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I came here to chew gum and fuck some men. All out of gum. #Young #curvy #lovense #bigboobs #tattoo
Date: October 23, 2022
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There’s never a perfect time for anything. Me and my partner are breaking things off now after nearly 5 years, right before Christmas. I’ve come to terms with it because I had to, not because I wanted to. You’ve got this.
Oh honey, no. No no no. Those mistakes you speak of are not even close to each other! He tried to baby trap you, force you to be a mother against your will, he turned consensual sex into non-consensual sex (since it was not fully informed), this man is a piece of trash and you can't trust him. He does not respect you or your bodily autonomy. This is absolutely appalling behavior and it's not even CLOSE to you not saying you can't have kids, but saying honestly that you WILL NOT have kids.
Agree with others that suggest a short reassurance that the ring isn't ready yet – do not overwhelm her now with all the details and what-fors- maybe later after you are engaged you can indicate it was a journey
Leave this guy already, not because of this necessarily but because of other posts you’ve had. Stop dragging your feet and just leave him already.
You are correct that you don’t owe anyone marriage, but do you realize what marriage IS? For better or for worse, in sickness and in health?
Being sexually compatible is a good thing to figure out before marriage, but people change and so does health and energy and lifestyle. If you get married, you are promising to love and cherish them through those times.
You shouldn’t be getting married until you are willing to reevaluate that statement of “I couldn’t stay married if sex was 1-2 times a week.” Wait to marry until you are willing to stay even in sickness and in health.
You have other nights where you prefer to nap. You could be gaming, why not. Oh, wait.
On the weekends when I get home from work and she’s off we spend all day together
So, when the stars schedules allign?
Date nights once a month? Wow, a lot.
Vacation? And? Roommates don't do vacations? Friends with benefits do vacations as well.
Again, does she stay out with her friends past midnight on a regular basis?
You seem very careful to avoid certain questions.
Apparently she already knows.
He’s had a history of being way too flirtatious with girls at parties especially when he is drinking. They always assume he’s hitting on them. He is already naturally super outgoing with girls and I feel uncomfortable since I’m not there to make sure he’s not doing anything like that behind my back.
Agreed. Block and move on.
I’ve thought the same thing that there seems to be something amiss since he has not seemed to be too concerned in the past with saving for a house. But at the same time is adamant that the only way to move in together is to buy one.
Then he should have stopped.
Without a enthusiastic yes there is no consent and he did keep pushing after sh was clearly not interested.
I don't really know what top tell you except that what he did was unacceptable, and if he can't find a way to get consent from you without ruining the moment, then he shouldn't try anything at all. Asking if someone wants sex from you is IMPORTANT, and he should settle for nothing less than ENTHUSIASTIC CONSENT. Not a, “no” and then you enjoying the massage you thought he was giving you because he loves you, and not just as a precursor for sex that you already said no to.
I think you definitely need to have a conversation about boundaries at the very least. Ultimately the only person that can decide if it's considered cheating or not is you because they are your boundaries.
I don't understand why you dated someone who has an occupation that you believe makes them a dangerous person by default. You seemed really happy to have those connections until you weren't
I don't think somebody crying over an ex is ready to be in a relationship either lol
Your therapist would probably be the first to tell you that anything prefaced with the word “anxious” isn't something you should just live with. The “attachment style” concept isn't etched in stone to where you can't work hard to change a toxic “attachment style”. If this guy is “avoidant” he could probably use some therapy too. But while you're working on yourself you have to not undermine this relationship by being a B all the time. If someone is “avoidant” the fastest way to drive them off is to be “hurtful”. So even if you have to fake it with him then go home and punch a pillow, you can't let your “anxiety attachment style” get all over him.
If that is the case then you should stop seeing her.
Obviously her past sexual escapades matters to you since you yourself only had sex with those you are in relationship with.
If this is your dealbreaker, stick to it. Dont keep guessing what ifs what ifs. There are alot of women out there to choose from.
I hope you find what’s best for you!
All of this unhappiness and unhealthy conditions around should be enough information to make a decision. It should be perfectly clear that there is nothing in this relationship that you can improve to make it suitable for you. Move on.
Now days you basically have to assume everyone is cheating and just deal with what’s in front of you. Welcome to hookup culture.
Your post relieved me because despite I don't even know who you are there are many things in common between what I lived and what you said.
Once again, you keep saying that and yet you're the one who has been sitting here literally all day trying to convince us you're right and we're wrong. ???♀️ At this point I'm going with troll… Because if not, you're literally just a self-absorbed psycho obsessed with these two and that's just unfortunate and sad.
You don’t coerce someone into having a threesome if you love them. All he cares about is his feelings. You should be with someone who respects you and loves you. I personally would break up with this person.