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lunasophia18 Public Chat Channel
Date: December 7, 2022
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I know. Definitely going to work on this
If I could like this comment more than once I would. As a high school teacher, I'm constantly hyper sensitive to overheard conversations from students that talk about older people that are hitting them up on their socials and immediately give them “the talk” about how these people are manipulative losers that can't deal with people their own age so they try the “cool older person thinks I'm mature” tactic.
Counseling, therapy, and medicating your anxiety are all things that might help you.
Saying things like DOOMED FOREVER are the same kind of anxious catastrophizing that you're doing in your relationship. You need to take a deep breath, and then you need to get some help.
You can change, but probably not on your own, or you would have been able to work through your obsession with your partner's experience by now. It's a relatable insecurity, but many people find it a minor one or move past it. But you're stuck, and it's not healthy for either of you.
But we don't know if she hqs higher support needs or not- isn't that an assumption you'rr making based on him saying she is on the spectrum? Or did I miss something
Yeah thought the same,,, he’s trying to rationalise how to dump this chick for this other chick and not come out the bad guy
As someone married to an autistic person for decades, I've felt invalidated and unheard due to my partner gauging everything based on his own interest and special focuses. Everything springboards from what their experiences are.
Your lover sounds like she's controlling her environment due to sensory difficulties and lack of context awareness for your experiences. Don't let it drive your confidence to the ground, You have to be proactive about detaching when she has her opinions. Autistics typically have all or none type of thinking. Having said this my autistic partner is capable of remarkable insights as well. There's also possibly something at play. Autistics can feel intensely. It is just difficult for them to place themselves in your shoes.
If it is too hot to detach then consider you might not be compatible in terms of neurology, It has nothing to do with skill or creativity.
There’s your answer right there – he doesn’t give a shit. What else needs to be said?
I think its a good idea to at least show some interest or effort in learning about and trying your partner's hobbies. This also happens to be a good, casual game for a long distance couple. You can chat and build a house together or something at the same time.
If its not for you, then its not for you. It would probably mean a lot to him though.
Putting you on the mortgage would not be a wise decision if you guys have been together less than a year. But if you’re going to be living there you should be chipping in for utilities and rent. Because even if he says he wants a future with you it’s not guaranteed esp this soon.
Your love isn't enough. This baby needs stable working parents with a tendency toward violent behaviors. He's clearly not fit for that, and your insistence on exposing a baby to that brings your fitness into question.
Most healthy relationships involve DISCUSSING things about children before making any decision. I don't know what you're talking about. Making unilateral decisions and then complaining when the other person has the opposite decision is usually the main point of problems like this one. Obviously, op thinks his decisions are final on this matter, and his disregard for what his husband thinks is probably why the husband chose the opposite.
It's funny how the OP wants to compromise about who would watch the child in cases of emergency but not about the child going to visit a friend. It's kind of hypocritical.
I have no idea to be honest..
I think what your not understanding is even if they weren’t official you knew she was talking to him and you still chose to sleep with him knowing she did want some thing with him after she finish school that’s what everybody is trying to get you to see. Your disloyalty to your sister. Because let’s be honest do you really think she would’ve been OK knowing the guy she liked started dating you? Because if the roles were verse and she was you and you were her. You be OK with all of this?
He threw it at the wall/floor. There are a few times he apologizes but it’s mainly me because I know he could drag it out for hours or days. Counseling would be good.