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oil tits [Multi Goal]
Date: October 10, 2022
AmateurPub
AmateurPub
oil tits [Multi Goal]
Divorce now. Lawyer up.
He didn’t let you have a key to your own house. The next step is for him to make you quit your job to care for the baby and then you’re stuck relying on him alone to control everything you do because he pays for you, therefore he owns you. This is not a slope you want to slide down. If he claims this is normal, logical behavior, he’s not going to change. Statistics state that domestic abuse ramps up after a child is born, so this is the time to leave if you’ve been considering it.
Stay safe OP.
See all the fun you were “missing out” on? FOMO strikes again. Chalk this up as a learning experience and stop letting your genitals make decisions for you. Or don't, but learn to live with the consequences. Actions have real repercussions.
He is asking you to respect what you share of him to the world. He wants to be low key, respect that. He wants control of what the world sees of him, realistically without his permission.
If he were wise he should just report you to whichever social it is. He does not consent to his pictures being posted. You will be suspended and probably lose a boyfriend
The advice is to leave her.
Statistically, men overestimate the amount of chores they do. I've never seen that broken down by neurotypical/neurodivergent people, but your use of hedging language (“around half”) and saying you play with your kid but nothing about other childcare makes me think that you probably are not doing half the work. I agree with the other respondent that you should be doing the majority. Physical aches and pains don't preclude things like arranging appointments, meal planning, and other household management. Why is your “project” that might be a waste of time more important than saving your marriage? You've got a lot of excuses.
You've admitted in several comments that you have been frequently ignoring her when she speaks to you for an indeterminate time, but most of your comments frame her as the uncommunicative one, dropping hints without explaining, getting upset (as though that's a fault of hers and not a HUGE warning sign), etc. That's deceptive af. An hour ago u/emccm SPECIFICALLY asked you if she had repeatedly given you the clues you needed and defaulted to “figure it out” only because she had given up on hoping you would pay attention. You obfuscated, and instead of admitting that you frequently zone out when she speaks, you complained that she expects you to read between the lines and you can't. The truth is, you don't know how many times she has told you what she wanted/needed/worried or cared about when you didn't listen/hear her. If you won't be honest here, where you're asking for advice from strangers, you're probably a lot worse with her, when the stakes are higher. I worked with a guy who made me repeat myself over and over. It was disrespectful and crazy-making. If it was a genuine problem he would have made an effort to find strategies to do better. He was a major reason that I left that job. I'd never tolerate it in a partner.
You have expected your wife to be your entire support system/entertain you. That's a crushing emotional weight to put on someone even without all the other stuff, and if you always want her to do stuff with you (on top of her job, chores, and childcare) she probably doesn't have a lot of time to maintain her own support system. You mention that she cries when she talks to her doctors, plural, so she may have other health issues. No wonder she is depressed and emotional. That's an appropriate and healthy response to the stressors in her life, but in many comments you present it as her being essentially hysterical.
You don't seem to have made any efforts to improve until your wife filed for divorce. Even now, your efforts are creating a social media account and lying/making excuses after asking for advice. You don't even have a formal diagnosis, you've just decided for yourself that you have autism. I've got to agree with her. Your behaviour doesn't say “I love you”, it says you only care about your own happiness being threatened.
I hope that in the future she has a supportive partner. I don't have much faith that it will be you.
I know this is not correct and the reason I opened this post. I am not looking for validation, and would really like to stop with this behaviour, it is not fair to her, to our daughter and I don't even think the things I say are correct.
I am engaging in counselling and looking for advice on how to let it go.