumatic event and wishing it was worse, especially over something so trivial. That’s a huge red flag.
If he’s doing sexual things to you in your sleep, and you don’t want him to do those things, then yes he is sexually assaulting you in your sleep. He may not see it that way, but if he can’t control his behavior in this situation, then I don’t see how you can continue to be together.
I actually thought about it being a BPD rage thing but I don’t know too much about BPD
Oh, girl. You are so young, and this guy is not a good one. Do you live together? Do you have a job? There are so many better men out there.
I get it, but he made a decision to be with her. It's not fair to you or her if he sees you on the side, even if it's just emotionally. Cheating is cheating. Don't do that to yourself.
u/shadowknuxem
I hope this finds it way to you
You’re young, so I want to be more gentle than I’m about to be, but this is a tough love moment instead.
What you did was incredibly, horrifyingly wrong to your boyfriend. I come from an abusive family, and any partner who forced me to meet with them because they thought they knew what was best for me is someone I wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with.
Your post and comments come off incredibly egotistical, condescending, and concerned only for yourself. You ripped open your boyfriends old wounds, got him assaulted by his father, and all you’re concerned with is that your no longer being called by your pet name because it comforts YOU?
What about your boyfriend’s comfort? His safety and security? You violated all that because you thought you knew best.
You aren’t concerned one bit about him. It’s all about you. I really wouldn’t be surprised if he ends things with you, and honestly, based on how you’re acting, I 100% think he’s right to do so.
You really need to grow up and learn emotional empathy for others if you want to be in a healthy relationship. You seem to have it for yourself in spades – learn how to have it for others.
Don't make a production out of it.
Italia a pretty simple request.
Hey i would appreciate it if you would do xyz for me.
My advice seek therapy you have some serious narcissistic tendacies and will destroy your marriage. Take this with a grain of salt it's just some things you said strike me in certain ways.
Oh boy if the tinder was her suggestion then she manipulated you into this and you guys “choosing” him, hmmm could be he was just there waiting in the wings.
Dump him and move on. You don’t need someone who tries to get a rise out of you by bringing up traumatic event and wishing it was worse, especially over something so trivial. That’s a huge red flag.
If he’s doing sexual things to you in your sleep, and you don’t want him to do those things, then yes he is sexually assaulting you in your sleep. He may not see it that way, but if he can’t control his behavior in this situation, then I don’t see how you can continue to be together.
im running…… what would u do? im guessing what u advised above? ahah