I think the real question is whether this relationship is working for you or not. It sounds like it isn’t and your boyfriend is unwilling to meet your needs. You can either keep accepting what he is willing to give or decide you deserve better and leave.
Don’t compete. If you get into a contest on who has a right to complain, you’ll both just be miserable.
I’m assuming it’s the same complaint, pessimism, and struggle being presented to you over and over… sometimes people vocalize their problems as a way of coping.
That’s not a bad thing to do by itself, but if it’s excessive and focused entirely on one person, you can exhaust them and wear out your friendship.
Let her know it’s wearing on you. When it does come up, because that won’t stop it, give her a moment to spit some out and then try to reframe it into something constructive or suggest a different coping mechanism … how much time has already passed, the value of experience, potential solutions she can do herself, anything to break out of the rut she’s running you over in.
WTH are u hiding her passport and meds. That shit isn’t urs and u shouldn’t be touching it. YTA
I think the real question is whether this relationship is working for you or not. It sounds like it isn’t and your boyfriend is unwilling to meet your needs. You can either keep accepting what he is willing to give or decide you deserve better and leave.
If you cared at all this wouldn't even be a discussion.
Tying up loose ends.
Don’t compete. If you get into a contest on who has a right to complain, you’ll both just be miserable.
I’m assuming it’s the same complaint, pessimism, and struggle being presented to you over and over… sometimes people vocalize their problems as a way of coping.
That’s not a bad thing to do by itself, but if it’s excessive and focused entirely on one person, you can exhaust them and wear out your friendship.
Let her know it’s wearing on you. When it does come up, because that won’t stop it, give her a moment to spit some out and then try to reframe it into something constructive or suggest a different coping mechanism … how much time has already passed, the value of experience, potential solutions she can do herself, anything to break out of the rut she’s running you over in.