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LisaSantana Public Chat Channel
Date: November 14, 2022
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Did she start birth control during your relationship, especially pills ? They messed up my mental state pretty hard back then and I was depressed all the time, my 2nd love language is physical touch but after starting birth control I HATED it, it would give me a very uncomfortable feeling along my spine.
I’m the same way unfortunately. It might just be the way your body is, for me im still trying to figure it out with a partner but its no problem at home alone. Maybe try to practice more different things when you’re alone and if u find something that works try it together
Reach out and give him a choice.
Tell him you decided to end it because you receive a letter from his mom. If he would like the letter you are happy to send it to him. Let him know you’re not looking to get back together but wanted him to know how his future relationships may be impacted.
no pictures on social media. let's be honest social media is fake bullshit. A lot of people used it as a narcissistic machine with a curated view of someone's “picture perfect” life.
Kick her ass out. The audacity! She is cheating on you. Dude she is EXPIRED! BTW have a DNA test on your little girl. She might not be yours.
Reason 3 isn't something I'd add considering she only wants to go a day early to beat the storm and if it was to your parents house instead you still wouldn't want to.
I think you two may have different ideas about job versus family obligations. I agree with the others you should let her come up alone, and also see if you can get someone to cover the shift for a few hours and you'll give them a bonus or something. Maybe someone doesn't actually have plans.
YOU are a huge red flag.
This happened to me when I agreed to be in an open relationship and didn't actually want it. My primary relationship fizzled and I'm now engaged to the person I met and became close with. Open relationships are difficult because you really need to establish boundaries and comfort levels right from the beginning and continue to communicate. When done right it can absolutely strengthen a relationship but I'm sorry to say this doesn't sound like the case. Talk to your husband openly and see where you are both at. It's time to have a serious conversation.
It's more complex than that, really.
Just like an asexual person doesn't actually asexually reproduce, and may consent to sexual experiences but lacks an interest or motivation to pursue sexual relationships…an aromantic person as well may consent to be in a mutually acceptable relationship where they perform romantic gestures and accept them as well…but lack any inner desire or inclination to these things.
Like it feels good regardless, and you can reciprocate that feeling good, but the emotional “romantic love” aspect is just not really the motivation.
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Better to approach that kind of stuff in a neutral setting, not right after. At least that's my thought.
Please consider hiring a maid to come in once a week and hire someone to help do meal prep for the week to make it easier on you and the kids while she follows up on medical stuff.
Honestly never thought of it as a projection of his insecurities – thank you for the insight
That's the thing you're failing to understand. He's blowing up her phone and that's controlling which is abuse. They say that they're worried under the guise of controlling their partner. I had an ex that did this to me all the time. I couldn't even go to the grocery store without him blowing up my phone wanting to know where I was.
This was even after I told him I was going to the store. One time, I told him I was going to spend the night at a friend's house and he said it was fine. I woke up to 13 different voicemails, each one getting progressively angrier. That's not normal. It's abuse.
You need to get out of the relationship ASAP. Even if that means breaking your lease. Your girlfriend is unwell mentally if this is how she’s reacting to her dog killing a kitten.
It’s time to move on from this guy and date someone your own age. Dating should be about finding out if you are compatible. You 2 are not. If someone wants you to change your personality so they will be more comfortable LEAVE.
Your girlfriend is out of her mind. She's an immature, awful person. Who would do something like this, and even worse, provide some weird vague explanation as if you're supposed to read the tea leaves to figure out why she is acting like a psycho?
Leave, OP. This is deranged behavior. Lace up your running shoes and DIP.
Well, what can I say? Tis roomy down there. Glad to amuse you though?
Yeah, probably not the right term, but the best I could think of. Lol
He decided to have sex with her just like all the other times they had sex. He’s allowed to have sex with her per their arrangement. They’ve both slept with other people while in their FWB situation, so it’s not like this isn’t something new. The only difference now is that he might have romantic feelings for the other person. He might have done it to be deceitful. But idk, he told her when he didn’t have to. To me, it makes me think he just forgot their agreement and mentioned it because it dawned on him and didn’t want to break their rule. OP has already said he’s a great guy, so that makes me stand by him not doing it on purpose. He might have a different definition of “getting serious” than OP does.
Sure OP can be upset he forgot to let her know, but that’s it. OP can’t be upset for the other girl, she doesn’t know their story.
Yes, yes they are in the same universe. He is blowing it out of proportion. The issue here is both of them are way to stressed. They should be focused on finding a healthy outlet to blow off steam, not being over dramatic and pointing fingers at each other more.
Ya like she has so much potential good job money, nice house. The issue for me was she’s working out of town 55% of the year… so me moving into her place wasn’t even going to create that much more opportunities to see each other tbh. Like you say, when too good to be true so fast it’ likely is…. Just sucks because I thought she was the real deal
You feeling hurt and betrayed is valid but imagine how SHE feels, she went through an extremely traumatic experience and for some reason didn’t feel she could tell you. You need to be more empathetic with her and try to understand why, not to confront her about it
You went to his hotel to talk? Lol sure….
You cheated, that's the worst kind of betrayal a spouse can do, so of course he doesn't see a future with. Why? Because you have proven to be distrustful and to invision a future with someone you need to trust them.
Trust is broken so easily and yet so hot to repair.
He is right you don't understand how he feels and you probably never will unless you experience something similar,
He is truly an idiot though for giving you another chance.
what should I do?
Stop staying at a house that’s uncomfortable for you. Tell him you won’t move in unless he’s willing to compromise on climate control.
You need individual therapy, couples therapy doesn't usually work with abusers.
I'm so sorry, I hope you are able to figure out a custody agreement that lets you get the right interventions for your daughters.