it makes sense to me, it can feel overbearing when your SO knows literally every move you make and everything you ever do. that’s one of the reasons i use reddit, i’m not hiding anything, i just like the sense of privacy (J, if you’re reading this, don’t lol)
So I called my best friend and he told me he also doesnt remember anything but when he woke up he was in my bed in his shorts and he freaked out and ran away
Tbh, the fact that he knew this and didn't say anything is not a great look here.
Either you cheated. You were violated by one or more people you thought you could trust, or both of you were violated by one or more people you thought you could trust. And since you are sure you didn't cheat, there's only one option that makes sense.
Maybe if you were gone several months, you'd have a case. But being out of town just 2 weeks, it is a bit much to insist she drop everything and see you.
We both work from home, and so we’re getting a 2 bedroom and converting one bedroom into an office.
Would be a no for me. You barely know each other, what's the rush?
(I still live with my parents),
Move into a flatshare, or get your own place first….become more independent and get to know your SO better. Right now, you're still in the early honeymoon stage, and who knows if you're still going to be together in 6 months' time.
If you go low contact with them and don’t include them in the pregnancy and maybe that will make them more aware of how this is impacting the relationship with you and your GF and the baby. Don’t cut them off just don’t make them a priority.
Change your passcode to something she cant get
it makes sense to me, it can feel overbearing when your SO knows literally every move you make and everything you ever do. that’s one of the reasons i use reddit, i’m not hiding anything, i just like the sense of privacy (J, if you’re reading this, don’t lol)
So I called my best friend and he told me he also doesnt remember anything but when he woke up he was in my bed in his shorts and he freaked out and ran away
Tbh, the fact that he knew this and didn't say anything is not a great look here.
Either you cheated. You were violated by one or more people you thought you could trust, or both of you were violated by one or more people you thought you could trust. And since you are sure you didn't cheat, there's only one option that makes sense.
Maybe if you were gone several months, you'd have a case. But being out of town just 2 weeks, it is a bit much to insist she drop everything and see you.
Thank you so much for this. I did read Why Does He Do that and it was basically a life changing book for me.
We both work from home, and so we’re getting a 2 bedroom and converting one bedroom into an office.
Would be a no for me. You barely know each other, what's the rush?
(I still live with my parents),
Move into a flatshare, or get your own place first….become more independent and get to know your SO better. Right now, you're still in the early honeymoon stage, and who knows if you're still going to be together in 6 months' time.
If you go low contact with them and don’t include them in the pregnancy and maybe that will make them more aware of how this is impacting the relationship with you and your GF and the baby. Don’t cut them off just don’t make them a priority.