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Date: October 25, 2022
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yeah i’m 37 and have been cheated on. Husband has a right to know who he is with. She cheated on him by her own admission. I would like to know who i am with so i can make a decision based on actual information instead of lies.
If it’s not that bad and she didn’t do anything that bad then surely he won’t see it as a big deal.
Well that's what she tells you so I guess it must be true , has she ever lied before?
Oh yeah she did once , about this very night saying she never got hit on and there being no guys there.
Hey you do whatever you can live with.
This is a great idea! If you’re comfortable with it. I once said to my ex that he can have sex with me when I slept, but honestly it’s a lot more disturbing when in practice, and I hated it. It’s not his fault at all but it’s created serious tension in the relationship. Having a contract makes it pretty clear cut that it’s fully consenting, and maybe specify it was HER idea. Put a date on it, have her sign it and maybe double check her signature and all that.
I interpreted her plight differently. I thought she was talking about “CNC” a kink of roleplaying. Its a fantasy a lot in the kink community have. So i understand her wanting a written out agreement.
Have you had success being blunt like that with them in the past?
You're 20, not 40.. Stop being dramatic.
Two months per year, is a lot of time away from your husband. For him, with you and the baby gone, it probably seems even longer. I can definitely see why he has an issue with it.
At the beginning if our marriage, my wife went to see her grandmother in another country. She went for 3 months. Its was before the internet/mobile phones. So the only communication was via landline. We had to plan for a day and time. Calls were short, because of the cost.
When she came home, told her thst she ever did it again, I would leave. She has only been again, for a 3-4 weeks at a time, every 4 years.
When you go away, you have all you family and you. He is in your apartment/house all alone. It's a terrible feeling.
Hou really don't need to go so often and your family can travel to your country. I'd suggest you figure it out. For me it was a deal breaker. For your husband, it might be the same thing.
Good luck
Do it. The housing issue is more serious than a potential relationship issue. You either roll the dice and get a place to live with a potential party and a situation that might lead to a housing issue. Or you deal with the actual housing issue now. Either way it's a tough situation. Go the route with a hard room mate lol.
Who is the artist
So basically you're just another enabler of the sexual assault and abuse of women and children. Hahaha because you like the way he saaaaaaaaaang. You're a bad person. Like I could sit here like others have trying to pound this out for you point by point, but that would just be a waste a time. Guy, your entire outlook on life sucks. You are selfish, self focused, indifferent to other's pain, and willing to sacrifice the life and safety of others because you like to sing in your car. You simply don't care to even try to understand that about yourself much less fix it. Your entire presence in this world is actually hurting people. Like. Sit with that. It sounds like you are about to have a lot more free time anyway.
Get rid of her asap or she will break your heart in even worse ways. I'm sorry this happened to you my dude.
I think you're right about trying to be more patient and comforting. It was hot to react that way in the beginning since it hurt, but from that perspective it makes a lot more sense. Thank you for that
She's abusing you op. Go to food banks and can't she get free eye test and dental on NHS because of her conditions? I know I did but I'm in benefits right now. And chili being similar to spa bol? Nah mate, totally different dishes with totally different ingredients from totally different ingredients.
*one was physical: you have to be very naive to believe this only happened once.
The big issue is you have 3 kids at such a young age and have to consider their well-being in all this too.
My advice is to end the relationship but not necessarily jump straight into another one. You need to ensure you have a good post-breakup balance in place, especially for your kids.
I’m not lacking remorse I feel awful. I think I might abort my pregnancy and raise my son alone
Yeah~~~this guy is a major loser, Op.
The entire conversation about tonsils, bj's and the discussion with his guy friend reeks of immaturity.
*he also isnt shy about calling girls hot/beautiful/ 10/10, whether its an actress or girlfriends/exes of his friends*
Immature, disrespectful, unnecessary and uncalled for.
He's a hot mess and I would drop him, Op.
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Everyone telling him to shame her back— implying she’s loose are brain dead hypocrites. She shouldn’t have told you as you can’t change your size; leave her and move on. There are plenty of potential partners who don’t care about certain sizes— find one.
He's already told her he doesn't like hdt or want her
Telling a lie on the first date, then using someone for money. Red as the flag gets.
Get out of that one quick!
Dude, are you serious? ?♀️
Tell her she needs to act her age and keep her hands to herself. And tell your brother that the next time she ignores your boundaries, you will refuse to see her and communicate with her to the best of your ability and stick to that.
You can still talk to him, but if she keeps messing with you after you tell her to keep her hands to herself, stop being in the same room as her. Every time she does it say very very loudly “brothers gf I have told you before not to touch me without my consent, why do you keep touching me without my consent?” Loud and clear for everyone.
I only want to be with someone who wants to be with me for me not be with me for (inserts function here). Someone tells me they compromised to be with. me because I am not in their league. Oh helllllll no. And I am not someone who thinks they are all that, but I do deserve to be with someone who wants to be with me for me. So do you.
Tell him you're giving him the freedom to find the person he deserves and divorce his ass. Then find someone who is truly worthy of your love as it's clear you are a very caring and devoted partner.
How is OP's dad a narc? How is he using the business to control the brother? Bare in mind OP's dad and the brother are not blood related
What does he want? For you to support him indefinitely, without the minimal expectations that come from dating.
It's a pretty sweet deal for him, but I don't understand why you're putting us with it.
This may have been something only I've dealt with as I've matured over the years, and I'm writing it off the cuff so it might not come out right. But, I also had insecurity growing up when I was becoming sexually active and I was not able to pleasure my partner during sex to the same degree I was feeling. Inherently it feels weird that the same actions that work for me don't work for her and it can make you feel like you're not enough. The reality is that the machinery under the hood is just different, but to a guy that basically received no sexual education or advice about that, it was a hurdle for me to overcome emotionally. To think you have it figured out only to be told it was all a lie would be difficult for most guys to deal with. Granted, this was a journey I had in my late teens/early 20s, not 40s like OPs ex, but he may just not have had the same amount of experience or communicative partners. I sure wouldn't have things nearly so figured out if I had my partner lying to me instead of giving me feedback, and I'm still far from perfect. In regards to going straight for the vibrator, I just think it's beneficial to explore everything that two bodies have to offer before bringing extra things into the mix, but that's a personal preference. And, again, I say this as someone who encouraged my partner to bring toys into the bedroom and ended up being the one going out to buy them.
Maybe set up a nice surprise for her when she comes home from work, a nice letter saying you love her, a present, or anything she may like.
Go see your family. It happens. And you can send her a message at midnight or call her if her work allows. You can show you're thinking about her without being there
Being neurodivergent means you need accommodations. That's not being high maintenance, it is quite literally a need that OP's partner should have been aware of. It's not fair to write off people who are neurodivergent as “high maintenance” just like I wouldn't refer to anyone with any other disability as high maintenance. It's rude.
100% troll. No one calls places in ski resorts in Austria “condos”, troll 100% and not even European, someone watching too much TV.
Wow… Throw the whole friend group and the man away OP, you're clearly getting gaslighted into doubting your own feelings and suspicions.
At least he asked nicely.
I have stolen nice smelling hoodies before.
Did he spend hours on his computer before you moved in? Were you well aware of his gaming “hobby”? Did you have any concept of what living with him would actually be like? Or is this a new development and you think he is avoiding you or needing space in the house? If he has been a gamer forever, then you should not be shocked. He does; however, need to achieve some balance. It really sounds like you two just need to establish some house rules. Like, you eat dinner together at the table, every night. If one cooks, the other cleans up. Friday night is date night and you go out. Etc.
What hobbies do you both enjoy? What are your common interests that you do together? Can you suggest something else fun? But if it is 8 pm on a Tuesday and you have no plans, you can't really fault him for going off and doing his thing. It just sounds like some simple habit changes would help a lot to feel connected, while still allowing him tons of time to game.
Yeah it's pretty tame to flash the balcony at night, if that's the wildest thing she did thats, meh, pretty reserved. I would give her a pass in that regard I thought she flashed other people from the title.
What's more concerning is the friend group keeps doing this shit that we play at 21, maybe until 25. Sounds too immature for a 28-29 y/o group of people, if she's into that at that age I would question it a bit.
She is just toying with you and manipulating your emotions to turn the tables on you. You know she is doing this and are allowing her to do it. You refuse to stand up for yourself and allow her to walk all over you. You are her “Pet” and when she tells you to heel you do so right away when she tells you to beg you do that too. In her eyes you are not equal to her you are to be manipulated until she gets what she wants. The longer you wait to confront her about this manipulative behavior the more she will turn it inward on you and use it to make you think you are trying to “control” her.
Don't know how many times you need it spelled out for you but I hope things work out for you and you get away from this person and her constant manipulation of you and your life.
Your brain is made for survival. Not maximizing happiness or optimizing for long term goals. Basically our brains lie to us all the time.
It’s even within the half-your-age-plus-seven rule.
What potentially makes it more than just inappropriate is his insistence to continue doing it after being told by mom that he needs to put some clothes on. That girl is 14, he's not her dad or even step dad. If dad is in the picture and he finds out, mom can get in serious legal trouble.
Look, it's not that inconvenient to put on a pair of shorts. His refusal to compromise isn't looking good in any way.
It doesn’t get better over time. You can’t change someone and he’s shown you that he’s on a different level of standards and expectations than you are. Hanging with the boys was more important than effort towards your birthday.
It doesn’t get better over time. You can’t change someone and he’s shown you that he’s on a different level of standards and expectations than you are. Hanging with the boys was more important than effort towards your birthday.
He put work over you. He put his career goals over yours. He doesn’t think of you as a serious equal.
Divorce him. He’s shown you his true colors.
Why does he think you dating would “shock” anyone?
Sounds like you’re doing the right thing! Best of luck!
It really isn't.
You've been working under him since you were young. He doesn't want you to work under him any more. To everyone else you look like a nepotism hire, which makes him look bad. Especially when he picked you to promote into a manager position instead of someone potentially more qualified just because you think you should have that spot. And its time you spread your wings and branch off on your own.
If you dont want to speak to him anymore after this then don't. But I think he's doing you a favor. You can't work for him forever.
that was exhausting to read.
i’m short.. i’m sure he loves you … but .. his bond and love for natalie is more .. and they just don’t know it yet ..
painful yes .. set your self free . .
I'm sorry, but I would have cut this off at the root. If my 25 year old partner was taking to a 15 year old? No thank you. And then continued for 3 years and moved them in? No one signs up for that
I do not believe that's the case. But thank you regardless!
Even the comment you’re replying to is only about the money. OP wants that sweet sweet cash.
Lol OP literally posted that their kink is smoking.
Lol OP literally posted that their kink is smoking.
When does he work?
“Those who claim 'brutal honesty' are often more interested in brutality than honesty.”
I think the break up is too fresh to plan a trip together at the moment. If you are unsure that you will be able to stay platonic, it's for the best not to do it.
The why changes nothing and is not a mystery.
There is no answer that’s going to save this relationship.
He lied too? So he didn’t trust her. Was right and still can’t trust her. She can’t trust him to believe her lies?
All good reasons to just end it.
It must be hot for you to handle a breakup but not every relationship should be saved.
Listen, all of these people are bonkers. Don’t marry someone when there are trust issues or other issues that are unresolved. It is way easier to end a relationship than it is to end a marriage.
She is trying to force marriage to create this nuclear family when in truth, you are always going to be attached. I would never marry someone if I felt pressured to do so and you shouldn’t either.
Now is the time to work out your co-parenting stuff because she isn’t going to budge on this and neither are the people in your circle.
She is saying that she is nervous around your friends, but doesn't want to do the work to get to know them so that she can be at least minimally comfortable moving around them? That's not a good partner.
Find yourself a partner who is willing to put in the time to get to know your friends a little and maybe try out your hobbies, too. My husband and I have been gaming together and separately for 30+ years. It's a great shared hobby.
How can you know you want to spend your life with someone, if you haven't shared some life together?
Being with someone in a home is very, very different to living separately and seeing each other.
Wow so he is happy for you to deal with all the ongoing side effects of birth control, but he can't handle wearing a condom during sex? What a selfish asshole
Yeah, because you're a child who's not mature enough yet. Jealousy is ugly and it makes everyone ugly showing it. Because it shows how insecure you are. And that shows how immature you are. You should leave her.
I’m sure she will wear it.
Yes, this is weird… I'd be wondering if your wife and friend are having an inappropriate relationship… I'd wonder if they were cheating. Yeah…
But if advice that is going to help you in your dating life moving forward: stay away from lame ass dudes who fill their social media feeds with young women shaking their asses
It’s crass and disrespectful to publicize your wank preferences like that. Pathetic, loser ass, cringe behavior. My boyfriend doesn’t do it and neither should yours. Arguing with him probably won’t help though.
It's hot though we both grew up with not much physical affection and I know he doesn't wanna sleep with me he's too nice really he is I don't harbor any bad feelings and it's nice to have some cuddles I'm super affectionate with all my friends but I know you're right I just love him so much
Nothing is more disloyal than cheating. And he blamed you for it? Why are you with him? He's sounds like a terrible person.
You ARE NOT disloyal in the least. He's a full on garbage human
If this level of black out is unusual for you despite a usual amount of alcohol – I think you may have been drugged.
This person is not your friend.
Was alcohol involved? Clearly it seems like a bad joke gone awry but by the way you're talking about it my advice is: lighten up.
You could have come back at him with a zing of your own: it's only granny porn if I'm getting done by some hot young buck. Did you have one in mind or should I find one on my own?
Your life isn't over. You are still attractive. You are definitely owed an apology but beyond that work on developing a sense of humor that aligns with the reality of aging. You are a mother, a wife and I'm sure lovely person, but keep in mind that in terms of raw beauty your best days are far behind you.
i’m w him cause i have no friends ??
“Blah blah blah my boyfriend is controlling and verbally abusive but he love bombs the crap out of me so I suppose I’ll put up with it and marry it even though he will more than likely start abusing me even more as time goes on.”
Run.
Yes of course. He actually has a therapist and we’re making an appointment soon. I just needed some help that’s it. A desperate overwhelmed wife needing to vent and needing help.
You won’t get over it. You should have been permanently no-contact the minute she betrayed you.
I need someone who can be communicating with me about the problem and we can try to resolve it, instead of this break. I know the mistakes I made, but this doesn’t solve anything.
Just block the guy and move on. I have a headache just reading how all over the place you guys are. Im sure this isn’t fun for you either. Be with someone who actually wants to spend time and be with you and someone who respects you.
Yes
Yes
Also, I apologize if i was a little blunt and cold in my previous response. Im under a certain amount of stress, but should not be bringing that out on here
Oh dear lord. I have had a number of trainers. They will touch if they have to adjust my position. They ask first. Some have been very handsome. However, we're there for one thing. Having some kind of thing with your trainer.
Tell your bf to blow it out his ear. You are going to see a trainer…to train.
No – you don't break up with him but you tell him that if he is so uncomfortable, he can break up. Don't let him make decisions for you.
Yea he did. And no it isn’t.
Be upfront with her about what you’re feeling. Tell her you’re feeling insecure about your relationship because you work long hours and would like to spend more time with her and the kids. Tell her you’re uncomfortable about your kid calling another man “dada” because you feel like you’re being displaced in your own family.
Don’t accuse her of anything because that will just make her defensive and less likely to see your side. Focus on how you’re feeling and what you’d like the both of you to do to work on the situation. Frame it as a problem that you both work towards resolving and look for things that both of you can do to improve your relationship.
Cool story bro, needs more dragons
So it all depends on what his feelings are actually.
If like you, he has fallen out of love, but still cares for you, then maybe you can be friends.
But if he actually still loves you, then kiss your chances of a friendship goodbye.
And how long were you traveling for? And what type of traveling?
Because there is a difference between a few weeks in a resort, and a few months backpacking around Europe or Asia.
In the first one it’s relaxing, conducive for romance etc.
The second one, as you get further along in the trip, you basically are living in each other’s pockets, you have spent so much time together that being intimate is the last thing you want to do (especially if you have been backpacking in Asia during the rainy season) and also in some parts of Asia, you both could have been arrested and thrown in jail for having sex outside of marriage.
So maybe also take a week or so to see if your feelings change now that you are back home before committing to ending the relationship.
What are you talking about? I don't control her in any kind of way. I'm not happy with the way that she acts I leave. She begs me to stay I stay. I tried to understand her I tried to love her I try not to take anything away from her to make her happy. I continue to allow her to do these things and I just accepted that she likes it and I stayed but the picture was too f****** much. Please explain to me how I'm controlling please go ahead logically
Your boyfriend needs to learn how to mind his own business. None of the things you listed have anything to do with him so it’s weird that he’s so bothered. Feels a bit controlling to me.
Oh yuck. Honey, I still have a few 40 year old stretch marks from my pregnancy days and am much older than you. I’ve been married twice, widowed once and now cohabit with my third and final partner. Even with my pandemic weight gain, my partner and partners never ever criticized my appearance. Love don’t act like that. Your bf should start needing the little blue pills any time now, if you don’t respect yourself enough to dump him, please be brutally honest when he can’t get it up.
It sounds like both of you need to start worrying about what you two want and less about what her mother wants. Just be sure you're on the same page before doing anything. It sounds like she needs to be cut off.
Maybe I’m old fashioned but if I’m actually invested in someone I’m going to hold off on having sex with other people if they’ve indicated they wanted to be exclusive and I would also like to be exclusive.
Annnndddd who caries around anything that would take like a crappy 360p vid now days? Reeks of utter BS unless you can see other people you know were there in the video.
You know, you can make her orgasm without your dick right? So why not do the “ladies first” and when she’s all in bliss, then proceed with the rest?
It’s over. You want kids and she doesn’t. You will either stay and resent her forever or break up. Don’t waste your life with someone you will end up regretting
It really depends on why someone doesn't want kids. Just two that could cause one to still want kids but say they aren't ready:
Sometimes, people are concerned that it will change and ruin their current life. It most certainly will. Usually, it results a life that is equally or more fulfilling, but there's a lot of short-term sacrifice built into having kids.
Also, coming from a place of trauma, one might not feel equipped for kids. Physical abuse often repeats generation after generation, so understanding that you're not going to perpetuate the cycle can be an important barrier to overcome when making this choice.
With all that said, once you've talked to your significant other, trust that they're being honest if they say they don't want kids.
Not when the wedding is this close. He has a right to know and decide if he wants to continue with the wedding.
Affection. She wants touch. She wants u to rub her back, kiss her as u leave for work. She wants u to hug her at random. Or so it seems that's the case. Some ppl want gifts, some want physical touches. Ask her what she wants.
Do you mention that she looks puffy unsolicited?
If she felt bloated and mentioned her stomach hurt, then commiserate and ask what you can do. For the love of god, do not look at her in the morning/out of the shower/whatever and ask if she's ill because her stomach is bloated. That's so hurtful, even if it's true.
It's not a lie to not comment on something that you are not asked your input on in the first place.
You can also change your words so that you are not lying, but also not hurtful. ex.
“does my stomach look fat” response: “you look beautiful”
the question “does my stomach look fat” does not require you to answer in a truth that may cause hurt or argument the answer “you look beautiful (to me)” is generally true, addresses insecurity regarding appearance without requiring you to lie about the size of her stomach
a friend, who is wearing a hideous colored shirt: “what do you think of my new shirt?”
you do not have to point out that you hate the color does the shirt have nice stitching? a good cut? is the fabric nice (apart from the color)?
say any of those things instead. you are still being truthful without having to be hurtful at the same time.
Break up with the 21 year old. Leave your ex alone.
I know this will get down votes, but she knows that this relationship is going to be purely sexual. As long as you understand going into it, I say do it. I was once young and being hit on by older women. I think as long as you understand the ramifications, you'll be ok.
Nobody on Reddit has sex anyway.
I can't believe that after all this backlash you still think you're in the right. You've won the award for most delusional poster today, congrats.
At your age, I lost interest over someone I was seeing almost immediately after they said “ew” seeing mine. I am so sorry he is clearly stupid.
I think you think I’m in awe but I wrote that about my coworker to explain why he does not get along with my boyfriends personality. They are just opposites.
We’ll no it’s a little different … i have been invited to fuck a guys wife with him … but that is much more different than being the person “hey i multiple ducks inside of me”
Is that how she currently behaves with sexual activity? So long as y'all sit down and discuss what moral boundaries y'all have and they match up, there shouldn't be an issue. If you honestly can't understand that people can behave certain ways single or if they're hurt/ fucked up for a min but have a total different set of moral guides while committed. Only y'all can know these answers by talking it out. You'll eventually get over it so long as it's not an ongoing issue. If it's affecting the way you're interacting or viewing her, then it's probably best to find someone more prudish because she can't take back things from her past but she can learn and grow from them.
Being a step father for ten years DOES NOT automatically mean he is the FATHER in their lives. That duty might belong to, oh i don’t know, THEIR ACTUAL FATHERS, gasp! There is absolutely NOTHING here to indicate their father isn’t involved, which might be the reason they don’t look at him as a father.
I think he’s suffering from a clear discussion of his role when they got married. He expected something to happen that was never going to happen. Poor guy.
Actually no you don’t. Very few women actually get any pain medication. They just tell you to take ibuprofen. If you’d actually done any fucking research and spoken to women who have had the 80% of abortion you’d know this
Mail him a positive pregnancy test with a note that says: we have to talk
Oh god, not this again.
I believe you have done the right thing in just stopping. I think him arguing and not giving you the information you need is actually him passive-aggressively sabotaging this wedding. I do not think he wants to get married and this is his way of making sure that does not happen.
Why have you let him 'default all the work to you' for all of these years? What would happen if you just stopped that also? Would your relationship ever move forward? Why do you take upon yourself to do all the emotional and physical labor to keep this person? Would he even notice if you stepped away??
How many years are you going to give someone who leaves all the 'work' for you to do?
Cancel the wedding and do the courthouse if you're still foolishly considering marrying this person.
Are either of you aware that this might be a serious health issue of his?
Aside from that – my SO snores, and it's not even bad, but it will make me irrationally angry. Like I have this very lizard-brain urge to kick him or pummel him, in a very comical, silent-movie sense.
Have I mentioned that I have bad insomnia?
I have bad insomnia. And if I go more than two nights without reasonable rest, I become hazardous, to the point of not wanting to drive. So yeah, I pitched a fit at him once about his snoring keeping me up and I felt like I was losing my mind.
Because he loves me, and values my comfort, not to mention my sanity, he went out and got snore strips, which help. We've experimented with different pillows to find one that makes him snore less, but he's a back sleeper. He's quite fit, so weight wasn't causing it.
He also quit smoking, which has mostly eradicated the issue.
Have you talked to him about the snoring?
I’m not sure why this would bother you. Jealousy over his ex getting the money? I just don’t get it. As you said it’s only in her name because the kids are too young.
Hi. Fellow Indian. Yes he's being condescending to you. Don't waste your time.
Report him to police immediately! You might be considered guilty of keeping child porn as well if you don't, because you knew!
Not everyone thinks their wedding is just a day, though. It’s my biggest dream to get married, I would be super upset if my family treated my marriage like it’s just another Tuesday. The goal is to not ever do it again.
Yep America does suck and we are worse off now more than ever, except the depression which we may be heading to shortly after all our banks default
1) no, you did invade her privacy. Ids are exchanged in relationships in the basis of consent. But that's not the main issue here 2) just tell her. Honesty. Directness. 3) well shit like this validates that concern 4) this coupled with your distrust is not grounds for a solid relationship
I stg this company has the most annoying bot shills.
Why would OP need to be “non-confrontational”? She lied to him about something she knew would probably be a deal-breaker; sounds like a perfect time for a confrontation.