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Date: October 30, 2022
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Definitely mental.
First of all I’m so sorry about all of this. I think you need to begin the conversation with a divorce lawyer. They’ll be able to tell you more about the process and what you can expect in your situation.
And I just want to say, no one can ever say you didn’t try. She asked for this despite you holding everything together for years. You’re a good man, and hold your head high knowing you’ve done everything you could. Your kids are going to thank you one day.
Think twice about who you are with.
Have you seen women? Beautiful bodies.
Have you seen us geezers?
Go to AITA and read all of the mixed religions posts. It tends to be a cause of a ton of issues, especially when kids come into play.
The post literally states I told him it bothered me. And yes, we’ve had multiple conversations about it since.
I'm very sorry, I've been through this and I've felt that sense of betrayal by my best friend and nausea from seeing what she said to other men.
It's important for you to understand that your wife cheating is not your fault. She may be dissatisfied in some way, but relationships need communication in order to be healthy. Being “unhappy” is not a valid excuse to betray your committed partner.
You can try to discuss this with her and maybe reconcile, do couples counseling, etc., but we did all that after my ex cheated the first time. It only delayed the inevitable for a few more years when she ended up cheating again.
Your wife is not who you thought she was. That was an extremely difficult lesson for me to learn. We want to believe that our partners (and best friends) are loyal and loving and ethical, and that's not always the case.
This is an incredibly painful and destructive thing to go through. It destroyed my self-esteem and made me feel unwanted and unlovable. But, with time, I now know that it's just the flaws of my wife's character that I either wasn't aware of or was ready to excuse.
Be strong. This isn't about you, it's about your wife being a liar and a cheater.
No, this is one of the very few actually helpful advices I read here.
Thank you
90% committed to you is the same as 0%. Dump her
Yeah we definitely disagree here.
Divorce. Fast.
Google sensate focus and read through a few articles.
Its a commonly used technique for performance anxiety, ED and couples reconnecting after other health issues and injuries (such as endometriosis and child birth).
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Communicate that it make you uncomfortable and makes you wonder if she is ready to move on with you.
WHAT?!?!? Girl what the fuck, that is not overweight. Wow her husband must be a real asshole.
I like this suggestion. I might take her back to miller and carter because it’s the steakhouse where we had our first anniversary dinner
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Yeah…I gave up a long time ago on trying to make it clear that I wouldn't do all the things anymore. If kids weren't involved, it'd be different. But if I didn't wake them up for work, they'd be fired, and it'd immediately impact my life and children's lives. If I leave the room and make the point that I'm not making every decision about dinner and bedtime tonight, then schoolwork won't get done, my kids won't eat until who knows when, and bedtime won't be until 11pm. If I do my own laundry and leave the rest in the basket, then I'm “intentionally being a jerk” because I could easily do it all at once. If I don't clean, it won't EVER get done, even if I specifically assign them an item to clean. It's just less stress on me to do it all myself than also manage delegating and not being able to trust that it'll get done. Less stress in the moment, but…
This is obviously so much more than not getting a gift. I guess the lack of gift is just a very tangible way to represent the constant hurt.
You're not throwing anything away, he threw it away when he decided to send his nudes to other women. You even said he wouldn't be okay with it if the roles were reversed – which means he knew exactly how wrong what he did was.
I don't know why someone disagreed with the other comments so far. 2 years maximum and most people (maturity is a factor though) will know if they want to move towards marriage with their partner. I legit believe there is no timeline for anything. Socially, many people don't think under a year of dating is enough, but there are plenty of marriages that have stood the test of time even for them.
I'm not saying it's recommended, but all I'm saying is that there is no timeline and people need to move at their own pace. Sometimes finances don't line up, sometimes, people just don't think of it.
She needs to cover her own commuting expenses.
Just like she should be covering her own professional clothing and professional training not paid by her employer.
If you use her car otherwise and don’t have your own, then that is a different conversation.
Do you really love him or do you love the fantasy of finally getting the attention that you were longing for? Getting in a relationship?
Reread your first post. So you asked for advice on dating an older man. You're putting yourself down in that post. This seems like you lack confidence. Girl, the world has so much to offer if you finally see that you have a worth. But if you continue on that path, be prepared for what could come.
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Well. Only outcomes I can see are:
We continue without opening the relationship: she's unsatisfied with amount of sex and I am unsatisfied with lack of variety that I need. We open up relationship. I endup being happy but I don't know how she will feel about it. It might be that it would help her too. There's another solution I can't see.
And I always wanted to add that you can love someone and not be in a sexual relationship with them. One of my best friends is a lesbian and we love eachother very much, I WISH I was a lesbian too because she’s the perfect person for me! But I’m not and we’ve discussed it and accepted that friends is where we thrive. Now she’s married to a wonderful woman and I have two awesome friends.
Basic hygiene is something we learn as children. This would 100% be a dealbreaker for me. Besides how nasty it is, what would happen if you have kids? Do you want him handling a vulnerable baby that has almost no immune system?
Told y’all she was sleepjerking!
It’s feeling really icky in this thread.
Mmm I don’t like that reasoning. There will always be people you feel sexually attracted to, it doesn’t mean she should have acted on it. Does she have any plans to stop this in the future? What has she done over the last 3 years to stop this behaviour?
PHD students are usually paid positions
Why on earth would you want to stay?
Get it through your head that this is NOT about YOU.
Your dad is a POS. HE has been sleeping with a Minor and has NO QUALMS sharing your bf With you!. No Shame and No Guilt AT ALL!.
DONT LET HIM PLAY VICTIM and sell you some sad stories about the not able to be himself (gay) openly or what not.
I suggest to go NC on your DAD for life.
Sounds like more than just happened than fellatio. Sorry, but speaking from experience with parts of the truth of sexual history being revealed but not all, and more coming out later when it’s obvious more happened
It’s up to you to decide how to handle it or what you can handle.
Why does it have to be a solo trip? Why can’t you plan a couples weekend away? I’m sure she could use it too.
She has a boyfriend, so all this post is irrelevant.
Should tell him early on so if that is his deal-breaker you guys won't be too far invested.
She said she’d help with rent. From that I understood that’s all she’d do from her side
Given that it’s his entire feed, extensively and wouldn’t doubt he follows them as well
You can ask her for clarity “do you want to stop seeing each other?”
Honestly I wouldn't be as disturbed by the fact that he has a daughter as much as the fact that when he was in his 30's he got a teenage girl pregnant. To me the relationship would be over for this reason.
The paternity test is the only way forward, do not have another child with this man until you two go to therapy
Currently you're a victim of an abuser. If you'll stay you'll be a murder victim. Do you aspire to become it?
I’m already in therapy
you need to get an abortion and then you two need to see a therapist because wtf
I'm sorry if I'm confused a bit, I understand you refuse to combine both names. But can you clarify if you are also unwilling to each keep your own last names? As in you keeping your last name Smith and him keeping his last name Jones would be unacceptable? I didn't read enough comments to see if you mentioned that, so sorry if you already answered this.
Take a permanent break from this drama llama
Did you forget about her birthday and this was to make up for it?
I'm a dude. You may be illiterate bro.
I wouldn't give any weight to anything he's said, more like the exact opposite. He wasn't a partner that wanted the best version of you, but the worst because you would be easier to control and manipulate.
I'm glad that my comment was able to help in some small way. Take care of yourself ❤️
Both.
I think if it would be considered cheating for him to grope the breasts and ass of a work friend, then it’s cheating if he did the same in a strip club. The location really doesn’t matter, the behavior does. Saying she’s okay with him going to a strip club doesn’t mean that she’s throwing aside all of their established monogamous boundaries, and it shouldn’t be required for her to specify that.
I agree with you, I think this just goes back to my original comment. If affection in any form is overwhelming for you, it genuinely might be associated mostly with your self esteem.
If that isn't the case and therapy doesn't help, you are likely incompatible.
Either way, telling him to stop loving you will eventually result in just that.
Not being too harsh. Childhood trauma does not make you piss on people. He is turning himself into the victim. What he did was abusive, and if he “can't control” himself, he needs to check in to the psych ward.
Leave now and find a normal stable guy. Do yourself the favor. He needs help that you can’t provide
A compromise might be, if you want to stay with her, one adopted kid and one with a surrogate.
Yes it's expensive. But let's look at your argument: you want her to have one “the natural way” because it's …what?
Easy? Maybe for you.
Cheap? Maybe for you.
You know how far back pregnancy and maternity leave set back a woman's career? Paternity leave will possibly be a speed bump in yours.
She has to figure out: how to adjust her job to do it while pregnant. Could be easy. Could get a number of pregnancy related conditions you've never even heard of (carpal tunnel, roids, preeclampsia…) Could have to fight for accommodations if any of her work is risky to pregnancy.
Even if it's totally healthy she'll be out for appts and have to rearrange that.
And that's the cost in money.
Pregnancy can very easily wreck women's bodies. Even a fairly simple pregnancy can cause pelvic floor issues and make sex difficult. Worst case she dies. Now that Republicans have fucked up women's healthcare in so many states, it's a lot easier to die as a pregnant woman. So many of us are noping the fuck right out.
So yes, dial your selfishness in, and deal with the fact that “natural” has huge costs for the pregnant person. If you want to make that a deal breaker, go for it. Just be aware that many more smart young women are shutting down any possibility of pregnancy because of the current healthcare climate.
Do you kiss your mother with that mouth?
Lol but seriously, why are you so mad at a stranger asking a legitimate question? Just Google it if you’re not up for having a mature conversation.
She’s taking the one thing that defines a monogamous relationship and the main way that men bond with their partners and weaponizing it to hurt you
This is an incredibly unhealthy thing she’s doing. Sitting down with a professional would probably be a wise thing to do
On Christmas day 2021, my dad scratched his own face until it bled so he could claim my older sister did it. She did not. We were all there watching the whole thing go down. He sent photos to people for pity and threatened to make a police report and claimed he was abused and that we were liars, even though my mother and I spent the next several days huddled in the living room with the doors barricaded, taking watch shifts throughout the night, terrified he was going to come back and murder us. I had a panic attack trying to shower because the loud shower meant I couldnt hear anything and I was afraid for my life that he would manage to sneak in and kill my mother and I wouldnt hear it. I didn't shower without freaking out for a solid month.
My mom got back together with him after that. She eventually left, and I'm proud of her, but I definitely wonder why she went back the first, second, third, Nth time he threatened me, why she went back when I told her I hated him, when he tried to kill us, when I told her it was going to be him or me. I sort of get it, but I also don't.
Not every mortgage has to be 50/50, either. If you ask at the bank, you can absolutely have the equity split based on what you put in, or even ask for it over a length of time that brings the monthly payments to a point that's mutually affordable.
I know quite a few people where one partner has been better at saving, so they've put in the larger amount towards the deposit / paid more off, they've just had more equity in the instances when they've split.
If you're planning on being together forever, it really doesn't matter if one person owns 30% of the house and the other owns 70% because together you own 100%.
You will probably push her away over this, so make sure it is actually a deal breaker for you.
Cutting off toes seems a bit extreme. He may be a dick, but he deserves to be able to walk properly.
Sounds like your gf's being unnecessarily controlling. As for your friend, as long as there aren't any sexual motivations from you in relation to the friendship, and I encourage you to be honest with yourself here, I say ignore all the vitriol on here. Reddit has a seizure whenever there's any chance of sexual exploitation. People of any age can be friends, motivation is the only thing that matters
Just take her phone and run to a lawyer
I am 19 and I find this age gap reprehensible, and I blame you. You should know better. Your life experience and social position gives you power over him, which is highly immoral. You are a glorified pedophile, but it's not too late to change.
It sounds like she's actually on her own with him anyway.
Don’t let him or anyone know your plans (except people you trust with your life).
She certainly didn't waste any time jumping on the control bandwagon. Can't wait to see what's next after you've stopped the ex from seeing HER dog.
I reckon it's a toss-up between your friends or just the female variety. Maybe she'll go for the hobbies. Never can tell with the controlling kind.
You might want to ditch this one immediately, mate. It's probably the sound thing to do.
You shouldn’t be simultaneously considering marriage and a drug test for the same person.
Or meth or addeall or another stimulant..
Do not romanticize what this man could be. He disrespected you and made you cry and was told by his own brother to try and fix things and refused. Maybe he can be the kind of man that will one day be a good husband but he is not that man and that “one day” will probably never come. You do not need to suffer for love.