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pussy [Multi Goal]
Date: November 24, 2022
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pussy [Multi Goal]
My partner and I are the same, it doesn't really mean anything if you both are happy otherwise. Could just be an anxiety you are having cuz u don't feel “normal”.
Hi. I had a gal that did this for sometime. I didn't setup watch or “camp” out for moments…I simply could just tell. She's either slightly pushing off the wall or moving bed while in place. She believed it was prior relationship triggers. I made her feel safe and she's never had them since.
Well sad I guess
Male perspective here
So this basically says to me that he doesn’t respect you and is not even trying to make an effort
Seriously a guy really into you would want to be around you, would happily plan an exciting date/adventure and you’d have none of the above issues
You shouldn’t have to be subjected to anything that makes you uncomfortable, the fact he keeps sending you porn and laughs off you not wanting to see those videos / pictures says to me he has no respect for you
I would say he’s hoping to go abroad, probably have affairs with multiple women and expect you to stay home and live! like an 1800s nun and that you will take him back at the end of it??, which is why he panicked when you changed the direction, He see’s you as some back up plan not to mention someone he can control and you deserve to be someone’s first not second choice
Now it’s your turn to take control and send him on his way
Seriously you deserve SO much better and this guy will only lead to heartbreak , I promise you in years to come you’ll realise the bullet you dodged ???
He's experienced a lot more life than you. He's had lots of relationships, had time to earn and save money, advanced his career, etc. All that equates to power. He, as a 44yo man, has a great deal more power than you.
How this often plays out is that he will offer to support you, pay for trips, move you into his home, buy you things. Maybe encourage you to not work, or work only casual jobs so your schedule is flexible and you can do whatever at the drop of a hat. Which sounds great, right? So much fun! Until you realize that you've not built a career of your own, have no financial security of your own, and are stuck because you're dependent on him. Once you're dependent, he may begin to manipulate you into doing things you're uncomfortable with, or cheating, or treating you badly/being abusive, and you won't have the resources to get away. Even if he does none of those things and you just decide you want to break up, it will become clear very quickly that you don't have the money or work experience to stand on your own two feet.
It's common in age gap relationships for the man to either dump the woman when she's out of her 20s, or when she starts to catch on to the manipulation tactics and begins to question his behavior. Then he'll gaslight her so she thinks she's the problem, and the abuse continues.
This is a well -documented pattern in relationships with large age gaps. It's possible for them to work, but it's very rare.
Well you did essentially break up with her. There's no way to say “lets start seeing other people” and not have the person you're dating take that as a literal break up.
But I do agree she was absolutely having an emotional, if not physical, affair with this guy. She didn't seem too keen on fighting for your relationship, probably due to the distance, if her only response to you expressing concerns was “good to know”.
Also for future reference, if you are suspicious of a possible emotional affair maybe don't message the person and say you're sorry about “being weird” and saying you're “jealous of their connection”. You need to actually stand your ground and not apologize to your girlfriend's affair partner.
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I did a stupid mistake asking her to hang out this week w a friend which she declined obviously lol. Hearing this hurts me ngl but it's the truth I kinda don't want to admit to myself because at one point I kinda looked at her as a sister (corny I know) now she switched so crazy
I’m not sure what a one sided relationship is but it definitely doesn’t sound fair. If he wants an open relationship, you need to consider if that’s something you’d be open to. If he wants to have a side piece, you need to consider how you feel about that. You’ve been supporting his life and paying his bills, and it sounds like he’s paid you back by cheating with a coworker???
Then why do you think you're the one who gets to dictate how she communicates?
Yes I'll talk to her and sort this out immediately
Red flags on: – telling you what you should do especially since it's taking care of him – on showing up uninvited to your gym – blaming things on you – wanting to keep track of you
Leave him, he's only going to get worse and meaner. He wants to control you.
Everyone on this thread HAS treated him better than she did, tbh. It is sad that literal strangers have more compassion than the one person he's supposed to be closest to. Time to end the relationship, she isn't even doing the bare minimum of supporting her partner through trauma and grief.
Well now you see why he made you sign that agreement and who’s the real leech. Don’t you dare start helping, this is very twisted, I would not be surprised if the huge fights and problems start after mortgage has been paid with you contributing.
Tell him plain and simple: “I will start contributing towards mortgage if you change the agreement, I will not blindly follow your steps and end up on the street if something does not work out, and if you expect that from me, that is an eye opener” I believe his reaction would be enough for you too see that is time to move out.
Agreed! It really sounds like she's holding onto the pain rather than than deal with it in an mature way.
I think you need to evaluate your relationship with your family. You seem like you're in constant fear of being disowned.
Running away with this guy probably won't fix things. It is a rather convenient way of making that thing you fear actually happen though.
He treats you nice so you’ll tolerate the abuse
Maybe it's good that I don't; it would be depressing to know everyone is emotionally bankrupt.
I go along with it as yeah it's clearly jokey but I'm worried IRL he'd want all this and I am not about that. Think yeah I've made up my mind.
I go along with it as yeah it's clearly jokey but I'm worried IRL he'd want all this and I am not about that. Think yeah I've made up my mind.
That's still selfish-ish … Expecting her to be on your beg and call.
Unfortunately I wish this was a joke lol.
What a kook. A high pony is so cute.
What a kook. A high pony is so cute.
Is your mothers name Angela?
Exactly this
I am sorry but I would never stop. I don’t care what my fiancé would think. I can’t support them as much now but I did all I could and will do as much as I can. You need to talk but better to not keep finances together. My bf view wouldn’t change the fact that I would stop helping my parents. They had a vacation? So what? They deserved it
You absolutely do. The feeling might be spontaneous, but you have control over how you REACT to that feeling.
You are allowed to feel a little disappointed if you want sex and he doesn’t, but that doesn’t mean you have to dump that onto him or make a whole thing out of it.
Life is full of all sorts of little disappointments, and as adults we shrug our shoulders and move on.
Why do you think you’re not doing that in this case? Why is this so different than the store being out of the soda you wanted to buy, or it raining when you had planned to go to the beach?
Nope, legit 26 years old just staying here till divorce is finalized and it led me to where I am. From an abusive spouse (see other posts on account) to an abusive mother.
Looking at a very good paying job a couple counties away that may help and a house to rent.
He says he has become a lot more vanilla and finds the other stuff too much now and gets turned off by it. However he still stumbles upon questionable stuff occasionally (he says at most 1-2 times a year)
If you feel like a friend when sex is off the table, it sounds more like just physical attraction than an actual relationship. Do you guys plan on getting married any time soon?
Yeah I’ve been trying to find a therapist for months now but no one has been able to take my insurance unfortunately. So I’m just waiting till a spot opens up.. it’s been months since they said they’d call back tho and I’ve been checking in as much as I can but no luck. So all I’ve been doing is just letting this terrible ideas get worse and worse. I feel so bad for my bf because i don’t have anyone to “debunk” my unhealthy theories. I’ll keep trying to find one tho. Thanks
His reaction is VERY DISTURBING. It is NOT normal to sexualize a baby photo. I would break up with this person because he has unresolved issues that he is making yours and you don’t need any of that, not when you’re 18 and just starting your adult life.
There is no reason to stay with him.