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He is abusive and a trash human being. He will never change. There is NEVER a good & sane reason to call your partner mean names. He is extremely controlling by never respecting your words by letting you speak. I dated a guy like this too. Emotional abuse every fucking day. I could never talk to him about his behavior, because he would get angry, deny it, turn it around on me, accuse me of starting a fight, and snap. I would anonymously ask for advice on Reddit on how to deal with his shit, he found it, snapped, accused me of snitching and destroyed everything. He was only like this to me, as most abusers are & he would constantly remind me of what a piece of shit burden I was. On top of it all, dude was a creepy cheat, pretending to be single when I was standing right next to him, whether with coworkers or strangers.
If you can leave, do it as soon as you can. He will eventually abuse your child as well
I have read all the comments, and a lot of people assume I just flat out told him to stop watching porn. I have not, since I know that's not how things work.
Im hoping to find people in a similar situation, who have overcome it. I would love to stop worrying about it, I never asked for it, and it's not fun. I beat myself up about it a lot. Also I have no hate against people who are in the sex industry, as long as it's ethical.
I do know that I'm as big as a problem as he is, and I'm willing to change, but I don't know where to start.
Also people who are dming me porn are just so weird, so could you please stop that.
Instead of asking her what she wants, own what you want and just tell her. Then ask her how she feels about that. If you just say, “what do you want out of this?”, it sort of puts her on the spot if she isn't sure about your feelings or working through her feelings. But saying instead, “I am not interested in casual hook ups; I would like to progress to a potential real relationship. How do you feel about that?”. Then she knows exactly where you stand and you've opened the dialogue with trust rather than putting her on the defensive right away.
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He is abusive and a trash human being. He will never change. There is NEVER a good & sane reason to call your partner mean names. He is extremely controlling by never respecting your words by letting you speak. I dated a guy like this too. Emotional abuse every fucking day. I could never talk to him about his behavior, because he would get angry, deny it, turn it around on me, accuse me of starting a fight, and snap. I would anonymously ask for advice on Reddit on how to deal with his shit, he found it, snapped, accused me of snitching and destroyed everything. He was only like this to me, as most abusers are & he would constantly remind me of what a piece of shit burden I was. On top of it all, dude was a creepy cheat, pretending to be single when I was standing right next to him, whether with coworkers or strangers.
If you can leave, do it as soon as you can. He will eventually abuse your child as well
Make new and better sex tapes with her. Then you can watch them when you’re feeling down and see how much fun she is having with you.
I have read all the comments, and a lot of people assume I just flat out told him to stop watching porn. I have not, since I know that's not how things work.
Im hoping to find people in a similar situation, who have overcome it. I would love to stop worrying about it, I never asked for it, and it's not fun. I beat myself up about it a lot. Also I have no hate against people who are in the sex industry, as long as it's ethical.
I do know that I'm as big as a problem as he is, and I'm willing to change, but I don't know where to start.
Also people who are dming me porn are just so weird, so could you please stop that.
Look ahead. Not back.
Instead of asking her what she wants, own what you want and just tell her. Then ask her how she feels about that. If you just say, “what do you want out of this?”, it sort of puts her on the spot if she isn't sure about your feelings or working through her feelings. But saying instead, “I am not interested in casual hook ups; I would like to progress to a potential real relationship. How do you feel about that?”. Then she knows exactly where you stand and you've opened the dialogue with trust rather than putting her on the defensive right away.