Marriage is a lot of responsibility. People who don’t want to get married shouldn’t get married and should be upfront with partners about that. People shouldn’t marry because ‘society says you should’. People shouldn’t settle, or marry someone with red flags because they ‘should get married by 30.’ People certainly shouldn’t marry because they want a bangmaid or a sugar daddy.
Pros (in the USA). Tax breaks. Absent other legal paperwork, you become each other’s next of kin. This gives you the right to inherent their estate, make medical decisions, visit them in the hospital, get certain social security or pension benefits.
The legal system essentially sees your marriage as a financial partnership. If you ever divorce, the courts govern over how it is dissolved. If it becomes contentious, the court can step in to protect minor children (custody and child support) and divide assets ‘fairly.’ This is theoretically formulaic, which cuts down on the ‘I hate you now, so I will keep you from your kids or take all our joint money.’
Emotionally it is meaningful for some people and demonstrates a level of commitment. Obviously, it’s not emotional for some people and some people get married with no intention of honoring their vows.
Socially, it can give you a certain social status. This isn’t necessarily fair, but you are asking me about what is, not what I think should be. Marriage can be seen as a success. Married people can be seen as more mature and stable than single people. It can also give the relationship a certain social status that other relationships don’t have. Again, I don’t agree with all this – I know some really immature married people and very committed people who never married.
Does your girlfriend know you talk about your shared sex life with your female friend? If not then that was your first mistake.
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Marriage is a lot of responsibility. People who don’t want to get married shouldn’t get married and should be upfront with partners about that. People shouldn’t marry because ‘society says you should’. People shouldn’t settle, or marry someone with red flags because they ‘should get married by 30.’ People certainly shouldn’t marry because they want a bangmaid or a sugar daddy.
Pros (in the USA). Tax breaks. Absent other legal paperwork, you become each other’s next of kin. This gives you the right to inherent their estate, make medical decisions, visit them in the hospital, get certain social security or pension benefits.
The legal system essentially sees your marriage as a financial partnership. If you ever divorce, the courts govern over how it is dissolved. If it becomes contentious, the court can step in to protect minor children (custody and child support) and divide assets ‘fairly.’ This is theoretically formulaic, which cuts down on the ‘I hate you now, so I will keep you from your kids or take all our joint money.’
Emotionally it is meaningful for some people and demonstrates a level of commitment. Obviously, it’s not emotional for some people and some people get married with no intention of honoring their vows.
Socially, it can give you a certain social status. This isn’t necessarily fair, but you are asking me about what is, not what I think should be. Marriage can be seen as a success. Married people can be seen as more mature and stable than single people. It can also give the relationship a certain social status that other relationships don’t have. Again, I don’t agree with all this – I know some really immature married people and very committed people who never married.