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little-jessica-p chat
Date: November 8, 2022
AmateurPub
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little-jessica-p chat
it definitely has SOME, and she says that she struggles with jealousy. This is okay if it really seems like a problem, but he shows her the messages to assure her usually. She did sabotage, and go over the edge. Did she deserve to get broken up with? Maybe, we haven’t heard of everything. But does that make your statement automatically correct? Certainly not at all.
Generally good points. I would just maybe say be very careful with advising someone to get therapy. I am a therapist. I believe in therapy and that a lot of people can use it. But it doesn’t feel great to be told by someone they think you should go to therapy.
Keep hanging out with her. Tell her the truth, that your parents are super critical of her based off of bias speculation from all the other adults, but that you don't want that to get in the way of your friendship. Tell her that you hope the way your parents feel about her doesn't push her away, that you genuinely feel this friendship is meaningful and important to you.
Talk to your parent again. Sit them down and tell them to please listen to you completely before responding. Ask them if you've ever done anything truly wrong. Ask them to look back at your whole life and how they raised you, do they really believe you'd do something stupid? Tell them you understand what it looks like, but they need to trust your judgment. Don't emphasize any aspect about your friend or try to justify her actions, instead focus on you and your behavior. Talk about how it's impossible to truly know a person just by gathering secondhand information, and that it's not fair of them to impose their half-assessed impression of her onto you.
“She is kind to me. She has protected me when I could not. I like her and I trust her to not put me in bad situations. She is tough and abrasive, but that doesn't make her a bad person. I know enough to understand what is right and what is wrong. While I am not confident enough to stand up against bullies, I am competent in understanding the good and bad intentions of others. Please trust that I am capable of making good friends. After all, it was you who instilled good morals and judgment into me.”
Good luck op! Don't ever give up on your friends.
All of them. Watch out in 2024, it's gonna be so shitty.
Yeah, agreed. I personally feel like being drunk shouldn't excuse anything, but that's kinda easy for me to say since I don't drink. I don't believe in entitlement to opinions. I think a person shouldn't expect their words to carry any weight when they can't possibly understand the topic.
I hate when people who have never been in a situation themselves think it's so simple and that they've got it all figured out, so I'm not gonna be one of them.
The most reasonable policy I can think of is that if there is to be any leniency based on that, it should be agreed on by the couple. If I loved drinking too much to stop even though I tended to do dumb things during it, I would need a partner who knows what that's like. Even if I personally think it's weird, as long as both partners are playing by the same rules, at least it's fair.
I forgot to mention that she said “you can’t fully sexually satisfy me and I have been faking it”
She told me that she doesn’t think she can be happy in a marriage with me if I don’t give her head specifically and do all this other BDSM stuff to her. I have had a few very bad experiences with giving head and not sure I feel comfortable doing all the BDSM stuff.
Sounds like you and she are sexually incompatible and should break up
If the situation with your boss has been handled and he is no longer bugging you, then all has been resolved. Just make it clear to your boss that you want nothing to do with him from the standpoint of a relationship. If your boss is still making passes at you, then find another job, resign and leave. Keep copies of his attempts to come on with you and report him to government agencies that deal with such issues, better yet, since he is a big fish in the industry, sit down with a reporter and show person his correspondence.
Your bf is a different matter. He is not trusting you, without having a reason not to. You need to determine whether staying in that relationship is the right choice for you. If not, prepare financially to move out on your own.