So I actually did talk to my sister about it today. And I think our relationship will be stronger for it. She is a co-steward of the land and per our traditional protocol the rest of us have the right to be informed of activities that may impact us as it is shared land on which we all live. She cannot, therefore, “bloody well bring whoever she wants.” It is ignorant to say so. She agrees with this actually, and apologized for how she handled things. This relationship strain you seem so concerned with didn’t materialize.
I was involved in planning last year. I was unable to be there because I was busy caring for an elderly family member. My dad understands this and often tells me he is proud of me for this.
It seems a lot of people misunderstood what I meant by being comfortable with my dad being present. I was referring specifically to the ceremonial aspect. I never considered banning him from this because he is my dad and he has a relationship with the land. That doesn’t change the fact that he doesn’t have the right to be present while we are doing it as our ceremonies are closed practice unless you have been accepted into the community. This is a family activity so it is fine for him to be there. If it was community wide it might be different.
There actually is no ceremony without me. I am the only person in my family learning our indigenous language. I am the only one capable of putting through the ceremony. I also have the knowledge of how to do it because I have put in the effort to learn.
No one is trying to dictate anything here. Protocol exists so situations like this don’t occur. My sister broke protocol by failing to inform/consult.
My dad doesn’t have any rights on the land. He is a guest himself and he doesn’t have the right to invite anyone. My sister invited him. My dad consented to him being there to learn. Me and my brothers were left out of the conversation in violation of protocol.
He’s preying on the fact that you’re young and inexperienced. This man is not somebody you want to be with. Please leave
Oh you sound insane. But not for EXPECTING TO KNOW WHERE YOUR SPOUSE LIVES.
FFS grow a backbone and use your head.
I have tried to get him to understand but unfortunately he just doesn’t give a shit
This must be fake right?
So I actually did talk to my sister about it today. And I think our relationship will be stronger for it. She is a co-steward of the land and per our traditional protocol the rest of us have the right to be informed of activities that may impact us as it is shared land on which we all live. She cannot, therefore, “bloody well bring whoever she wants.” It is ignorant to say so. She agrees with this actually, and apologized for how she handled things. This relationship strain you seem so concerned with didn’t materialize.
I was involved in planning last year. I was unable to be there because I was busy caring for an elderly family member. My dad understands this and often tells me he is proud of me for this.
It seems a lot of people misunderstood what I meant by being comfortable with my dad being present. I was referring specifically to the ceremonial aspect. I never considered banning him from this because he is my dad and he has a relationship with the land. That doesn’t change the fact that he doesn’t have the right to be present while we are doing it as our ceremonies are closed practice unless you have been accepted into the community. This is a family activity so it is fine for him to be there. If it was community wide it might be different.
There actually is no ceremony without me. I am the only person in my family learning our indigenous language. I am the only one capable of putting through the ceremony. I also have the knowledge of how to do it because I have put in the effort to learn.
No one is trying to dictate anything here. Protocol exists so situations like this don’t occur. My sister broke protocol by failing to inform/consult.
My dad doesn’t have any rights on the land. He is a guest himself and he doesn’t have the right to invite anyone. My sister invited him. My dad consented to him being there to learn. Me and my brothers were left out of the conversation in violation of protocol.