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Date: October 10, 2022
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It sounds like what you disagreed with was a decision she made about something that doesn't affect you. You can in fact hold your tongue about such things. You could express concern, you could ask if she's considered another option, or — if she doesn't want to hear that — you can simply say that you hope it goes well.
From the little that's here, it sounds like the problem is you're one of those “brutally honest” people who thinks everyone needs to hear your stupid fucking opinion and she's sick of dealing with it.
You need to make like a tree and leave.
When people tell/show you who they are believe them
And the wife isn't bisexual
as far as he knows
Hmm. The way you judge her for her past (which was probably 20 yrs ago?) I think she should not be with you any longer. You'll find more things you're not gonna be able to get past the more you dig into her past.
Can you give us an example of said behavior or a situation where they didn’t like it
From an outsider perspective:
Marriage is for children and strengthening existing family connections.
Dating is for romance, sex and love
Honestly from what you say it doesn’t seem she cares to much to be apart of her daughters life, ultimately that’s for you to decide will you help and then she vanishes again that can also hurt and affect your daughter.
he tells me he is sorry and he didn't know why he did it. He thought I was laughing at him because apparently he fell walking up the steps to our seats.
That's just incredibly insecure and a dangerous anger management problem. Even if you were laughing at him, he shouldn't be throwing things at you.
But the fact you weren't, he imagined it completely out of thin air, and then threw things at you?
I'm sorry but I've got some bad news for you.
I might be so hurt because my relationship prior to my husband was abusive.
Your relationship to your husband right now is abusive. Maybe it's less abusive than your previous relationship, but that's like saying someone is good because they only punched you a dozen times instead of dozens of times like the las person to attack you.
You're cheating it's not just a friend. . I have an amazing husband who treats me like a queen, and nothing has changed in our marriage, we're in a very good place and we adore each other. I feel so undeserving. You feel underserving because you don't deserve it, he might treat you like a queen, but you certainly don't treat him like a king by cheating on him and valuing your “friendship” over your marriage. Try showing your husband this post so he can decide for you, he deserves so much better
tbh i think thinking it is really offensive but can’t be helped, just never do anything to show it and don’t say it
I think he’s got a lot of things to work on surrounding how he views sex. He has changed since he stopped porn but I think it’s the transition back into reality that may be difficult.
You can choose to invest in a person that's sucks or you can value your own self more. You have one life to live. Decision is easy for me, but upto you.
Relationships are not supposed to be naked and full of conflict. That's a myth made by lonely people clinging to terrible people they hope were better.
I misunderstood that part, my apologies! But, I misunderstood based on how it sounds like you have actively rejected a colleague after ending up in a taxi with them.
If she's rejecting your advances, you need to have an open conversation about that. A simple “I don't think we're on the same page sexually and I need to talk about that.” is all it takes to start that conversation.
If she's not open to having that conversation, you do need to consider leaving and whether or not this is a dealbreaker for you – which sexual incompatibility often is.
Not wanting op during the birth is one thing, having him wait 3 days to see his child is another.
Bro.. move on this shit is sad to read.
You're doing the right thing man. You will love being a Dad. You didn't abandon your child. It will be challenging but rewarding. Also it sounds like you are extremely fortunate to have such an understanding and supportive partner. Never take that for granted!
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Ha well I did
Demanding an apology for….? You can't MAKE people like you. You do realize that demanding an apology would switch them from “not caring about you” to actively disliking you, right? Not everyone clicks, that doesn't mean anyone needs to force it.
This isn't ok. You thought he had a penis and he doesn't. He should have told you from the get go. If he did tell you, would you have continued to date him? He probably thought no, and that's why he lied. Still not ok.
I've never seen this take, but I really like your perspective. Just the government's default prenup.
Contact her mother. As someone who has lost a family member to suicide, they never explicitly stated their plans. They alluded to it for months and then one day it just happened. Not to be grim here but my family member also had a tendency to withdraw for periods of time so when they did it, a couple days went by before anyone thought to check on them.
I may be having a knee jerk reaction due to my personal bias here but contact her mom.
You keep saying it. You don't have to convince us
Why are you still awake? Why didn’t you just go to bed at your usual time? I mean, he is a grown man and you are not his mother. I would have expected a text in your position saying something like “Having a great night, it’s going to be a late one!” at some point, but other than that, I don’t see the issue. He’s with friends! Is he not spending enough time with you?
JFC… thats fucked up.
It's like he's reverting back to pre-potty training behaviors. Maybe explain it like that, and he'll grasp the seriousness of the situation.
Please find all evidence of an affair and them plotting to make you look like a predator! Take him for everything in the divorce. No way they aren’t having an affair.
Tell him it hurts when someone you loves dumps you doesn't it, then block him.
– “I really want to report this to his command, it just feels so wrong. Do you know if there's any point in doing that?”
So, let me tell you how that will go.
You: “Yes, I want to report a guy in your command that is lying to women about a LOT of things, like, his degrees, where he works, and maybe even his military job, where he deployed, things he's done, etc”
Them: “So, your complaint is that a guy is lying to get laid? And you aren't sure if his claims regarding his military service are true or not? That right?”
You: “Well…”
And we can cut it there because the next thing you hear is them hanging up the phone.
Yes. There are guys in the military that tell women things just to pump themselves up and get laid. It happens. Hell, they do it to try and get elected to Congress!
Yes. It gives the rest of us that serve or have served (I'm a Gulf War veteran) a bad name.
Just dump the guy and find a much better man.
First up he’s sexually assaulting you. Secondly go and get tested ASAP!!! Condoms don’t just prevent pregnancy but they prevent STDs!! There’s no way you’re only number 2. And IF that were true (and it’s not as he’s a manipulative asshole) then you’re still very high risk for catching something. You could have potentially caught herpes from him!! Because there is no way of knowing until it flares up.
Do NOT go and see the abuser again. Go to the doctor this week and again in three months incase it pops up
Me and my boyfriend have been living together over a year now, he’s very lazy and even when he lived alone he would leave plates etc to pile up and not care. I can’t live in mess so when i used to go around his i would tidy up. Playing the look how easy life is with me il do everything for you
I mean, why would you expect this to change? Especially when you just do it for him, that's literally reinforcing his negative behavior.
If you're going to try to “train” him, you have to do it while he's living on his own. He's unlikely going to change now unless there are serious influences/consequences.
I have a friend who is a professor and sex therapist. She says like half the men who come to her practice start out by saying, “something is wrong with her,” or “I'm not getting what I need,” and even trying to gently reframe it to “her needs aren't in alignment with mine right now,” or “how can we both get what we want and need?” and how they react is a pretty good barometer of how successful It's going to be.
Learning not to blame but instead to problem solve is so important and successful and loving relationships.
Also I’m thinking about things I can do in every day life. Not everything is grand and high effort all of the time lol
That’s the truth if it. Anyone who knows addicts knows the lying is ingrained in them
Friends confide in each other, including topics about sex and unfulfillment.
OP tbh you sound VERY selfish. You are hurting your GF and 100% will destroy your relationship if you sleep with other women. If you choose your dick over her. End it. You don't deserve her at that point. Sex shouldn't be the most important thing because believe it or not you will both hit a age where that's the last thing you want with each other lol
Anyone who takes this seriously and believes that somehow youd get mud on your shirt during a massage is a rube.
Anyone who takes this seriously and believes that somehow youd get mud on your shirt during a massage is a rube.
I’m genuinely trying to make it work. But the porn issue has been a problem for like half a year now. And before that we were fighting about petty shit for a year. When the petty fights stopped, the porn /lack of sex fights started. Now, even those fights are gone. But when he told me he jacked off at work again I thought… alright, this is a real problem. I didn’t shame him but I internally was just disgusted and tired of him. In that moment.
We’ve been together for 2 years and been through a lot together. We are seeing a therapist but don’t talk about the porn as much as I feel like we should.
Good advice. About a week ago she told me that she had begun to delete all her messages in order to save space on her phone, so messages won't be there.
She keeps her phone pretty close so it might be hot for me to look for apps like SnapChat.
She has told me in the past that she is against couples counseling, but it's worth a shot to try this again. I definitely don't want my kids growing up in a single parent household, as I know how that goes all too well from my own background.
I’d wondering this too. A lot of art is naked and suggestive. Not a lot of art is outrightly sexual, like masturbation or actual acts. I think some clarification would be helpful.
It is never the victim's fault for being abused. Ever. Victim blaming does not help them gather the strength to leave.
What did you reply? (How did she let you know?)
My wife would hang me from the gallows if I let one of her friends take hot photos of me. I know that with certainty
If my partner bought me these things, I would think he was trying to be kind. If you want something specific from him, like just to listen or whatever, tell him. He’s not a mind reader