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Mashablow Public Chat Channel
Date: October 7, 2022
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Well… In that case this is not normal and not ok. This is not behavior that should be tolerated at all. It's ot too far from wiping his ass then touching your face.
Even if you know people that think this is normal you need or understand anyone that says this is normal is gaslighting you. You need to show him u mean business and be strict with him
It's odd because often people don't actually change their whole value system that quickly and usually come up with reasons why their relationship is different. That she's made such a comprehensive change in her stance so quickly makes me wonder how much her bf is in her ear.
But if it makes me uncomfortable i can say something, she literally calls him by his first name
To tell you the truth I would have continued to follow and started with the horn , what she was up to would not have gone unanswered.
Honestly, I would just ignore him, and not engage with any of it.
If you try to hire security or tell the wedding coordinator to tell him, any of that, it’ll all come back on you anyway. He, and his enabling parents, will blame you for it. And then a big rift will develop, your in-laws and everyone upset, he will cause a big huge scene and ruin everything. He wins. And he goads you into looking bad in the process. You can’t win in the game that’s being played right now.
So just don’t play that game.
Remember the scene in the Office where after Michael fell in the fish pond, everybody poked at him cuz of his uncomfortable reaction. And kept poking. It was only when he took the coaching and upped the ante and poked at himself (so now their barbs didn’t land), it all went away.
You are marrying your blushing bride. You get her family, and you’re not marrying them. At the wedding, if he wears a clown suit, he’s not embarrassing you. He’s only embarrassing himself. Rise above. Don’t play his game. You ignore him mostly, never react.
It sounds like your wife doesn’t support his behaviors. And she wants her parents and family at her wedding of course. So stop talking about it. If he’s the idiot who wears a clown suit to his sisters wedding, let him die on that hill.
He can be referred to as ‘the brother who had so little respect for his sister he wore a clowsuit to her wedding. Only ever poke in that zone, how little he supports his sister (not how little he loves her cuz he can say I love her not you). How he isn’t there for her, goes against her wishes, and disrespected her very wedding. Don’t be an asshole about it, don’t let him get your goat.
He loves hearing you called his parents to plead your case. That’s part of his game. It won’t work. They are enabling him.
Later, and forever, when he makes his ‘jokes’ that are very mean, call him out. Be direct and simple. Tell him ‘that wasn’t funny. That was just mean.’ and very specific about how it actually hurts. No embellishment, call it out, don’t react, ignore, rise above.
Nothing is a ‘private matter’ with someone who you only know very casually. Secrets and private matters are in close relationships. Which is why you don’t go from 1 to 100 like this.
man dropped fax. also we're overlooking the obvious red flag
probably won’t remember anything with how much she’s drank
We’ve been friends for 5 years, a couple for 4, married for 1. I still get a thrill when I open my eyes in the morning and see him next to me. When something happens, good or bad, he’s the one person I want to tell.
Don’t stay in a relationship that isn’t working for you. This man isn’t awful clearly; there are many many positives, but you’re looking for something more. And this isn’t it.
You can choose to settle. Many do. But your heart isn’t in this and you’ll become increasingly restless and resentful. And that never ends well.
Of course there’ll be regrets. That’s natural. Because there have been good times and he’s supported you through difficult times. Reading your post it feels like this is part of your life’s story. If it’s no longer what you need, be grateful for this relationship and move on. It can be painful when things end, but sometimes necessary.