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ride your big dick, ❤❤ [GOAL MET]
Date: November 16, 2022
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ride your big dick, ❤❤ [GOAL MET]
It sounds like both of you have anxiety and depression issues and that while the communication doesn't help, the thing that is really ruining this relationship is mental health as a whole. so if you want to improve your relationship, and generally your life, what you would want to do is get that mental health in your control so that you can no longer be afraid and anxious and take text the wrong way accidentally.
Keep talking to your therapist and don't be afraid to broach the topic of medication. It can really be a life changer once you get on the right ones.
You can send your friend a text that you are going to seek more help, but you have already apologized and there's not much more to say on that behalf. Like I said, the only real thing that you can do to improve this relationship are the things that you are doing already which is medication and therapy.
How do I express to him that what he did was wrong. He currently doesn’t think it was wrong because it was (sarcasm)
Unless she answers you, it didn’t happen.
It’s absolutely acceptable to check for yourself. If he doesn’t like it, he can move out
Eh…yeah….
conspicuous in its absence is the mention of using condoms, either
male OR female. Is this up there with not getting the Vas because
it might reflect on his “manhood”?
The theme of your post is all about “Priorities”.
Apparently you both view the varibles in your lives differently.
Think about it.
So your husband both is DEMANDING that you stay quiet about his father's abusive behaviour AND doing nothing to adress it?? Yeh you're in the right talking to your dad. It's your partners job to protect you, and he has chosen not to do that.
What is shared between spouses stays between spouses. Especially when it involves privileged, sensitive information about other loved ones. Even more so when that information is painful to the spouse confiding in their partner.
Yes, you absolutely betrayed your spouse. Don’t gossip with anyone what your spouse shares with you.
LOL and she doesn't deserve OP either, and probably has an ugly ski-slope nose!
any reason is enough. If you just don't feel like it – that's enough.
I understand your point and I get where you're coming from. The whole point of this was for us to dip our toes in and see if it's something we would be open to in the future. I have friends and he does as well that are married and have various forms of open relationships that have worked beautifully. He is choosing me every day this is about curiousity and exploring a different side of our relationship. I appreciate your thoughts.
Ok so just consider what is the outcome you want here ? So if you talk about this and say it turned you on – what kind of response are you hoping for or expecting ? This is opening a new chapter in your sex lives and if you feel secure about talking about it with him it could lead to exciting new things . However it will open the door for him perhaps confessing thoughts he has that you might either find erotic or difficult to cope with . For instance maybe he still has thoughts about his ex . Only you know what the right call is here based on the depth of your relationship and how open minded and trusting you both are .
Yes I still like him but its hard to see them vibing together and have fun…
Thank you! I can’t wait to surprise him Christmas with his name if it’s ready by then because to him it never went through
Nu har du fået det samme råd fra hele Skandinavien! Lyt til dine brødre.
Most people try to be on there best behavior for a partner’s parents. He was rude and now wants you to choose him over your mom. He’s trying to isolate you from your support. Don’t do it. You deserve better.
Stop thinking you have to try and make this right. You do not.
They dynamic of this relationship is off if that’s how your gf makes you feel. She’s an adult who needs to take responsibility for herself. Stop trying to be a fixer.
Concentrate on your mum and the time with her.
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Oh. No. I’m so sorry. Sometimes as one gets older it’s the fear of being alone that gets us. I hope she can find the courage to leave. Let her now that you’re always ready to take her. If today is not the day, maybe it’ll be tomorrow. If not tomorrow maybe it’ll be the day after. Regardless, you love her. She can do no wrong and she will forever have a home with you.
You don’t need “look for” information anywhere but out of her own mouth. She told you to not discuss her weight. This is when you decide if you can continue in the relationship accepting her as she is or end it. But if you stay, you must agree to never discuss her weight.
Why not joining them? If she is the love of your life, go with her!
I always find it interesting when one cheater finds another cheaters actions disgusting. Sounds like your better off without the hypocrite of a friend.
There's too much negative stuff in this particular relationship. Break it off. You are pursuing a bond that actually has always been filled with difficulty. With the right person, life is so much easier and more pleasant.
Are looking for help with the hypocrisy or help getting over the break up? Because it sounds like former is no longer your problem.
I’d be asking her whether she is watching the tits and enjoying seeing female nudity. Any reason she can’t be?
She didn’t ask him if it’s okay with him so his feelings are legitimate reasonable.
Yes I've looked her up and it's real
They are never going to go back to how things were. Any contact they’ve given you now is probably them just being nice. The way you talk about him here is actually insane, it’s like you subconsciously see him as your husband???
If you acted even a fraction of the way you spoke here irl, then they are definitely going to keep their distance. You need therapy, and to move on. It’s not going to happen.
They’re your best friends but you would have stabbed Shay in the back if it meant you got Clark
Some kind of best friend you are
That’s like the definition of controlling abusive behavior, and likely extends into other aspects of your relationship/lives.
Either establish boundaries or he’s going to keep pushing them.
Like why tf does he care if you’re at the gym without him? Gonna fall on some other dude? Insecure and controlling. Abuse is an escalation tactic as your “norm” Kees getting twisted.
You be there for her. You don’t offer her your solutions , you don’t try to “fix” her.
I'm not digging the “ready when she wants.” So she gets sex exactly when she wants it but he gets nowhere close to that?
He can be “not in the mood” whenever he damn well feels like it if that's how he's expected to react to her.
Is this relationship working for you? It doesn't sound like it is.
You need someone that treats you like an equal not a maid. Please dump him and run.
Exactly!!!!
Yep. This was a temper tantrum from a 25 year old woman.
OP says that there was a bus. There was also Uber and Lyft. She could have asked a friend for a lift
This was a deliberate choice to “punish” OP, not realizing that she was only punishing herself.
hypocrisy, you should tell the husband about this as everyone knows, once a cheater always a cheater. both of you should throw their asses on the streets
I have no idea where the assumption came from that men can control whether or not they get an erection. Furthermore, having an erection does not always mean that he is aroused.
You were cuddling. Physical contact. That’s it.
“But I buy her stuff! Why isn't she grateful?!”
I give you props for this post.
Oh my heart is breaking for op and sister too
Don’t get me wrong
Op did everything right here no question
Gf is not in her right mind for some reason and I suspect she’s traumatised by something
Having been in relationships like this myself (and got out of them once I saw who they truely were) I can not for the life of me figure out how I allowed myself to be blinded by the bullshit. Yes low self esteem wouldn’t have helped so you’re right there.
I cut a chunk off my thumb (it required an emergency room visit) in front of my boyfriend the other day when I was cooking and out of habit I apologised TO HIM for it because I made a mess and he couldn’t figure out why I was the one apologising because i was the one in pain. He bandaged me up and did everything right. I ended up in tears not having experienced that before, i had been so used to being told I was stupid for little accidents that happened and making a mess that in that second I forgot that my new boyfriend is nothing like that. I hope your friends find someone truly decent like the man I now have and realise that they deserve better like I did. It’s not easy to get over abusive relationships but it is possible
ah yes fuck your own sanity and stay the victim so that you AND your child get abused, because as a parent you don't matter at all (/s just in case, I am with you)
Use deepl or Google translate bud if you're having trouble with English.
Girl move on he has baggage.
I dated a single mother when I was 22. (She was 27 so quite a bit older than your case.) It never got too serious and lasted less than a year. I think that was more because I wasn't mature enough yet for a 27 year old than about the kids, but I probably wasn't really ready yet for being a step dad either. Kids take a lot of time and add a lot of restrictions to life.
Based on my experience, I would say that you can try it and see how it goes. It's possible that it will get serious and then she can help you learn how to care for a child. My guess is that it won't work out (because she'll decide you aren't ready to be a parent to her child or you'll decide you don't want to deal with the restrictions yet or the usual incompatibility things that can happen in any relationship), but if you like her and she likes you I think it's worth trying. It's not easy to find the right person so I don't want to pass up an opportunity to at least find out if someone I find interesting is the right person.
Are you friends with her too?
You should lose trust and question the whole relationship.
Not telling them now means another day/week/month closer to the likelihood you will marry this man and therefore makes it more difficult a conversation with your parents.
Don't make a deal about it, tell them you've been dating but you weren't ready to share with anyone yet as you were making sure you were compatible but you are confident now that you are and youd like them to meet him.
Don't tell them when he's there, they should find out before he shows up to their front door.
You wrote that you're attracted to your friend and yet you're entertaining to screw her sister?
Oh NO WAY. STOP entertaining that.
If you do this (take up the 18 yrs old offer to be her FWB), you not only stop being friend to your buddy (because no friend would do this to their friend, going behind their back and screwing their sibling, oh no) but you also close down any window you may have to date her in the future.
Plus the kid's 18. She's too young to embark in this type of 'relationship.'
I bet this is one of those fan fics thou. I've come across some interesting ones this weekend…but good for passing time, I suppose.
lawyer now or the equivalent in your area. You need to protect your kids now. the love between you 2 is gone, so just protect your kids.
I'm american so I've seen this scenario play out in horrible ways. Protect your kids, mother isn't safe right now.
Just end it, dude. Don't start relationships without seeing what the other person looks like from now on. She should not have to change her body to be with you, let her go and find someone who will appreciate her for what she looks like now.
Hey Op, not trying to be pushy because I'm on your side but you said, “I think both my fiancé and I…” Key word is “think” and to me it's too grey. It's either he knows or not and has dealt with it himself and has dealt with her on the subject. Very important.
It's funny because I was on the phone with my BFF's wife and true to form , he hears us talking and he proceeds to take over the convo as usual and we all started talking about his ex and how she's trying to infiltrate his family again because his wife told him to my BFF to block her. I was pissed at him and he says, “nothing will happen she just wants to know about my family etc.” I went wonder woman on him, meanwhile he's laughing at me. Teasing me and his wife. I'm ? confident that he's a good and faithful husband and father but I tell him all the time, “I know women and with some, you can't leave grey areas and you have to be firm and shore up your boundaries.
Because this is your BF bestfriend situation, there can be no room for grey areas. This girl know things about him that you may not know even though you guys have been together for years. There's a level of vulnerability and honesty that you can be with your best friend that a person may find hot to be with their romantic relationship. This is why they say best friends make the best couples. Now that's not to scare you but to equip you and subsequently your fiancé. Always be ? sure and communicate even on the difficult subjects while being a safe space for each other.
She told me that she’s simply scared to move to another country not knowing the language, thus, most obviously being not able to find a proper job unless it’s a dishwasher or something which she doesn’t want to be working as.
She’s definitely not a career person like me. I was thinking about options for her in Paris, but didn’t come to any.
Your girlfriend just wants to spend time with you. That's very understandable in a relationship. You spend time together and do fun things together. Make new experiences. Her love language might even be quality time (or it's at least important to her). If you don't spend time with her, she thinks you don't care about her.
Now, it's understandable that you don't have the time. You're a very busy person. But you can't be in a relationship if you don't have that time. So you either have to give up other things, or end the relationship. It sucks, but that's how it works.
If you move further away, you will have even less time. So ofcourse she's against that.
Would I be a complete idiot if I gave it to her?
Yes.
That is all.
Imagine this.
10 months from now, you're going to have a baby in your arms, trying to keep him quiet at 3 am because your husband will be pissed if he gets woken up. You've spent the whole day changing diapers & washing bottles, making his dinner, washing laundry. He came in from work & went straight to his room. You are beyond exhausted. He took your phone. You can't call anyone for help. The baby is asleep, you sit on the toilet & sob yourself because in a few hours it'll be time to make breakfast & do it again.
5 year from now. 2 more babies. Little man has to be on the school bus at 7:30. His shoes are too small. He has a bruise on his arm. You zip up his jacket, laid the littles into the stroller, walk him to the bus. You pass a stranger on the sidewalk. You think nothing of it. But when you get home, he's furious. Who was that man you were talking to? You don't know what he's talking about. He screams in your face, maybe grabs you. The babies are crying. He throws something at the wall & storms out. You hold your scared toddler but you cant console her.
10 yrs from now. The house is falling apart. The bills are all past due. You've gotten used to covering the black eyes with concealer before going to the grocery store. Everyone looks at you with pity but no one says a word. You now have the ability to leave the house as you choose. But you have nowhere to go. No freinds left. No work history or education. Your body is broken but not as broken as your spirit. You don't work out or have any hobbies anymore. You spend your days trying to keep him happy, trying to keep your kids away from his tantrums. You hang cute pics of rainbows on their walls & read them fairy tales at night. But you can't keep them safe. They see. They hear. All they know is fear.
This is just a fraction of the life you are about to online IF YOU ARE LUCKY. It might be much, much worse. So many women don't make it out alive.
I hope that you are scared shitless right now. You should be. Get out while you can. I'm not exaggerating. It won't get better. He is not the guy you dated. He is a monster & the sooner you realize that the better off you will be.
Then you tell his dad.
I’m going to stop drinking, and spend that time doing something more productive.
That is probably the wisest action to take.
Self improvement will help self esteem.
It's also something you can tell your GF to show you are deciding on life changes.
If you continue to date your GF, you are going to have to figure out how you handle her drinking while you stay sober. Often your own behaviour is influenced by the actions of others. You are, whom you surround yourself with.
Down the road, choosing someone else not interested in drinking would probably be beneficial to you.
Just do it
Yeah, it sounds pretty ridiculous. I can't describe our entire relationship in a few paragraphs, so I described my frustrations. He's helped me through a lot of health issues and supported me through some incredibly challenging moments of my life. He's always my #1 fan, but, I'm struggling because I can't stand the fact that I'm mothering my partner. Hope that makes sense.
You ARE accepting cheating though. Also, it's not necessarily that your wife doesn't trust you, but she doesn't trust her. Or it could just be that your wife doesn't think you should be friends with a cheater, because what does that say about your morals? You are, by being friends with a cheater, saying their behavior is okay and you tolerate it.
Sweetheart, a good therapist can help you through this. You never deserved to be treated that way. You deserve a soft life full of love and a partner who contributes meaningfully to that. You are worthy.
Do you really want to be in a relationship that you have to “stick it out and push through”?
I really hope he IS willing to leave you alone but OP him trying to kiss you yet again after that conversation was another example of how he ignores boundaries and doesn't care about consent.
He didn't seem like he would do, the things he did to you so far. You wouldn't have let him into your room for that talk if you had known he would get angry and try to kiss you again.
My point is, you can NOT predict what this man will do. So you need to be careful.
Men who act out with aggression anger and blame, against other men because they identify as hetero and feel “confused” can be DANGEROUS. There is a long and nasty history of serious violence and even murder done by such men.
Please take this seriously and look out for yourself.
I am so glad you are moving out.
She isn't sorry, you are 20 forget her and move on.
Explain to her that you will not watch her kill herself and it is bullshit of her to force that on you. Bottom line is she needs to want to get better, though, so you need to be prepared to leave if she won't help herself.
It’s weird that some of your friends are suggesting that someone in a relationship can’t have friends who aren’t in relationships. But it’s also bad advice for your friends to tell you to act on your feelings. She has a boyfriend, so she’s not available. It’s not appropriate for you to tell her how you feel or otherwise try to have sex with her.
Trying to suppress or ignore your feelings will probably just make them stronger in the long run. You need to let the crush play out. Let yourself have those feelings, don’t judge them, just let them exist. You can be attracted to someone and not ever act on it. If you allow yourself to process them, they will fade naturally with time.
You people are the ones whose disgusting why is it always on the women to keep things together! He literally told her if she didn't catch him he wouldn't have said shit! Took money from his sons mouth spending it on strippers but OP should think about this??
“Getting anorexia” makes it sound like a choice
Is “getting a cold” or “getting cancer” also makes it sound like a choice? Serious question, since I am, just like OP, not a native speaker.
Not fake unfortunately. Trust me I’m not super happy about it either. Feels super crappy. Obviously I already feel badly about my appearance.
Exactly this! One of my high-school classmates got a surprise little sister because dad didn't wait until he got the 100% safe from doc. Was about 6 months post-Op as the best estimate of when A happened xD
Then call animal control and let them take away the dog. Or are you scared that once the dog is gone the anger will be directed at you and your daughter?
Did I say therapy for a month makes for a health emotional recovery? No, I did not I simply said I started therapy to work on my issues.
everybody has mental illness, dude. I mean, who is actually mentally well off, nowadays?
No they actually think I'm a murderer
Kits like this take time, I’ve checked the tracker and her kit is in the forensic lab. They told us these kits usually take up to 6-8 months
Side question: how do you know for a fact that your boyfriend isn't secretly some crazy psycho dude who is just hiding their bad behaviors and red flags while they are around you just so that you aren't turned off by their bad qualities?
I think if we could see the poem it might help.
it could be innocent but if the wife is unhappy then it doesn't matter, you shouldn't continue something that is causing someone stress. if things go wrong she make rumors that have a serious impact.
tell the man as he needs to sort it with the wife, but back off as much as possible.
and show us the poem
Don't do it, that's not right…
You need to move out on your own. You two together is a toxic mix.
See if your university offers free/low-cost mental health services and avail yourself of them! Check into on-site housing for the remainder of your schooling. Look for part-time job opportunities where you go to school.
We know it's EASIER for you to online with your mom, take care of the house, and concentrate on your schoolwork, but it's absolutely toxic for your mom and for you! Make the move and insist that your mother, also, look into mental health services for herself. DON'T GO TOGETHER AS A FAMILY UNIT…you each need independent help to break the codependency.